Comments on: Handling Sibling Aggression

By: Vanessa

Vanessa — Tue, 21 Feb 2012 06:26:01 +0000

How do you handle this, with other peoples children and yours?

By: M

Tue, 21 Feb 2012 02:28:33 +0000

Sorry, but unless it’s a necessary item (such as 2 young children having their own sippy cup or toothbrush) then you are defeating the purpose by having one for each child.
We have a small plastic bin for each child with their own personal property, then they learn to share with a shelf full of ‘toys’ in the basement.

While my 3 children still occasionally have little ‘squabbles’ over toys, they have learned a lot about respecting personal things, and sometimes offering an item to a sibling to play with, since I bought the boxes. (Cheap, at the dollar store)

I never consider it normal to fight, although I do anticipate some disagreement over toy rights. My boys are old enough to learn ( & I am training them to do so) that they can always talk together and work things out between them w/o fighting.

By: Shawna

Shawna — Fri, 02 Sep 2011 05:48:17 +0000

Not sure kissing the children for fighting will discourage their violent behavior. Also, what would you do if you didn’t have the resources to just go out and “buy 1 for each of them”? Again, rewarding poor behavior. I appreciate your son’s observant mind pointing out the irony of hitting to stop the hitting, however, there doesn’t seem to be much logic in your methodology either. 2 fights a day?! Cause them some discomfort and you may see better results. Respectfully….

By: Darcy

Darcy — Fri, 08 Jul 2011 19:09:13 +0000

My youngest two boys (out of 5 boys) ages 9 and 7 have at least 2 physical fights a day and I am trying to decrease their “Brotherly Love”
I ended up reading the last portion to my nine year old son who interupted me and said “So to teach us not to use violence on each other, your supposed to use violence on us.That doesn’t make sense.” The logic of a 9 year old who has never nor ever will be “trained” is 1,000 better than most adults. Children should be nurtured and guided not trained. Siblings will have their squabble’s (I had them with my sisters).
I downgraded some of the fighting by not hitting or yelling but trying to prevent them. If the toy is the object of the arguement, then buy 1 for each of them and then they each have their own (write initials on the bottom in permanent marker).
When a fight does occur, seperate them, kiss boo boo’s, and call it a day. This all part of normal daily lifel.

By: Amanda

Amanda — Thu, 04 Mar 2010 12:24:21 +0000

I really enjoyed this article. I always thought that if one kid has something then they get to play with it because they had it first. How do I deal with other kids coming over and take something from one of mine?
What is the deal with “sharing”? do we make them share theire toys with others, or just let them be? Thanks