Comments on: Ramblin’ http://nogreaterjoy.org/articles/ramblin/ Over 500 articles from Michael and Debi Pearl on Child Training, Homeschooling, Family, Marriage, Christianity, the Bible, Missions, Simple Living, Gardening, and other topics! Fri, 18 May 2012 19:40:56 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.1 By: Kelsey http://nogreaterjoy.org/articles/ramblin/#comment-6507 Kelsey Thu, 16 Feb 2012 20:48:52 +0000 http://new.nogreaterjoy.org/?p=3617#comment-6507 This article is SO good! Thanks so much for such a practical and easy to follow approach. This makes SO much sense and I will be practicing these fundamentals with my kids!! (JUST NOW training up both of my kids and they are 3 and 18 months. Definitely waited too long but am LOVING the results that I am getting from patient, non angry training instead of all those spankings!) Thanks again and again for giving me hope as a parent to a very strong willed 3 year old!! This article is SO good! Thanks so much for such a practical and easy to follow approach. This makes SO much sense and I will be practicing these fundamentals with my kids!! (JUST NOW training up both of my kids and they are 3 and 18 months. Definitely waited too long but am LOVING the results that I am getting from patient, non angry training instead of all those spankings!) Thanks again and again for giving me hope as a parent to a very strong willed 3 year old!!

]]> By: Denny http://nogreaterjoy.org/articles/ramblin/#comment-3836 Denny Tue, 08 Nov 2011 16:42:28 +0000 http://new.nogreaterjoy.org/?p=3617#comment-3836 Funny...my 5 boys are compliant (mostly!), do well in school, and are just good kids. I get just as good results, I'd even argue better results, by applying the principles of "love and logic" and not hitting them. Long term behavior change comes from children solving their own problems while experiencing the natural consequences of their choices. It takes a little longer, but it lasts forever. Your child grow to be confident, knowing they can solve their own problems and also accept ownership of their choices. Parenting With Love and Logic...great book. Funny…my 5 boys are compliant (mostly!), do well in school, and are just good kids. I get just as good results, I’d even argue better results, by applying the principles of “love and logic” and not hitting them. Long term behavior change comes from children solving their own problems while experiencing the natural consequences of their choices. It takes a little longer, but it lasts forever. Your child grow to be confident, knowing they can solve their own problems and also accept ownership of their choices. Parenting With Love and Logic…great book.

]]> By: Denny http://nogreaterjoy.org/articles/ramblin/#comment-4441 Denny Tue, 08 Nov 2011 16:42:28 +0000 http://new.nogreaterjoy.org/?p=3617#comment-4441 Funny...my 5 boys are compliant (mostly!), do well in school, and are just good kids. I get just as good results, I'd even argue better results, by applying the principles of "love and logic" and not hitting them. Long term behavior change comes from children solving their own problems while experiencing the natural consequences of their choices. It takes a little longer, but it lasts forever. Your child grow to be confident, knowing they can solve their own problems and also accept ownership of their choices. Parenting With Love and Logic...great book. Funny…my 5 boys are compliant (mostly!), do well in school, and are just good kids. I get just as good results, I’d even argue better results, by applying the principles of “love and logic” and not hitting them. Long term behavior change comes from children solving their own problems while experiencing the natural consequences of their choices. It takes a little longer, but it lasts forever. Your child grow to be confident, knowing they can solve their own problems and also accept ownership of their choices. Parenting With Love and Logic…great book.

]]> By: shelly http://nogreaterjoy.org/articles/ramblin/#comment-3835 shelly Thu, 26 Aug 2010 13:10:43 +0000 http://new.nogreaterjoy.org/?p=3617#comment-3835 I am a grandmother. The difference in what Michael is saying and what the average non-Amish parent does, is that Michael is giving clear, non-conflicted training to children. This makes learning easy for them. Successful learning feels good. The teacher is pleased and the pupil feels good about himself. The results are children who are a pleasure to be around. In contrast, The "new" age way of child rearing is full of conflicted messages and insincere pleadings to be "good" while at the same time continuing to allow unwanted behavior. It is an unclear and confusing method of teaching. Those "modern" parents who "can't possibly bring themselves to switch a child" are focusing only on the switching of the child. Michael always follows this switching with positive attention and the lesson is learned. He does not switch in anger. He does not condone switching for what you can learn by example. He believes in patiently training a habit. You don't switch the child because he's not putting his toys away and you're angry because you want to surf the net. You take your time away from your activities and get down with your child and make a game of it. You switch the child who is displaying behavior that challenges your authority. The result is a clear-cut choice for the child to make. I guarantee the child raised like this will be happy,positive and mature mentally. The child reared the other way will be the kind of youth we so often see today in public... raised permissively by parents who are trying to "reason with them" or "we give up", medicated. I am a grandmother. The difference in what Michael is saying and what the average non-Amish parent does, is that Michael is giving clear, non-conflicted training to children. This makes learning easy for them. Successful learning feels good. The teacher is pleased and the pupil feels good about himself. The results are children who are a pleasure to be around. In contrast, The “new” age way of child rearing is full of conflicted messages and insincere pleadings to be “good” while at the same time continuing to allow unwanted behavior. It is an unclear and confusing method of teaching. Those “modern” parents who “can’t possibly bring themselves to switch a child” are focusing only on the switching of the child. Michael always follows this switching with positive attention and the lesson is learned. He does not switch in anger. He does not condone switching for what you can learn by example. He believes in patiently training a habit. You don’t switch the child because he’s not putting his toys away and you’re angry because you want to surf the net. You take your time away from your activities and get down with your child and make a game of it. You switch the child who is displaying behavior that challenges your authority. The result is a clear-cut choice for the child to make. I guarantee the child raised like this will be happy,positive and mature mentally. The child reared the other way will be the kind of youth we so often see today in public… raised permissively by parents who are trying to “reason with them” or “we give up”, medicated.

]]> By: shelly http://nogreaterjoy.org/articles/ramblin/#comment-4440 shelly Thu, 26 Aug 2010 13:10:43 +0000 http://new.nogreaterjoy.org/?p=3617#comment-4440 I am a grandmother. The difference in what Michael is saying and what the average non-Amish parent does, is that Michael is giving clear, non-conflicted training to children. This makes learning easy for them. Successful learning feels good. The teacher is pleased and the pupil feels good about himself. The results are children who are a pleasure to be around. In contrast, The "new" age way of child rearing is full of conflicted messages and insincere pleadings to be "good" while at the same time continuing to allow unwanted behavior. It is an unclear and confusing method of teaching. Those "modern" parents who "can't possibly bring themselves to switch a child" are focusing only on the switching of the child. Michael always follows this switching with positive attention and the lesson is learned. He does not switch in anger. He does not condone switching for what you can learn by example. He believes in patiently training a habit. You don't switch the child because he's not putting his toys away and you're angry because you want to surf the net. You take your time away from your activities and get down with your child and make a game of it. You switch the child who is displaying behavior that challenges your authority. The result is a clear-cut choice for the child to make. I guarantee the child raised like this will be happy,positive and mature mentally. The child reared the other way will be the kind of youth we so often see today in public... raised permissively by parents who are trying to "reason with them" or "we give up", medicated. I am a grandmother. The difference in what Michael is saying and what the average non-Amish parent does, is that Michael is giving clear, non-conflicted training to children. This makes learning easy for them. Successful learning feels good. The teacher is pleased and the pupil feels good about himself. The results are children who are a pleasure to be around. In contrast, The “new” age way of child rearing is full of conflicted messages and insincere pleadings to be “good” while at the same time continuing to allow unwanted behavior. It is an unclear and confusing method of teaching. Those “modern” parents who “can’t possibly bring themselves to switch a child” are focusing only on the switching of the child. Michael always follows this switching with positive attention and the lesson is learned. He does not switch in anger. He does not condone switching for what you can learn by example. He believes in patiently training a habit. You don’t switch the child because he’s not putting his toys away and you’re angry because you want to surf the net. You take your time away from your activities and get down with your child and make a game of it. You switch the child who is displaying behavior that challenges your authority. The result is a clear-cut choice for the child to make. I guarantee the child raised like this will be happy,positive and mature mentally. The child reared the other way will be the kind of youth we so often see today in public… raised permissively by parents who are trying to “reason with them” or “we give up”, medicated.

]]> By: Rose http://nogreaterjoy.org/articles/ramblin/#comment-3834 Rose Sat, 24 Jul 2010 15:40:18 +0000 http://new.nogreaterjoy.org/?p=3617#comment-3834 No, monimonika. The child can control himself and is thinking and acting clearly. At least, in the way he has been taught. He has been taught that screaming again gets him what he wants. The author merely recognizes this, and knows that a command will not elicit cooperation the first time, since the child has not been taught to listen to a parent or authority figure. He has been taught to be a spoiled brat and scream to get his way. The author proved that he is capable of controlling himself. And yes, abused children do perform more poorly. Leaving your children to themselves to act like brats is abusive, and detrimental to their future as well. Which 5 year old would you rather spend time with as a teacher? The whiny, controlling brat or the child who has learned to obey cheerfully with a smile? Swat yourself with a switch and then think very hard before you call it a beating. No, monimonika. The child can control himself and is thinking and acting clearly. At least, in the way he has been taught. He has been taught that screaming again gets him what he wants. The author merely recognizes this, and knows that a command will not elicit cooperation the first time, since the child has not been taught to listen to a parent or authority figure. He has been taught to be a spoiled brat and scream to get his way. The author proved that he is capable of controlling himself. And yes, abused children do perform more poorly. Leaving your children to themselves to act like brats is abusive, and detrimental to their future as well. Which 5 year old would you rather spend time with as a teacher? The whiny, controlling brat or the child who has learned to obey cheerfully with a smile? Swat yourself with a switch and then think very hard before you call it a beating.

]]> By: Rose http://nogreaterjoy.org/articles/ramblin/#comment-4439 Rose Sat, 24 Jul 2010 15:40:18 +0000 http://new.nogreaterjoy.org/?p=3617#comment-4439 No, monimonika. The child can control himself and is thinking and acting clearly. At least, in the way he has been taught. He has been taught that screaming again gets him what he wants. The author merely recognizes this, and knows that a command will not elicit cooperation the first time, since the child has not been taught to listen to a parent or authority figure. He has been taught to be a spoiled brat and scream to get his way. The author proved that he is capable of controlling himself. And yes, abused children do perform more poorly. Leaving your children to themselves to act like brats is abusive, and detrimental to their future as well. Which 5 year old would you rather spend time with as a teacher? The whiny, controlling brat or the child who has learned to obey cheerfully with a smile? Swat yourself with a switch and then think very hard before you call it a beating. No, monimonika. The child can control himself and is thinking and acting clearly. At least, in the way he has been taught. He has been taught that screaming again gets him what he wants. The author merely recognizes this, and knows that a command will not elicit cooperation the first time, since the child has not been taught to listen to a parent or authority figure. He has been taught to be a spoiled brat and scream to get his way. The author proved that he is capable of controlling himself. And yes, abused children do perform more poorly. Leaving your children to themselves to act like brats is abusive, and detrimental to their future as well. Which 5 year old would you rather spend time with as a teacher? The whiny, controlling brat or the child who has learned to obey cheerfully with a smile? Swat yourself with a switch and then think very hard before you call it a beating.

]]> By: kristina http://nogreaterjoy.org/articles/ramblin/#comment-3833 kristina Wed, 26 May 2010 03:29:23 +0000 http://new.nogreaterjoy.org/?p=3617#comment-3833 I love your site. This article was a good example of curving a bad attitude and teaching a child that outbursts don't always get the desired result. My daughter will be 3 in October and is a bonified neat freak. She loves to help me clean house, fold clothes, load the dishwasher, mop the floors and babysit her new baby sister for short periods of time. Her room is always tidy and her toys never out of place. We have always showed her to play with one toy or group of toys at a time and when done to put them back. She actually cries when my nephews mess up her room or dump out her toybox on the floor. She loves everything to be in its place. I am so proud that my daughter will be a better wife and housekeeper than I am. I am looking forward to training her sister to be neat and helpful as well. I believe having responsibilities makes them feel important and keeps them out of trouble and out of my hair. I always know what they are into because they are right by my side or playing quietly. Rambuncous play is only alotted for outside time and under supervision. Only because my nephews tend to be too rough and I don't like my daughter bringing home their bad habits."aka..spitting, stomping on worms, kicking dog, etc." I love your site. This article was a good example of curving a bad attitude and teaching a child that outbursts don’t always get the desired result.

My daughter will be 3 in October and is a bonified neat freak. She loves to help me clean house, fold clothes, load the dishwasher, mop the floors and babysit her new baby sister for short periods of time. Her room is always tidy and her toys never out of place. We have always showed her to play with one toy or group of toys at a time and when done to put them back. She actually cries when my nephews mess up her room or dump out her toybox on the floor. She loves everything to be in its place. I am so proud that my daughter will be a better wife and housekeeper than I am. I am looking forward to training her sister to be neat and helpful as well.

I believe having responsibilities makes them feel important and keeps them out of trouble and out of my hair. I always know what they are into because they are right by my side or playing quietly. Rambuncous play is only alotted for outside time and under supervision. Only because my nephews tend to be too rough and I don’t like my daughter bringing home their bad habits.”aka..spitting, stomping on worms, kicking dog, etc.”

]]> By: kristina http://nogreaterjoy.org/articles/ramblin/#comment-4438 kristina Wed, 26 May 2010 03:29:23 +0000 http://new.nogreaterjoy.org/?p=3617#comment-4438 I love your site. This article was a good example of curving a bad attitude and teaching a child that outbursts don't always get the desired result. My daughter will be 3 in October and is a bonified neat freak. She loves to help me clean house, fold clothes, load the dishwasher, mop the floors and babysit her new baby sister for short periods of time. Her room is always tidy and her toys never out of place. We have always showed her to play with one toy or group of toys at a time and when done to put them back. She actually cries when my nephews mess up her room or dump out her toybox on the floor. She loves everything to be in its place. I am so proud that my daughter will be a better wife and housekeeper than I am. I am looking forward to training her sister to be neat and helpful as well. I believe having responsibilities makes them feel important and keeps them out of trouble and out of my hair. I always know what they are into because they are right by my side or playing quietly. Rambuncous play is only alotted for outside time and under supervision. Only because my nephews tend to be too rough and I don't like my daughter bringing home their bad habits."aka..spitting, stomping on worms, kicking dog, etc." I love your site. This article was a good example of curving a bad attitude and teaching a child that outbursts don’t always get the desired result.

My daughter will be 3 in October and is a bonified neat freak. She loves to help me clean house, fold clothes, load the dishwasher, mop the floors and babysit her new baby sister for short periods of time. Her room is always tidy and her toys never out of place. We have always showed her to play with one toy or group of toys at a time and when done to put them back. She actually cries when my nephews mess up her room or dump out her toybox on the floor. She loves everything to be in its place. I am so proud that my daughter will be a better wife and housekeeper than I am. I am looking forward to training her sister to be neat and helpful as well.

I believe having responsibilities makes them feel important and keeps them out of trouble and out of my hair. I always know what they are into because they are right by my side or playing quietly. Rambuncous play is only alotted for outside time and under supervision. Only because my nephews tend to be too rough and I don’t like my daughter bringing home their bad habits.”aka..spitting, stomping on worms, kicking dog, etc.”

]]> By: stacey hughes http://nogreaterjoy.org/articles/ramblin/#comment-3832 stacey hughes Wed, 05 May 2010 15:00:53 +0000 http://new.nogreaterjoy.org/?p=3617#comment-3832 I absolutely love this site and these simple stories of how 'teaching children' is done. This has not come natural to me, and I am easily manipulated by my three boys. A few times I have stumbled upon doing something right, and I realize 'tying strings' may be the missing piece. I certainly get too tense to 'follow through' to be able to be concerned with tying strings in the midst of conflict. (In fear of being manipulated by my kids or losing focus at the issue at hand.) Thank you so much for being willing to put yourselves out there and endurring all the criticism, this certainly comes at a price. Thank you for these articles, I certainly am learning a lot! I absolutely love this site and these simple stories of how ‘teaching children’ is done. This has not come natural to me, and I am easily manipulated by my three boys. A few times I have stumbled upon doing something right, and I realize ‘tying strings’ may be the missing piece. I certainly get too tense to ‘follow through’ to be able to be concerned with tying strings in the midst of conflict. (In fear of being manipulated by my kids or losing focus at the issue at hand.)

Thank you so much for being willing to put yourselves out there and endurring all the criticism, this certainly comes at a price.

Thank you for these articles, I certainly am learning a lot!

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