Comments on: What I Want in a Guy! http://nogreaterjoy.org/articles/what-i-want-in-a-guy/ Over 500 articles from Michael and Debi Pearl on Child Training, Homeschooling, Family, Marriage, Christianity, the Bible, Missions, Simple Living, Gardening, and other topics! Fri, 18 May 2012 19:40:56 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.1 By: Rebecca http://nogreaterjoy.org/articles/what-i-want-in-a-guy/#comment-5181 Rebecca Mon, 23 Jan 2012 03:23:31 +0000 http://new.nogreaterjoy.org/?p=2523#comment-5181 I noticed your post about wanting a guy who can stand up to you. I have a sister who is strong willed, and she married a strong willed man, and as such, they are perfect together. If either one of them had married a wallflower, they would have crushed the other. However, isn't it your responsibility to learn to temper your own actions and reactions to things, rather than relying on the strength of someone else's will to relate well? This would be in line with the fruit of the Holy Spirit of gentleness. Unless we are going at the assumption that men should dominate the household, and therefore he should be so strong willed that he will ignore my wise helpmeet counsel and ignore me when I express my feelings or needs. That also strikes me as ignoring that this future husband needs to have fully developed the fruits of the Holy Spirit as well. gentleness should have full reign in his life. As a matter of fact, as the leader in the home, it will be important that he demonstrate even MORE the fruit of gentleness. I noticed your post about wanting a guy who can stand up to you. I have a sister who is strong willed, and she married a strong willed man, and as such, they are perfect together. If either one of them had married a wallflower, they would have crushed the other.

However, isn’t it your responsibility to learn to temper your own actions and reactions to things, rather than relying on the strength of someone else’s will to relate well? This would be in line with the fruit of the Holy Spirit of gentleness.

Unless we are going at the assumption that men should dominate the household, and therefore he should be so strong willed that he will ignore my wise helpmeet counsel and ignore me when I express my feelings or needs. That also strikes me as ignoring that this future husband needs to have fully developed the fruits of the Holy Spirit as well. gentleness should have full reign in his life. As a matter of fact, as the leader in the home, it will be important that he demonstrate even MORE the fruit of gentleness.

]]> By: Steph http://nogreaterjoy.org/articles/what-i-want-in-a-guy/#comment-2495 Steph Wed, 02 Dec 2009 15:02:48 +0000 http://new.nogreaterjoy.org/?p=2523#comment-2495 i read this and it somewhat reminds me of me. I finished college and became an art teacher...not dating until i was 23...Since i was in middle school i was taught that christian girls should write a list of what they think they would like in a husband and wait for this guy..or weed out the ones who don't make the list. I really tried to follow this, until i realized that i didn't always know what was best for me. I would be very unhappy if i would have kept to my list, even the spiritual part..like what i think he should be like spiritually (of coarse going after God). When i was 23 i met my husband and we married over a year later, does he meet that list, no. Did i marry the right person? TOTALLY. I also realized that my former thoughts of my dream guy weren't reality and i am not ordering a man from a menue... they come with life experiences and struggles (something i just thought wouldn't happen if i lived a good christin girl life). Now that i am married, life is not perfect but i found that God put my husband and i together and we are perfet for each other. I wouldn't have guessed that this guy would have been my husband a few years ago, but now i would have no one else! i read your help meet book and it has been awesome- it just works. It has helped me realize that men are not perfect and they aren't what you thought they would be (as in my youthful daydreams of the man i would wait for) but humanly speaking with life's struggles its been great. As i have learned to respect him he loves me and shows it in so many ways... I say all of this as part of the letter by the 22 year old because sometimes its good to know what you are looking for in a guy, but be open for the Lord to give you what He wants. I also know that by 22 you know what you want compared to a middle schooler. It just brought up a lot of thoughts i had as a young christian girl and the "story book" man i thought i was going to marry. i read this and it somewhat reminds me of me. I finished college and became an art teacher…not dating until i was 23…Since i was in middle school i was taught that christian girls should write a list of what they think they would like in a husband and wait for this guy..or weed out the ones who don’t make the list. I really tried to follow this, until i realized that i didn’t always know what was best for me. I would be very unhappy if i would have kept to my list, even the spiritual part..like what i think he should be like spiritually (of coarse going after God). When i was 23 i met my husband and we married over a year later, does he meet that list, no. Did i marry the right person? TOTALLY. I also realized that my former thoughts of my dream guy weren’t reality and i am not ordering a man from a menue… they come with life experiences and struggles (something i just thought wouldn’t happen if i lived a good christin girl life). Now that i am married, life is not perfect but i found that God put my husband and i together and we are perfet for each other. I wouldn’t have guessed that this guy would have been my husband a few years ago, but now i would have no one else! i read your help meet book and it has been awesome- it just works. It has helped me realize that men are not perfect and they aren’t what you thought they would be (as in my youthful daydreams of the man i would wait for) but humanly speaking with life’s struggles its been great. As i have learned to respect him he loves me and shows it in so many ways… I say all of this as part of the letter by the 22 year old because sometimes its good to know what you are looking for in a guy, but be open for the Lord to give you what He wants. I also know that by 22 you know what you want compared to a middle schooler. It just brought up a lot of thoughts i had as a young christian girl and the “story book” man i thought i was going to marry.

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