Comments on: Emotional Manipulators http://nogreaterjoy.org/articles/emotional-manipulators/ Over 500 articles from Michael and Debi Pearl on Child Training, Homeschooling, Family, Marriage, Christianity, the Bible, Missions, Simple Living, Gardening, and other topics! Wed, 16 May 2012 15:26:36 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.1 By: Britney McGinnis http://nogreaterjoy.org/articles/emotional-manipulators/#comment-10787 Britney McGinnis Fri, 11 May 2012 04:05:20 +0000 http://new.nogreaterjoy.org/?p=1121#comment-10787 <p>ACV is extremely good for you, make some apple sauce and add a tsp per cup- feed it to your family! It's awesome!</p> <p>Left alone even without garlic it has a bitter taste that does not go away until you eat something else! It works very well on children. Michael was not saying bc lazy- look into his teachings and advice. This man is NOT lazy when it comes to parenting! I am always rereading things bc I am lazy, and I find myself trying to reason with a 3 year old...</p> <p>I use the ACV as a teaching tool for consistent disobedience. I have only ever had to use it 2-3 times. EVER. It's not hurtful to the child. It teaches them to avoid repeating unacceptable behaviors.</p> <p>Go ahead and cater to your children, you will regret it later. Michael Pearl may say things that rub you the wrong way, or convict you (causing you to feel defensive). But he has raised some amazing kids, his advice WORKS! and I have so much respect for him.</p> ACV is extremely good for you, make some apple sauce and add a tsp per cup- feed it to your family! It's awesome!

Left alone even without garlic it has a bitter taste that does not go away until you eat something else! It works very well on children. Michael was not saying bc lazy- look into his teachings and advice. This man is NOT lazy when it comes to parenting! I am always rereading things bc I am lazy, and I find myself trying to reason with a 3 year old…

I use the ACV as a teaching tool for consistent disobedience. I have only ever had to use it 2-3 times. EVER. It's not hurtful to the child. It teaches them to avoid repeating unacceptable behaviors.

Go ahead and cater to your children, you will regret it later. Michael Pearl may say things that rub you the wrong way, or convict you (causing you to feel defensive). But he has raised some amazing kids, his advice WORKS! and I have so much respect for him.

]]> By: Caitlin http://nogreaterjoy.org/articles/emotional-manipulators/#comment-2050 Caitlin Tue, 08 Nov 2011 06:45:08 +0000 http://new.nogreaterjoy.org/?p=1121#comment-2050 Perhaps in this situation if mom assessed the situation and actually addressed the real problem here, which is that the little girl felt left out, or wasn't used to playing with others, or whatever else - and talked to the child about it, she wouldn't need to force foul potions down her throat in a lazy attempt to avoid actually teaching the child anything useful. Children learn to resolve conflict, both internal and external, by using their intelligence.That is, if they are taught to do so. And if they are too tired or upset to listen, then maybe it's time for a nap. I agree that children can be taught to be emotional manipulaters. But if your only recourse against being manipulated is to deceive the child into behaving in the way you see fit, then perhaps you should reassess why you had children in the first place. Perhaps in this situation if mom assessed the situation and actually addressed the real problem here, which is that the little girl felt left out, or wasn’t used to playing with others, or whatever else – and talked to the child about it, she wouldn’t need to force foul potions down her throat in a lazy attempt to avoid actually teaching the child anything useful. Children learn to resolve conflict, both internal and external, by using their intelligence.That is, if they are taught to do so. And if they are too tired or upset to listen, then maybe it’s time for a nap. I agree that children can be taught to be emotional manipulaters. But if your only recourse against being manipulated is to deceive the child into behaving in the way you see fit, then perhaps you should reassess why you had children in the first place.

]]> By: bobbi http://nogreaterjoy.org/articles/emotional-manipulators/#comment-2049 bobbi Sun, 10 Apr 2011 20:02:18 +0000 http://new.nogreaterjoy.org/?p=1121#comment-2049 Comforting the cries of a child does not make him or her an emotional manipulator. and for Mr Pearl to suggest this mother hates her child and has made her into a manipulator is repulsive. why not just smack the child and get over it? No, please, give comfort and care to a small child, even if it's an emotional pain and not a physical pain. Jesus would not flip a hand at a child and tell her to go away, would He? Comforting the cries of a child does not make him or her an emotional manipulator. and for Mr Pearl to suggest this mother hates her child and has made her into a manipulator is repulsive. why not just smack the child and get over it? No, please, give comfort and care to a small child, even if it’s an emotional pain and not a physical pain. Jesus would not flip a hand at a child and tell her to go away, would He?

]]> By: Sabrina http://nogreaterjoy.org/articles/emotional-manipulators/#comment-2048 Sabrina Tue, 08 Feb 2011 02:09:45 +0000 http://new.nogreaterjoy.org/?p=1121#comment-2048 LOL...you guys are AMAZING! I would have never thought of such an awesome remedy to drama queening! Now if I can figure out how to apply that to a child who is a little older with more subtle tantrums... :) Actually the last time my daughter tried to manipulate me with pouting, we had a very logical discussion about her feelings and I tried to show her how to control her feelings by reasoning with herself, and she really hasn't pulled another stunt like that again. LOVE your article and your ingenuity! LOL…you guys are AMAZING! I would have never thought of such an awesome remedy to drama queening! Now if I can figure out how to apply that to a child who is a little older with more subtle tantrums… :) Actually the last time my daughter tried to manipulate me with pouting, we had a very logical discussion about her feelings and I tried to show her how to control her feelings by reasoning with herself, and she really hasn’t pulled another stunt like that again. LOVE your article and your ingenuity!

]]> By: Katherine http://nogreaterjoy.org/articles/emotional-manipulators/#comment-2047 Katherine Thu, 30 Sep 2010 04:30:48 +0000 http://new.nogreaterjoy.org/?p=1121#comment-2047 Oh, dear. BMW Princess and others like her, please listen to Pastor Pearl. Note that Princess says, "hurt or UPSET." If you respond with attention and sympathy every time a child is upset, you are training them to be upset. You are indeed teaching them to be emotional manipulators. No, they don't have it defined so clearly in their minds at first. They only note what makes you respond the way they want and give them what they want. But it doesn't take long for it to become a life-long career. Please don't burden your little ones (and their future loved ones) for life. Assess the situation and instruct them to act accordingly. Sometimes "You're fine. Stop crying and go play," is the kindest, most caring response you can give your child. Oh, dear. BMW Princess and others like her, please listen to Pastor Pearl. Note that Princess says, “hurt or UPSET.” If you respond with attention and sympathy every time a child is upset, you are training them to be upset. You are indeed teaching them to be emotional manipulators. No, they don’t have it defined so clearly in their minds at first. They only note what makes you respond the way they want and give them what they want. But it doesn’t take long for it to become a life-long career. Please don’t burden your little ones (and their future loved ones) for life. Assess the situation and instruct them to act accordingly. Sometimes “You’re fine. Stop crying and go play,” is the kindest, most caring response you can give your child.

]]> By: Pamela http://nogreaterjoy.org/articles/emotional-manipulators/#comment-2046 Pamela Tue, 23 Feb 2010 13:07:19 +0000 http://new.nogreaterjoy.org/?p=1121#comment-2046 Thank you for this article! I'm a mother of a drama queen, who gets upset over everything. I'll definitely be keeping some medicine in my purse! Thank you for this article! I’m a mother of a drama queen, who gets upset over everything. I’ll definitely be keeping some medicine in my purse!

]]> By: Chuck Byrd http://nogreaterjoy.org/articles/emotional-manipulators/#comment-2045 Chuck Byrd Thu, 07 Jan 2010 14:32:10 +0000 http://new.nogreaterjoy.org/?p=1121#comment-2045 This article was not saying to not comfort a truely hurt child, rather to not comfort one who was throwing a tantrum. That turns kids into little selfish tyrants when you give them what they want everytime they ask for it. This article was not saying to not comfort a truely hurt child, rather to not comfort one who was throwing a tantrum.
That turns kids into little selfish tyrants when you give them what they want everytime they ask for it.

]]> By: BMW Pincess http://nogreaterjoy.org/articles/emotional-manipulators/#comment-2044 BMW Pincess Sat, 19 Dec 2009 12:02:41 +0000 http://new.nogreaterjoy.org/?p=1121#comment-2044 A child needs her mother. Crying when hurt or upset is NOT emotional manipulation. She will not become a hypochondriac because she is nutured. A child needs her mother. Crying when hurt or upset is NOT emotional manipulation. She will not become a hypochondriac because she is nutured.

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