Comments on: The Best Medicine

By: Leah

Leah — Sat, 12 Jun 2010 23:46:40 +0000

Peter, I’d just like to say that my parents raised me in the way you call “dysfunctional” and “terrorizing” yet I’m a happy, well-balanced, successful adult. I was homeschooled but graduated college with honors. I recently finished my first year of my career. I was loved, spanked, loved, taught, loved, encouraged, and loved some more. If this is what you call dysfunctional, I’ll take that over “normal” brats any day of the week.

By: Sherri Holcombe

Sherri Holcombe — Fri, 21 May 2010 18:13:53 +0000

What a wonderful and encouraging article!..I get blessed everytime the Pearl’s share a “nugget” of wisdom..I have the Train Up A Child book,but I need to order the No Greater Joy books and read those. Through the Pearl’s God has given me the desire of my heart to really get to know my children and see them as He sees them..God is sooo faithful and loving. And I want to extend to my children the same king of unconditional love that my Heavenly Father has so graciously given to me…God bless the Pearl family!..

By: tara sanderson

tara sanderson — Thu, 20 May 2010 17:24:35 +0000

Thank you.This is so insightful!I now see both scenarios simultaneously playing out in our home.

By: Angie

Angie — Thu, 20 May 2010 14:09:46 +0000

I just want to say, I have a son who is 7, and we have been really struggling lately with his attitude and with his quickness to obey. When I first read this article, I realized that this is what we needed–to enjoy each other again. So I left his sisters with Dad and took my son out on a date. He got to pick the activities and we spent about 3 ours just having fun together. No agenda from Mom–just fun. It was a breakthrough! My son actually said to me as we were walking along holding hands, “Mom, this is what I think is the best thing we can do. Because we’re building our relationship. And relationship is the most important thing.” Yes, my 7 year old son said that. He has been trained to honor God and his parents, using the methods found in the Bible, and he knows what we value most is relationship with each other. His attitude toward me has improved greatly from just that one day. He just needed a reminder that HE was more important than his chores or his schoolwork or my housework or…well, anything! Thanks again for reminding me so so that I could remind him!

By: Megan

Megan — Fri, 14 May 2010 08:59:14 +0000

Peter, You obviously have misread the article. If i was going to try to win my childs heart, And treated him to a day out doing things he liked, and put on an act to make him think i wanted to be with him when i really didnt then I would be manipulating him in the hopes he would “man up.”But if i approached him with a genuine desire to WANT to be with my child.And genuinely extended love to him, then a sweet bond is formed,And he will be naturally drawn to me because of my kindness and joy toward him. And when spanking is done in the right way and the child otherwise has a close bond with the parents who are loving, then that child will grow up with a healthy attitude. If you were spanked as a child and resent it, then almost garunteed your needs werent being met by your parents. And if thats not the issue, then you were probably just a spoiled brat or had a dysfunctional childhood. And if you bother to read your bible, you will see that God commands us to smack our children. Otherwise, we don’t love them. If you don’t know how to use the tool properly, Refer to the manual.

By: Kamilla

Kamilla — Thu, 13 May 2010 04:18:13 +0000

It’s been 10 years since I started buying your materials and trying- more like failing- to implement them. And it

By: kelli

kelli — Tue, 11 May 2010 15:00:46 +0000

These were my parenting methods before I ever heard of the Pearls, you have put into words what was in my heart. Obviously if you have enjoyable time together you learn to enjoy each other’s company and value each other. Fun times together help your child understand that you do love them and want to enjoy time with them, it also shows them how everyone can have fun when behaving in an acceptable way. When your children really understand your love for them, they want to obey because they understand that you only want what is good for them.

By: Lori

Lori — Tue, 11 May 2010 01:22:01 +0000

Its really sad that so many of us have had really bad relationships with our biological parents, but I know from experience, Peter, that even though the past was bad, you must let go of it and even if those people never repent or apologize you must forgive and then pray for them. Psalm 27:10 is my life verse and I spent 30+ years being bitter against my folks for all kinds of things until it almost destroyed me. “He whom the Son has set free is free indeed”!

By: Katie

Katie — Tue, 04 May 2010 13:56:37 +0000

I feel sad that so many people misunderstand what you are saying. This is not a way of manipulating your children, far from it. We are being told to find delight in our children. Why would anyone not want to delight in their children? Jesus delights in me and, yes, that makes me love Him even more and want to obey Him even more. When I do that my life is even better. It is the same with our children. Everyone wins! Yey!

By: Wendy Bullard

Wendy Bullard — Mon, 03 May 2010 13:18:15 +0000

I just wanted to let Carol know that her comment was a blessing to read! How wonderful that grandparents take the time to pray with their grandchildren and help homeschool them! Such a blessing…those grankids will grow up to honor those grandparents!