Comments on: Cloistered Homeschool Syndrome http://nogreaterjoy.org/articles/cloistered-homeschool-syndrome/ Over 500 articles from Michael and Debi Pearl on Child Training, Homeschooling, Family, Marriage, Christianity, the Bible, Missions, Simple Living, Gardening, and other topics! Wed, 16 May 2012 15:26:36 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.1 By: Darla Easterbrook http://nogreaterjoy.org/articles/cloistered-homeschool-syndrome/#comment-2289 Darla Easterbrook Wed, 09 Feb 2011 16:15:42 +0000 http://new.nogreaterjoy.org/?p=1875#comment-2289 Thank you so very much for your stand on these difficult and often confusing situations!! I am 23 years old and I was homeschooled.... and everything you have said is true. The longer I stayed at home, the more difficult it was to become an adult. God help us... this isn't what God had in mine when he created the family! Thank you so very much for your stand on these difficult and often confusing situations!! I am 23 years old and I was homeschooled…. and everything you have said is true. The longer I stayed at home, the more difficult it was to become an adult. God help us… this isn’t what God had in mine when he created the family!

]]> By: Rasa http://nogreaterjoy.org/articles/cloistered-homeschool-syndrome/#comment-2288 Rasa Mon, 31 Jan 2011 21:09:56 +0000 http://new.nogreaterjoy.org/?p=1875#comment-2288 My husband and I just talked about this topic recently because someone brought up a study that shows that adolescents do best when leaving the home if there is a big clash with their parents first (this was brought up to me when someone found out I was homeschooling). I thought, "hrmm... there must be some reason for this beyond what this study concluded." Well, after discussion with my husband, we found that it is not the big clash that helps, but the fact that the particular child came to the conclusion that they need to make adult decisions for themselves. We decided after those discussions that by early to mid teen years our children should have the ability (through training) to be responsible persons who are fully able to make decisions (including that they are comfortable seeking counsel). I don't think that the "clash" is necessary if parents train their children to make wise decisions from youth and step back at the appropriate time. This article is particularly encouraging in that it has been done, it does work, and God is always faithful! "Train a child in the way he should go and when he is older he will not depart from it"! Praise the Lord that we have promises like this to rest in. My husband and I just talked about this topic recently because someone brought up a study that shows that adolescents do best when leaving the home if there is a big clash with their parents first (this was brought up to me when someone found out I was homeschooling). I thought, “hrmm… there must be some reason for this beyond what this study concluded.” Well, after discussion with my husband, we found that it is not the big clash that helps, but the fact that the particular child came to the conclusion that they need to make adult decisions for themselves. We decided after those discussions that by early to mid teen years our children should have the ability (through training) to be responsible persons who are fully able to make decisions (including that they are comfortable seeking counsel). I don’t think that the “clash” is necessary if parents train their children to make wise decisions from youth and step back at the appropriate time.

This article is particularly encouraging in that it has been done, it does work, and God is always faithful! “Train a child in the way he should go and when he is older he will not depart from it”! Praise the Lord that we have promises like this to rest in.

]]> By: Amelia Trapp http://nogreaterjoy.org/articles/cloistered-homeschool-syndrome/#comment-2287 Amelia Trapp Thu, 23 Dec 2010 20:38:58 +0000 http://new.nogreaterjoy.org/?p=1875#comment-2287 liOh, thank you, thank you!!! You have described my father to a "T"!! I "ran away" from home 3 months ago, basically because my father didn't see me as the 18 year old adult that I was. He prayed that I would get cancer in order to "turn from my sin and return to his 'headship' ". His new philosophy is that college is not biblical and he is planning on my younger sisters remaining home and being tutored by him. He also wants to start his own church, in order to protect his family from the devil in the local church. HELP!! liOh, thank you, thank you!!! You have described my father to a “T”!! I “ran away” from home 3 months ago, basically because my father didn’t see me as the 18 year old adult that I was. He prayed that I would get cancer in order to “turn from my sin and return to his ‘headship’ “. His new philosophy is that college is not biblical and he is planning on my younger sisters remaining home and being tutored by him. He also wants to start his own church, in order to protect his family from the devil in the local church. HELP!!

]]> By: Anonymous http://nogreaterjoy.org/articles/cloistered-homeschool-syndrome/#comment-2286 Anonymous Wed, 22 Sep 2010 00:02:22 +0000 http://new.nogreaterjoy.org/?p=1875#comment-2286 You have described my brother's family to a "t". I am saddened by how his children seem so robotic, unable to think or choose for themselves, never being able to choose what to do in their adult lives, escpecially the daughters....all they are allowed to aspire to is being wives and mothers, no careers for them. My brother actually forbade his wife and children from voting in the last presidential election (I assume because a woman was on the ballot). His wife and children should be free to make decisions on their own. It is so sad to think of the potential being wasted. You have described my brother’s family to a “t”.
I am saddened by how his children seem so robotic, unable to think or choose for themselves, never being able to choose what to do in their adult lives, escpecially the daughters….all they are allowed to aspire to is being wives and mothers, no careers for them. My brother actually forbade his wife and children from voting in the last presidential election (I assume because a woman was on the ballot). His wife and children should be free to make decisions on their own. It is so sad to think of the potential being wasted.

]]> By: spiralsandturns http://nogreaterjoy.org/articles/cloistered-homeschool-syndrome/#comment-2285 spiralsandturns Wed, 09 Jun 2010 22:57:22 +0000 http://new.nogreaterjoy.org/?p=1875#comment-2285 thanks guys. I am considering homeschooling for my kids in the future (when I have them!) and I think that your advise about the dangers as well as the joys of homeschooling is very wise. May God continue to bless you. thanks guys. I am considering homeschooling for my kids in the future (when I have them!) and I think that your advise about the dangers as well as the joys of homeschooling is very wise. May God continue to bless you.

]]> By: Ben Bradley http://nogreaterjoy.org/articles/cloistered-homeschool-syndrome/#comment-2284 Ben Bradley Sun, 28 Mar 2010 17:25:35 +0000 http://new.nogreaterjoy.org/?p=1875#comment-2284 It is good to see someone highly respected in the homeschool community saying this. Ever since I left the ATI ministry I have been saying this cloistered homeschool patriarchy movement is wrong and against God's will and that a lifestyle of don'ts is hurting our walk. Thanks for saying that we do need to live for God and DO. Thanks It is good to see someone highly respected in the homeschool community saying this. Ever since I left the ATI ministry I have been saying this cloistered homeschool patriarchy movement is wrong and against God’s will and that a lifestyle of don’ts is hurting our walk. Thanks for saying that we do need to live for God and DO.
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]]> By: Gayle http://nogreaterjoy.org/articles/cloistered-homeschool-syndrome/#comment-2283 Gayle Fri, 12 Mar 2010 18:40:57 +0000 http://new.nogreaterjoy.org/?p=1875#comment-2283 Well said. I have also observed this odd branch of homeschooling with growing concern. I am 31 and my husband 33 and we were both homeschooled all twelve years, something we are grateful to our parents for doing. We are surprised at the level of control we see parents exerting over their children. Both of our parents (mainly my dad and his mom) struggled some with letting go but it was mostly understood as being emotional and not justified using the Bible. Perhaps our parents didn't become entrapped in the Patriarchal movement because they were balanced out by their spouses. Thank you for standing out and saying what needs to be said to your readers. Oh and to any parents feeling clingy realize if you let your children go out and be free they will marry and bring you home grand-babies that are ever so much fun.:) Well said. I have also observed this odd branch of homeschooling with growing concern. I am 31 and my husband 33 and we were both homeschooled all twelve years, something we are grateful to our parents for doing. We are surprised at the level of control we see parents exerting over their children. Both of our parents (mainly my dad and his mom) struggled some with letting go but it was mostly understood as being emotional and not justified using the Bible. Perhaps our parents didn’t become entrapped in the Patriarchal movement because they were balanced out by their spouses. Thank you for standing out and saying what needs to be said to your readers. Oh and to any parents feeling clingy realize if you let your children go out and be free they will marry and bring you home grand-babies that are ever so much fun.:)

]]> By: XATI Girl http://nogreaterjoy.org/articles/cloistered-homeschool-syndrome/#comment-2282 XATI Girl Sat, 09 Jan 2010 14:42:41 +0000 http://new.nogreaterjoy.org/?p=1875#comment-2282 Thank you for writing this. I can't even explain how it resonated with me. Thank you, thank you, thank you. Thank you for writing this. I can’t even explain how it resonated with me. Thank you, thank you, thank you.

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