Every one is so scared to try new ways that are old and tried for hundreds of years. If the problems keep going on something does have to change. Our chiropractor had the book “To Train Up A Child.” At first I thought, “No way,” but as I read more it made a whole lot of sense. In my view of kids, when they don’t have any correction they grow up to be bossy, demanding and bratty. I’m not perfect and do need to change what I do also, there’s always room to improve.

We’re a God-loving family and do believe that this book has a wonderful outcome for people who want to improve their lives in raising children. I do see how our therapists and how the worldly view of raising children is not going anywhere; it’s an epidemic that our children are running around in control and depressed because we serve them and spoil them.

We have had three therapists and I don’t think they’re cutting it. I’ve been divorced for almost four years now and there was abuse done to the kids and child protection was involved and there is behavior that stems from this and the divorce.

We did think about it spot (time-out) and talked on what happened and what we can do instead, all of it and no improvements – done that – doesn’t work. So we’re going to start over and really change how we are as adults and parents.

Michael Pearl and family, thank you for this wonderful book and the insight it has.

God bless you all
Kristan

I have noticed that a lot of people wait until their kids talk to start using manners, and likewise a lot of people don’t use manners, but expect their kids to. Do you say to your spouse things without manners, or shout commands at your kids? If so, your kids will not do any differently. When I ask my child to do something I say “Please,” “Thank you,” “You’re welcome,” and now he just says, “Please,” “Thank you,” and “You’re welcome” for things without thinking; It’s second nature. When all a child hears is manners, it is easier for them to speak that language of kindness and manners more naturally.

Another way to approach this situation is to address it quickly, telling the child what will work. For example, “Johny, that’s whining. Whining doesn’t work with me – or it won’t get you what you want. What does work is asking in a regular tone of voice.” Isn’t that the point – teaching the child appropriate behavior?

This option allows for quick self-correction from the child, by choice.