Comments on: Sobering Issues – Modesty

By: Deborah

Deborah — Wed, 15 Feb 2012 22:46:17 +0000

Very well put. We as women often confuse our desire to be pretty with our desire to be attractive. The first is I believe a God given instinct, to be our husband’s crown of glory (which according to the Scripture is to be modestly “covered”, by the way). The second is very corrupted, if it is aimed at anyone but our husband and that in private – not public.
And let’s admit it to ourselves, ladies, we also want to be pretty to get attention. And if we don’t get it naturally, we are sometimes subconsciously willing to go to great lengths, to get that attention and feel prettier than the other ladies out there. In doing that, we often compromise the line between pretty and seductive. It took me a long time to understand this concept, even though I was by no means dressing provocatively by today’s standards.
Modesty is by no means a verdict that, we have to wear old, drab, and ill-fitting clothing, or look ugly. That is a common misunderstanding. We are allowed to look pretty, but not immodest. Instead, I urge the women readers to really search their hearts before the Lord to show us, what His standards would be. Find beauty, without compromising yourself, respect for your husband, and most importantly, the Lord.
If you ask the godly men in your lives, you will be surprised, what you will hear. A lot of men are afraid of saying the truth, because they don’t want to be embarrassed, they don’t want to be labeled as sex addicts for their healthy God-given instincts, or they don’t want to get into struggles with us, ladies, who are likely to accuse them of being controlling of our liberties.
Which reminds me of the commendable stand taken by Kylie Bisutti, a Victoria’s Secret model, who will no longer model underwear because of modesty. She is on a very good path, but in the interview, she gave, she is still wearing a low-cut, cleavage-revealing dress… Only time will tell, how far she will be willing to take her faithfulness to the Lord and let Him reveal to her, what is His standard of clothing. She is on a good path for now…
In conclusion: It is very hard for us ladies to find balance in today’s culture. So, I urge you again to search your heart before the Lord and come up with clothing that is truly beautiful, colorful, and even fashionable, but very strictly modest. It may be challenging, since there isn’t much out there in the stores, that will fit the description. Well, let’s look harder. Let’s get creative. Let’s even learn to sew, if we need to.

By: Terri

Terri — Tue, 26 Oct 2010 04:17:34 +0000

My relationship with God and my husband have changed after reading Created to be his help meet. I agree with Angela in every word she says. God convicted me on my clothing and yes I love my skirts now and less if any make up and jewelry. I was a women that had to have the latest and greatest cloths and hairstyle. Now I spend my time thinking about not how I can please the world but, how and what can I do to please my God. When I look at my skirt it always reminds me of my Heavenly Father. I love being a women. My husband has changed as well. He is more loving and caring. I think you Debi but, most of all I think God for giving you the book.

By: Angela Scott

Angela Scott — Thu, 18 Feb 2010 23:37:52 +0000

I completely agree with this article as well, and I would also submit that even other women are uncomfortable with a woman who flaunts her body and is careless about how she dresses. There are many things that go on in the spirit that we cannot see, and to act as if this is not happening is exactly what the author states, SIMPLE! Think about why women started wearing pants in the first place, and the consequences that men, women, and children have had to face as a result of that rebellion. A person dresses to play a part. Our clothes are our uniform, so to speak. When I was lost in sin, I dressed the part. When I decided to give my life to Jesus, the first thing I changed was my dress code. Over the years the Holy Spirit has been convicting me of the way that I dress, even though I gave up the skimpy clothes,because there is power in it. Just as there was power over men when I dressed like a slut, and was indulging those spiritual forces who so many years ago convinced women that their bodies were objects instead of a temple of the Holy Spirit, there is power in my modesty, and leaving my body for my husbands eyes only. When I chose to stop wearing tight jeans, shirts, and the latest fashion that our culture has decided that I should wear, and chose to take back what God created me to be, which is a modest woman of virtue, who doesn’t need the world’s approval, only the approval of my Heavenly Father,and my husband. Things began to change in my own spirit, my husband’s spirit, and my four boys’ spirits. My words became softer, I felt more beautiful, It was easier for me to respond with reverence and respect to my husband. Basically everything that I struggled with as far as being a godly wife and mother was made much easier because I broke free from the world’s standards for a woman by trading in my jeans for a skirt. The world’s standards are all about the physical, her clothes, her hair cut, her make-up, her home. I was able to completely put on God’s standards unhindered. I had to let this last thing go. My husband’s heart is softened to me now, my children more easily revere their dad, because the gender lines are very distinct, and the act of my submission to him in my dress has changed the atmosphere of the spirit in my home. Think about it ladies! Men wouldn’t be caught dead wearing a dress or skirt. Not too many years ago women wouldn’t have been caught dead in pants. Take pride in your femininity and embrace who God made you to be. You will never regret it!

By: Irma

Irma — Wed, 27 Jan 2010 15:12:11 +0000

She is absolutely right. I have a 9 months old daughter, and i am definitely aiming for modesty.My daughters are to be “pure virgins”when they grow up,and also love the Lord with all their heart, soul and mind.Irma

By: Jessica Bond

Jessica Bond — Wed, 02 Dec 2009 16:53:39 +0000

What a good article! I am a mother to three little girls and one only has to read the news to know the danger out there to them. Not to mention, I do not want them to think they should dress provocatively to attract attention! Loved this article!