Comments on: Infant Manifesto http://nogreaterjoy.org/articles/infant-manifesto/ Over 500 articles from Michael and Debi Pearl on Child Training, Homeschooling, Family, Marriage, Christianity, the Bible, Missions, Simple Living, Gardening, and other topics! Fri, 18 May 2012 19:40:56 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.1 By: a mother http://nogreaterjoy.org/articles/infant-manifesto/#comment-3522 a mother Sat, 01 Oct 2011 10:58:34 +0000 http://new.nogreaterjoy.org/?p=3594#comment-3522 Omg, ppl are talking in the comments about "problems" with their kids, and their kids are doing NORMAL things for their age and development!! [Banging head against wall] Pls people, go with your gut and your parental instincts. Don't let someone else talk you out of it. It is NORMAL for a 9 mo old to get hungry in the middle of the night. It is NORMAL for a small child to fuss and cry if the are getting inadequate stimulation. This is their way of telling you something is WRONG and they need something. Yes, you can have a perfectly behaved, understimulated child. Is that really what you want?? I'm here to tell you, there is no conspiracy. The infants of the world have not united against us. They are babies, crying to have their needs met (and yes, holding and comforting are very valid psychological needs). Familiarize yourself with normal child development, instead of trying to punish for it. Our goal is not perfectly behaved robots. It is well-adjusted, thinking, feeling, loving, healthy individuals. Omg, ppl are talking in the comments about “problems” with their kids, and their kids are doing NORMAL things for their age and development!! [Banging head against wall] Pls people, go with your gut and your parental instincts. Don’t let someone else talk you out of it. It is NORMAL for a 9 mo old to get hungry in the middle of the night. It is NORMAL for a small child to fuss and cry if the are getting inadequate stimulation. This is their way of telling you something is WRONG and they need something. Yes, you can have a perfectly behaved, understimulated child. Is that really what you want?? I’m here to tell you, there is no conspiracy. The infants of the world have not united against us. They are babies, crying to have their needs met (and yes, holding and comforting are very valid psychological needs). Familiarize yourself with normal child development, instead of trying to punish for it. Our goal is not perfectly behaved robots. It is well-adjusted, thinking, feeling, loving, healthy individuals.

]]> By: a mother http://nogreaterjoy.org/articles/infant-manifesto/#comment-4127 a mother Sat, 01 Oct 2011 10:58:34 +0000 http://new.nogreaterjoy.org/?p=3594#comment-4127 Omg, ppl are talking in the comments about "problems" with their kids, and their kids are doing NORMAL things for their age and development!! [Banging head against wall] Pls people, go with your gut and your parental instincts. Don't let someone else talk you out of it. It is NORMAL for a 9 mo old to get hungry in the middle of the night. It is NORMAL for a small child to fuss and cry if the are getting inadequate stimulation. This is their way of telling you something is WRONG and they need something. Yes, you can have a perfectly behaved, understimulated child. Is that really what you want?? I'm here to tell you, there is no conspiracy. The infants of the world have not united against us. They are babies, crying to have their needs met (and yes, holding and comforting are very valid psychological needs). Familiarize yourself with normal child development, instead of trying to punish for it. Our goal is not perfectly behaved robots. It is well-adjusted, thinking, feeling, loving, healthy individuals. Omg, ppl are talking in the comments about “problems” with their kids, and their kids are doing NORMAL things for their age and development!! [Banging head against wall] Pls people, go with your gut and your parental instincts. Don’t let someone else talk you out of it. It is NORMAL for a 9 mo old to get hungry in the middle of the night. It is NORMAL for a small child to fuss and cry if the are getting inadequate stimulation. This is their way of telling you something is WRONG and they need something. Yes, you can have a perfectly behaved, understimulated child. Is that really what you want?? I’m here to tell you, there is no conspiracy. The infants of the world have not united against us. They are babies, crying to have their needs met (and yes, holding and comforting are very valid psychological needs). Familiarize yourself with normal child development, instead of trying to punish for it. Our goal is not perfectly behaved robots. It is well-adjusted, thinking, feeling, loving, healthy individuals.

]]> By: Beth http://nogreaterjoy.org/articles/infant-manifesto/#comment-3521 Beth Mon, 13 Sep 2010 20:32:49 +0000 http://new.nogreaterjoy.org/?p=3594#comment-3521 That sounds extreme, but it also sounds right. I have a 6 month, 3 week old and am willing to try anything. Earlier she was in her Jumperoo and playing. Then she started screaming, so I put her on a blanket on the floor to play. She didn't like it unless I was on the blanket amusing her with her crawl ball. Well, when that stopped amusing her she started screaming and I picked her up and gave her a rattle...that worked as long as I held her at the same time. Then I thought she must be hungry. She ate for less than 10 minutes and was mad again, so I played with her and as soon as I put her on the quilt on the floor, she started screaming again, so I put her in her crib and came and got on the computer and read this article. She is still screaming. I think she's throwing a tantrum. Should I just let her scream it out? I guess so, huh? That sounds extreme, but it also sounds right. I have a 6 month, 3 week old and am willing to try anything.

Earlier she was in her Jumperoo and playing. Then she started screaming, so I put her on a blanket on the floor to play. She didn’t like it unless I was on the blanket amusing her with her crawl ball. Well, when that stopped amusing her she started screaming and I picked her up and gave her a rattle…that worked as long as I held her at the same time. Then I thought she must be hungry. She ate for less than 10 minutes and was mad again, so I played with her and as soon as I put her on the quilt on the floor, she started screaming again, so I put her in her crib and came and got on the computer and read this article. She is still screaming. I think she’s throwing a tantrum. Should I just let her scream it out? I guess so, huh?

]]> By: Beth http://nogreaterjoy.org/articles/infant-manifesto/#comment-4126 Beth Mon, 13 Sep 2010 20:32:49 +0000 http://new.nogreaterjoy.org/?p=3594#comment-4126 That sounds extreme, but it also sounds right. I have a 6 month, 3 week old and am willing to try anything. Earlier she was in her Jumperoo and playing. Then she started screaming, so I put her on a blanket on the floor to play. She didn't like it unless I was on the blanket amusing her with her crawl ball. Well, when that stopped amusing her she started screaming and I picked her up and gave her a rattle...that worked as long as I held her at the same time. Then I thought she must be hungry. She ate for less than 10 minutes and was mad again, so I played with her and as soon as I put her on the quilt on the floor, she started screaming again, so I put her in her crib and came and got on the computer and read this article. She is still screaming. I think she's throwing a tantrum. Should I just let her scream it out? I guess so, huh? That sounds extreme, but it also sounds right. I have a 6 month, 3 week old and am willing to try anything.

Earlier she was in her Jumperoo and playing. Then she started screaming, so I put her on a blanket on the floor to play. She didn’t like it unless I was on the blanket amusing her with her crawl ball. Well, when that stopped amusing her she started screaming and I picked her up and gave her a rattle…that worked as long as I held her at the same time. Then I thought she must be hungry. She ate for less than 10 minutes and was mad again, so I played with her and as soon as I put her on the quilt on the floor, she started screaming again, so I put her in her crib and came and got on the computer and read this article. She is still screaming. I think she’s throwing a tantrum. Should I just let her scream it out? I guess so, huh?

]]> By: Massiel http://nogreaterjoy.org/articles/infant-manifesto/#comment-3520 Massiel Sun, 12 Sep 2010 15:33:46 +0000 http://new.nogreaterjoy.org/?p=3594#comment-3520 to respond to S. Inion... I liked the way you approach to the children in your house...I constantly have music of worship, I have a very good schedule for him and we give him a lot of love and even though he is a storm in the house, he is actually very well behaved in public and I strongly believe that is because of the love and attention that we give him at home...but I also recognize my weakness when it come to the nap and bed time, not only me, but my husband as well. to respond to S. Inion… I liked the way you approach to the children in your house…I constantly have music of worship, I have a very good schedule for him and we give him a lot of love and even though he is a storm in the house, he is actually very well behaved in public and I strongly believe that is because of the love and attention that we give him at home…but I also recognize my weakness when it come to the nap and bed time, not only me, but my husband as well.

]]> By: Massiel http://nogreaterjoy.org/articles/infant-manifesto/#comment-4125 Massiel Sun, 12 Sep 2010 15:33:46 +0000 http://new.nogreaterjoy.org/?p=3594#comment-4125 to respond to S. Inion... I liked the way you approach to the children in your house...I constantly have music of worship, I have a very good schedule for him and we give him a lot of love and even though he is a storm in the house, he is actually very well behaved in public and I strongly believe that is because of the love and attention that we give him at home...but I also recognize my weakness when it come to the nap and bed time, not only me, but my husband as well. to respond to S. Inion… I liked the way you approach to the children in your house…I constantly have music of worship, I have a very good schedule for him and we give him a lot of love and even though he is a storm in the house, he is actually very well behaved in public and I strongly believe that is because of the love and attention that we give him at home…but I also recognize my weakness when it come to the nap and bed time, not only me, but my husband as well.

]]> By: Massiel http://nogreaterjoy.org/articles/infant-manifesto/#comment-3519 Massiel Sun, 12 Sep 2010 15:27:15 +0000 http://new.nogreaterjoy.org/?p=3594#comment-3519 Hello, I was reading the article and something impacted me. I have a 9 month old and if he doesn't have his way, he will scream like if someone is killing him. That is not good! What I do is just let him cry. Other thing is that at night he actually makes me believe that he is hungry and I always fall for that! After he is breastfed, he decides that it's play time and to be honest this behavior really upset me, because to put him to sleep it is a real battle... it's a shame that our baby still sleep with us on our bed and he doesn't want to be in his crib, he takes 30-40 minutes nap a day( which I think that is nothing)and he wakes up at 2, 3 or 4 in the morning every single night, he still wants to be breastfed. Is this wrong? I know it is and I know that it is our fault...If somebody can please give me a tip, I will do it...I become very weak after seeing him cry for long and like the article, I loose the battle. Please help, thank you and God Bless...by the way I do believe in spanking, the bible speaks about that, but with the rod, not with the hand...because you caress with the hand...it's not that you will hit your child in anger or in such a way that he or she will be abused or hit him for everything! This new system on how to bring up your child is creating the future rebels and disrespectful generation with no fear or respect for their parents or G-d. I don't understand why men still insist on changing the things the way G-d says. Hello, I was reading the article and something impacted me. I have a 9 month old and if he doesn’t have his way, he will scream like if someone is killing him. That is not good! What I do is just let him cry. Other thing is that at night he actually makes me believe that he is hungry and I always fall for that! After he is breastfed, he decides that it’s play time and to be honest this behavior really upset me, because to put him to sleep it is a real battle… it’s a shame that our baby still sleep with us on our bed and he doesn’t want to be in his crib, he takes 30-40 minutes nap a day( which I think that is nothing)and he wakes up at 2, 3 or 4 in the morning every single night, he still wants to be breastfed. Is this wrong? I know it is and I know that it is our fault…If somebody can please give me a tip, I will do it…I become very weak after seeing him cry for long and like the article, I loose the battle. Please help, thank you and God Bless…by the way I do believe in spanking, the bible speaks about that, but with the rod, not with the hand…because you caress with the hand…it’s not that you will hit your child in anger or in such a way that he or she will be abused or hit him for everything! This new system on how to bring up your child is creating the future rebels and disrespectful generation with no fear or respect for their parents or G-d. I don’t understand why men still insist on changing the things the way G-d says.

]]> By: Massiel http://nogreaterjoy.org/articles/infant-manifesto/#comment-4124 Massiel Sun, 12 Sep 2010 15:27:15 +0000 http://new.nogreaterjoy.org/?p=3594#comment-4124 Hello, I was reading the article and something impacted me. I have a 9 month old and if he doesn't have his way, he will scream like if someone is killing him. That is not good! What I do is just let him cry. Other thing is that at night he actually makes me believe that he is hungry and I always fall for that! After he is breastfed, he decides that it's play time and to be honest this behavior really upset me, because to put him to sleep it is a real battle... it's a shame that our baby still sleep with us on our bed and he doesn't want to be in his crib, he takes 30-40 minutes nap a day( which I think that is nothing)and he wakes up at 2, 3 or 4 in the morning every single night, he still wants to be breastfed. Is this wrong? I know it is and I know that it is our fault...If somebody can please give me a tip, I will do it...I become very weak after seeing him cry for long and like the article, I loose the battle. Please help, thank you and God Bless...by the way I do believe in spanking, the bible speaks about that, but with the rod, not with the hand...because you caress with the hand...it's not that you will hit your child in anger or in such a way that he or she will be abused or hit him for everything! This new system on how to bring up your child is creating the future rebels and disrespectful generation with no fear or respect for their parents or G-d. I don't understand why men still insist on changing the things the way G-d says. Hello, I was reading the article and something impacted me. I have a 9 month old and if he doesn’t have his way, he will scream like if someone is killing him. That is not good! What I do is just let him cry. Other thing is that at night he actually makes me believe that he is hungry and I always fall for that! After he is breastfed, he decides that it’s play time and to be honest this behavior really upset me, because to put him to sleep it is a real battle… it’s a shame that our baby still sleep with us on our bed and he doesn’t want to be in his crib, he takes 30-40 minutes nap a day( which I think that is nothing)and he wakes up at 2, 3 or 4 in the morning every single night, he still wants to be breastfed. Is this wrong? I know it is and I know that it is our fault…If somebody can please give me a tip, I will do it…I become very weak after seeing him cry for long and like the article, I loose the battle. Please help, thank you and God Bless…by the way I do believe in spanking, the bible speaks about that, but with the rod, not with the hand…because you caress with the hand…it’s not that you will hit your child in anger or in such a way that he or she will be abused or hit him for everything! This new system on how to bring up your child is creating the future rebels and disrespectful generation with no fear or respect for their parents or G-d. I don’t understand why men still insist on changing the things the way G-d says.

]]> By: S. Inion http://nogreaterjoy.org/articles/infant-manifesto/#comment-3518 S. Inion Sun, 11 Jul 2010 19:22:55 +0000 http://new.nogreaterjoy.org/?p=3594#comment-3518 There was a time when I would have agreed with much of this article, but no longer. I have been in a community where parents fully live believing that their babies are manipulators and need schedule and training from birth. It kills nurture in most of these parents. Their children's eyes glass over as emotions have NO role. They learn that when I cry no one come thus, as toddlers they have delayed speech if any at all. They have no been treated with lots of snuggles and gentleness and so they do not learn to be gentle with other babies. I fully believe in child training but I now understand that training begins with trust. When I cry, I will be nursed and as a tiny infant I like the Psalmist "learned trust at my mother's breast.". At six months, I am still just a tiny baby and I have NO REASON to be angry because, I am always nurtured, always fed, clean and dry and simply trusting. As a child grows up in a home with prayer, and soft words and singing and much gentle nurture that child learns to nurture. He/she runs to Momma and Papa out of total trust and love. That baby is gentle to dollys and other children because all the child has known is nurture. When the child begins to hear the word, "No" that child who has only known his parents pleasure wants to respond, wants to be in fellowship, desires to please and so training is very little and often just a spoken, "no". is enough to convince. We have been blessed with 8 precious little ones(4 by birth and 4 by private adoption). We have also been blessed by reading your books even before we had children. Much of what you have written has been a help in our own child training. For example, with some of our children we needed "an apple juice" table. For all of them, we play the "come to Momma/Papa" game with great laughter. Our children are a great gift and blessing. We agree with your emphasis on praise, on natural home-schooling, and protecting innocence without crushing an older child. I KNOW your hearts are not to create glassy eyed children but for many parents reading this they do get bound up thinking that from birth they must dominate their tiny babies. For our family we have found freedom in just gently meeting their needs unselfishly. We teach the older ones to give in to the younger and bless the babies. In our home, it has created an atmosphere of love and nurture among siblings and children who usually have a heart to please and are quickly restored to fellowship. Blessings in Jesus. There was a time when I would have agreed with much of this article, but no longer. I have been in a community where parents fully live believing that their babies are manipulators and need schedule and training from birth. It kills nurture in most of these parents. Their children’s eyes glass over as emotions have NO role. They learn that when I cry no one come thus, as toddlers they have delayed speech if any at all. They have no been treated with lots of snuggles and gentleness and so they do not learn to be gentle with other babies.
I fully believe in child training but I now understand that training begins with trust. When I cry, I will be nursed and as a tiny infant I like the Psalmist “learned trust at my mother’s breast.”. At six months, I am still just a tiny baby and I have NO REASON to be angry because, I am always nurtured, always fed, clean and dry and simply trusting. As a child grows up in a home with prayer, and soft words and singing and much gentle nurture that child learns to nurture. He/she runs to Momma and Papa out of total trust and love. That baby is gentle to dollys and other children because all the child has known is nurture. When the child begins to hear the word, “No” that child who has only known his parents pleasure wants to respond, wants to be in fellowship, desires to please and so training is very little and often just a spoken, “no”. is enough to convince. We have been blessed with 8 precious little ones(4 by birth and 4 by private adoption). We have also been blessed by reading your books even before we had children. Much of what you have written has been a help in our own child training. For example, with some of our children we needed “an apple juice” table. For all of them, we play the “come to Momma/Papa” game with great laughter. Our children are a great gift and blessing. We agree with your emphasis on praise, on natural home-schooling, and protecting innocence without crushing an older child. I KNOW your hearts are not to create glassy eyed children but for many parents reading this they do get bound up thinking that from birth they must dominate their tiny babies. For our family we have found freedom in just gently meeting their needs unselfishly. We teach the older ones to give in to the younger and bless the babies. In our home, it has created an atmosphere of love and nurture among siblings and children who usually have a heart to please and are quickly restored to fellowship.
Blessings in Jesus.

]]> By: S. Inion http://nogreaterjoy.org/articles/infant-manifesto/#comment-4123 S. Inion Sun, 11 Jul 2010 19:22:55 +0000 http://new.nogreaterjoy.org/?p=3594#comment-4123 There was a time when I would have agreed with much of this article, but no longer. I have been in a community where parents fully live believing that their babies are manipulators and need schedule and training from birth. It kills nurture in most of these parents. Their children's eyes glass over as emotions have NO role. They learn that when I cry no one come thus, as toddlers they have delayed speech if any at all. They have no been treated with lots of snuggles and gentleness and so they do not learn to be gentle with other babies. I fully believe in child training but I now understand that training begins with trust. When I cry, I will be nursed and as a tiny infant I like the Psalmist "learned trust at my mother's breast.". At six months, I am still just a tiny baby and I have NO REASON to be angry because, I am always nurtured, always fed, clean and dry and simply trusting. As a child grows up in a home with prayer, and soft words and singing and much gentle nurture that child learns to nurture. He/she runs to Momma and Papa out of total trust and love. That baby is gentle to dollys and other children because all the child has known is nurture. When the child begins to hear the word, "No" that child who has only known his parents pleasure wants to respond, wants to be in fellowship, desires to please and so training is very little and often just a spoken, "no". is enough to convince. We have been blessed with 8 precious little ones(4 by birth and 4 by private adoption). We have also been blessed by reading your books even before we had children. Much of what you have written has been a help in our own child training. For example, with some of our children we needed "an apple juice" table. For all of them, we play the "come to Momma/Papa" game with great laughter. Our children are a great gift and blessing. We agree with your emphasis on praise, on natural home-schooling, and protecting innocence without crushing an older child. I KNOW your hearts are not to create glassy eyed children but for many parents reading this they do get bound up thinking that from birth they must dominate their tiny babies. For our family we have found freedom in just gently meeting their needs unselfishly. We teach the older ones to give in to the younger and bless the babies. In our home, it has created an atmosphere of love and nurture among siblings and children who usually have a heart to please and are quickly restored to fellowship. Blessings in Jesus. There was a time when I would have agreed with much of this article, but no longer. I have been in a community where parents fully live believing that their babies are manipulators and need schedule and training from birth. It kills nurture in most of these parents. Their children’s eyes glass over as emotions have NO role. They learn that when I cry no one come thus, as toddlers they have delayed speech if any at all. They have no been treated with lots of snuggles and gentleness and so they do not learn to be gentle with other babies.
I fully believe in child training but I now understand that training begins with trust. When I cry, I will be nursed and as a tiny infant I like the Psalmist “learned trust at my mother’s breast.”. At six months, I am still just a tiny baby and I have NO REASON to be angry because, I am always nurtured, always fed, clean and dry and simply trusting. As a child grows up in a home with prayer, and soft words and singing and much gentle nurture that child learns to nurture. He/she runs to Momma and Papa out of total trust and love. That baby is gentle to dollys and other children because all the child has known is nurture. When the child begins to hear the word, “No” that child who has only known his parents pleasure wants to respond, wants to be in fellowship, desires to please and so training is very little and often just a spoken, “no”. is enough to convince. We have been blessed with 8 precious little ones(4 by birth and 4 by private adoption). We have also been blessed by reading your books even before we had children. Much of what you have written has been a help in our own child training. For example, with some of our children we needed “an apple juice” table. For all of them, we play the “come to Momma/Papa” game with great laughter. Our children are a great gift and blessing. We agree with your emphasis on praise, on natural home-schooling, and protecting innocence without crushing an older child. I KNOW your hearts are not to create glassy eyed children but for many parents reading this they do get bound up thinking that from birth they must dominate their tiny babies. For our family we have found freedom in just gently meeting their needs unselfishly. We teach the older ones to give in to the younger and bless the babies. In our home, it has created an atmosphere of love and nurture among siblings and children who usually have a heart to please and are quickly restored to fellowship.
Blessings in Jesus.

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