Our little ones learn everything from us: conversation, facial expression, habits, attitudes etc… What kind of mommy and wife is your little girl learning to be?
“Wock-a-bwy-baby…” Ryshoni Joy croons to her baby doll as she rocks in her own little oak rocker next to mine. The baby doll’s bald, ink-stained head is stuffed under Rysha’s shirt (nursing) and is wrapped in a borrowed blanket of Honey Sunny’s. Honey Sunny (Hannah Sunshine, 8 weeks old) is in a similar state of bliss in my own arms as I rock, and sing, and nurse. We burp our babies, change dirty diapers, and tuck our babies in bed. Rysha is 19 months old and learning to be a Mommy.
Everything I do these days is of extreme interest to my little girl. My actions tell her what to expect in life and how to function successfully. I find her eyes on me when I brush my hair, rub lotion on my hands, and wrap a scarf around my head. Five minutes later, I’ll find her with a towel wrapped around her head and my bottle of lotion in her hands (hopefully not open, with lotion all over the place).
The other day, Daddy sat down on the couch, and Rysha climbed up beside him. She rubbed his head, put her arm around him, and started murmuring endearments in such a “mommy way,” we both burst out laughing. Rysha had learned how Mommy treats Daddy, and was practicing.
Later in the day when Daddy commanded her to do something, and she just looked at him blankly without moving, I felt a pang of remorse; had she learned that from me, too? I suddenly realized just how much my little girl is gleaning from her mama.
Our little ones learn everything from us: conversation, facial expression, habits, attitudes, posture, etc… By the time they are 19 months old, they have mostly become who they are going to be.
What kind of mommy and wife is your little girl learning to be?
Beka Joy (Pearl) Anast





Hopefully one who realizes that men are not the object of her existence, that she is free to become who she wants to be. That she does not have to bow to any male because he happened to be born one and she wasn’t. That when a man beats her she should protect herself by any means necessary.
Wow, Ben. Whatever you’ve been through or witnessed is not what is being described here. I’m truly sorry about whatever caused this bitterness, but I am certain that Beka Anast is not living the life you are envisioning. I am and intelligent (genius level IQ) married woman with one daughter and another on the way. I am very happy to stay home and be a wife and mother. It is a blessing that I couldn’t possibly describe fully in this post. My husband is not the “object of my existence”, nor are my children. God is. I can see from your post that He is not the object of your existence, and I’m sorry for what you are missing.
Beka, thank you so much for sharing. Your articles are a blessing.