Comments on: ALONE

By: Tabitha

Tabitha — Wed, 31 Aug 2011 12:38:01 +0000

This testimony brought me to tears. Thank you for sharing this sobering account of the end of a marriage where a woman refuses to submit to her husband and accept him no matter what. I will take heed to what you have shared. God bless you for it! Don’t be discouraged. You are helping other ladies with your words.

By: Miss Jasmine

Miss Jasmine — Mon, 30 May 2011 18:57:39 +0000

Now don’t get me wrong, I wholeheartedly agree with most everything the pearls support, but I do believe that God is merciful beyond understanding. He is merciful to give you wisdom to see your sin in the dissolvment of your marriage, merciful to provide you an avenue to minister to others through your trials, and merciful to bless you with abundant goodness in spite of yourself. God has blessed me in so many areas that I know I didn’t deserve. Just a thought, maybe the middle of nowhere in “God’s country” isn’t the place to be living as a divorced, older woman. I live in New York near the Hudson River. (not in NYC) this truly is a wonderful place to live. It’s farm country married with mountains – hippies baked with hoodlums. There is so much to see and do and experience if you wanted to. There are mountain ranges littered with trails and lakes. There are riverside resturaunts and ferry rides. There are museums and parls of all kinds. There are wool festivals, craft festivals and Medieval festivals. NYC is only a short drive away. I believe “The Screwtape Letters” is currently on Broadway. … You get my drift? You don’t have to sit home alone and spend your days in regret of that which has already been cleansed. Your life is now free and clear. You have no strings attached to your past failures and your opportunities are endless. Get online, apply for a job in a new and exciting place. Meet new people. Go to college. Start a business. Right now you can buy a house in S. Carolina for $12,000 – literally. So what are you waiting for? What is holding you back? The pearls have a lovely setup out there, but it’s not the recipe for enjoying life. Good luck luv.

By: MamaBug

MamaBug — Sun, 01 May 2011 23:51:03 +0000

Thanks, just what I needed to hear and I am sure as the Lord would have it at just the right time.

By: Dr.Edward Masih

Dr.Edward Masih — Tue, 12 Apr 2011 05:46:46 +0000

its really gdd to to read the story. i believe its big encourgemnt for all the wives, are on the same boat. they can stand against the devil and fight against him in Jesus name. voctory belongs to us. kep the god work high . may GOd bless you.

By: Candy

Candy — Sun, 10 Apr 2011 03:40:16 +0000

This is my favorite article to read in Created to be His Help Meet. This woman’s pain has been used by God to do so much good. Thank you for including it. I do what you suggest as much as I can. I go back and replace every “when” with “I will”… And I want to do that. I am Paul lately and have been needing to rely on God to help me do what I want to do because I can’t seem to follow it.

By: Jennifer

Jennifer — Wed, 30 Mar 2011 14:41:18 +0000

I love reading this. Not because I enjoy or wish to linger in the misery but because it is a constant reminder of all that is real and true about living. What we see around us as women is an absolute lie. Eve was the first deceived feminist and the poison has spread through the decades, the centuries. I too went for many years even in church…not saved. Even watched my first marriage destroyed by a hardened heart. I ran, I avoided truth. I remarried, Jesus saved me some time later….yet still I clung to self-righteousness and wanted to bash my husband with my indignation. Poor man, but grace be found among our hearts that Jesus revealed truth to my hardened & parched heart. I am thankful I still have my husband even though many times he wanted to drop me and run because of my own disobedience to the gospel. Thank you, thank you for this poignant truth spoken letter. I pray earnestly for the eyes of young women to be opened & their hearts to soften to God’s sovereign truth. I am but just in my late 30′s and see the poison of feminism that almost destroyed all that I ever dreamed of having. Oh God have mercy on me for my past hardness of heart.

By: Sarah

Sarah — Sun, 16 Jan 2011 00:58:12 +0000

Thank you for your article it’s encouraging. You are not alone God is with you – He’ll be your spouse. I know first hand as I left my husband of 11yrs and after a yr of being away God changed my heart. I was looking for something better, felt I deserved better. God finally got my attention when my husband told me he was tired of waiting on me and didn’t love me anymore. I couldn’t look myself in the mirror and God had me on the floor sobbing with not a life verse but rather a life chapter – Isaiah 12. God gave me the same realization that he gave you. My husband has moved on, filed for divorce (in that order), says he hates me yet keeps close tabs on me. While we are still married (the divorce is not final) I have been saved, learning and teaching my daughters about forgiveness, letting go of bitterness, and how to be a godly wife. I’m looking forward to reading the Help Meet book. While I wish I had been told all of this sooner while we were struggling, I am grateful that God has seen fit for me to be on this journey and to stand in the gap for my husband and marriage. I know God tried several times to get my attention and glad that He didn’t give up on me. I’m not sure when but I believe God has promised to restore my marriage, I’m here with this wedding ring on till I die. I’m excited for the day when my husband can read training up a child and we can teach our children together. This world encourages us to fail and give up on what God has called us to do, while I’m ‘almost’ 40 I believe I went through this to be able to hold Bible studies and teach younger wives and young ladies who are so wrapped up in things of this world and are blinded that love is a choice. We are to love our husbands when we feel they are unlovable not because we want to, not because they deserve it, but out of obedience to God. Thank you again for this article, now I know for sure I am not alone )

By: janine

janine — Sun, 26 Sep 2010 05:38:24 +0000

You are better off without him, honey!

You’d probably have been plenty lonely if he stayed with you.

At least you have a daughter, friends, and church. You are rich!

No need to count the hours till bedtime. There are so many things to do in life! Read, watch TV, rent a movie, etc.

By: Lynn

Lynn — Wed, 30 Jun 2010 22:44:55 +0000

I was married 22 years, was born again in 1989, home educated my children for 10 years, trained them in the Word of God trying to live that Word daily.

This article saddens me. It was sent to me by a woman who is urging me to reconcile with my husband. I am sad for the writer, that the actions of her husband brought her such hardship and the heartless way her treated her. She painted such a bleak picture of life alone with out her husband. That is not the picture I see in my life and by women in my life who have been treated the same terrible way by their husbands. We cannot control ones actions, we are not accountable for them. Life goes on and there is joy and peace beyond a marriage where a man twists the Word of God to control his wife.

God’s Word is true, we all fall short. To take for granted that a husband will not leave you is a mistake. I would never suggest divorce to anyone, but I can now understand what brings a person to this point.

By: Tamra Sawyer

Tamra Sawyer — Fri, 25 Jun 2010 22:48:34 +0000

Hi,
Thanks for sharing. I’m 39 years old and have not been married yet. I’ve read the book about being a help meet and have ordered the new one and hope that by reading them and reading your comment that maybe if God sends me someone, that I can learn from all of you and be what God wants me to be.

Good luck and stay true to God’s Word. God never fails us no matter what we do. God’s love is always true.