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		<title>Mail Bag &#8211; Other Kids</title>
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		<pubDate>Tue, 22 May 2012 11:00:53 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Michael Pearl</dc:creator>
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		<title>Mail Bag &#8211; Train</title>
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		<pubDate>Tue, 22 May 2012 11:00:30 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Michael Pearl</dc:creator>
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		<title>Mail Bag &#8211; Babies</title>
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		<pubDate>Tue, 15 May 2012 11:00:11 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Michael Pearl</dc:creator>
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<strong>Debi Pearl:</strong> Papa and I are going to record, so y’all go ahead and shut the door.

<em>[door creaks then closes, children talking and laughing in background]</em>

<strong>Voiceover:</strong> Mike &amp; Debi speak this week about gently teaching limits to infants. I can say from personal experience that some of these concepts are what gave my first fussy little one her happy smile instead of a screaming tantrum.<strong><em></em></strong>

<strong>Mike:</strong> All right, the letter goes a little further Deb. Would you read the rest of it?

<strong>Debi</strong>: Ok, the next question is about training my little girl. Remember she is a 7 month old. The letter follows: I have made some mistakes already, like allowing her to play with my necklace and hair and now I’m having to go back and correct that. I wonder if you could be more specific about how this works. Is the objective for her to learn the word NO? I flick her hand and tell her NO but she tries over and over again. She cries after a few flicks and seems to be ‘getting it’ but what I gather from you it should only take 2 or 3 times. She continues to try for things after a training session. I flick her as hard as I can and maybe it needs to be a switch, or something to get her attention quicker. Also it seems almost everything is off limits for her. Do I continually tell her NO and flick her. I am feeding her and there may be some papers on the kitchen table and she reaches for them. Do I flick her hand and tell her NO? I certainly don’t want her playing with the papers, but how far do you need to go? Also, someone may be holding her and she reaches for their glasses. We have trained her that glasses are off limits but they might not know it or don’t care. So what do I do? Do I tell the people – Don’t let her get your glasses. Or do I tell her NO and flick her hand? It’s getting a little confusing because there are so many incidents that this applies to. Do they all get a swat? When she learns NO will the swats disappear? Am I making any sense? She’s not crawling yet so I don’t have the mobility factor yet. I agree with your techniques and I really want to implement them. Any advice would be appreciated.

<strong>Mike:</strong> One of the things I am impressed with there is she says it seems like almost everything is off limits for the child, and that is a fact of life. In my own house, most of what’s in my house is off limits to me. In other words, I don’t go into my daughters’ rooms and handle their toys, their objects, or their pictures or their treasures. I don’t get into their drawers. I don’t go into their closets. I don’t go into my boys’ rooms. I don’t go in there and touch and handle their vehicles. I don’t drive their vehicles without asking. When you go into a store, much of what is in a store is off limits. You can’t get into the jewelry case. You can’t get into where the watches are. It’s locked behind the glass. You can’t go into a grocery store and pick up anything that you see and stick it into your mouth. Most of life is full of limits. And when a child is born there are no limits. As I said the child knows pain. The child knows pleasure. The child has a want, a need, and then the need develops into a want. The want develops into a demand, and the demand develops into indulgence; and pretty soon the child is living a life of passion and indulgences and fulfillment. The job of a parent is to train that child to fit into society; to train that child to make adjustments NOW before it becomes embarrassing. If the child is trained at 7 months, then at 17 months you won’t have her throwing a fit in the grocery store because she expects to have everything that she sees sitting around her and be able to put it into her mouth. So YES, almost everything IS off limits to a child, and that’s a lesson you’ve got to communicate to your daughter.  And you have to communicate it NOW while it’s easy. Later on it will be much more difficult.

Now a child has a desire to touch, has a desire to taste, has a desire to feel and smell and handle and examine and explore. Of course you want to fulfill that drive in a child. You want to have a world in which that child is absolutely free to pick up one toy, throw it down, pick up another, throw it down, taste, touch, handle, scatter it, play with it, and do as she pleases. Each one of us has our own little world that’s ours, where we can govern it, we can control it. But then there’s that world that is not ours. It belongs to someone else and we have to exercise restraint when we have a desire to touch or handle it. If you go into a restaurant right now as an adult, there are lots of good things in there to eat but most everything in that restaurant is off limits to you. You don’t just walk up to the first table and the first good thing you see and pick it up and start eating it, but you go through certain social order, and that’s what your child has to become adjusted to. That there’s an order, there’s a procedure, that one has to exercise personal restraint. That you have to wait, you have to wait your turn, you have to wait for what’s yours. And you have to do it according to the custom and the culture in which you live.  So YES, it’s a good idea if you had a world for that child in which there were no natural limits, in which nothing was off limits. But then you would need to artificially create some off limits because when she gets in the REAL world, that’s what she’ll confront. So the way we train the child is we find some boundaries that we can enforce and we enforce those boundaries. For instance, not touching, not pulling on hair. Obviously if you avoid getting close enough for the child to pull your hair, in time she’ll grow up and learn not to pull hair. But NOW is a real good time to teach her the meaning of NO, to teach her self-control and self-restraint. Everyone is governed and the child has to learn to govern her own drives. So in terms of glasses, of course it’s very uncomfortable to have a child jerking your glasses off, and it makes you not want to pick them (the child) up. It makes you not want to hold them up close to you. So it’s good for the child to learn not to grab one’s glasses, not to put their finger in your mouth, or to put their finger in your eye, or not to pull on your hair. When your husband comes to the table and sits down to eat, he doesn’t mix his paperwork and his food up and create a mess. He had to learn that at some point, and now it’s a good time for your child to learn that. So don’t feel sorry for her because everything seems to be off limits. Rather you should be thankful that you can create some off limits now and gain that sense of self-control NOW before she gets to the point of where it becomes really embarrassing in a public situation.  Do you have any other thoughts on that Deb?

<strong>Debi:</strong>  I was just thinking, you said you did make some mistakes. You allowed your child to play with your hair and your necklaces, and now you have to go back. It is true that it takes a lot longer to re-train than it does to train. So right now you are having to train and un-train an already very WELL-trained child. That child has been trained that she can grab your hair, your necklace, somebody’s glasses, and she gets a little flick. Well, the flick was for a newborn. You have a 7 month old and that baby’s old enough to understand the word NO, and so you’re doing some back-walking. You are re-doing what you have already messed up. So it’s going take a little bit more reinforcement and maybe a little heavier reinforcement than a flick, now that the child is 7 months old.

<strong>Mike:</strong> Now I want to say that at 7 months old the child is not old enough to be able to reason that ‘if I do this, I’m going to get a spanking.’ The child is not old enough to be punished, obviously, at that age. So we use a thump or a little switch on the back of the hand, one stroke or two strokes, something like that, not to afflict suffering or pain on the child, but just to draw their attention to our word. And of course you only have to do that when they’re being rebellious or stubborn and refuse to listen to the NO. Refuse to respond. But don’t depend on that little swat or that little switching as all there is to training. It’s not. That’s a small part of it. Consistency is the keyword. Extreme consistency. Being very alert. Being diligent. Parenting is a full time job, and it requires vigilance. It requires studying the child’s eyes. Not just waiting until it becomes a frustrating, overt, outward failure to comply. But watching the eyebrows and the eyes, the slump of the shoulders, and anticipating what that child is thinking and feeling. And making sure that we are always in control and that we are training the child to be self-controlled and self-disciplined.

<em>[fiddle music fades in]</em>

<strong>Voiceover:</strong> Thanks for listening!  I hope it blesses your day. Don’t forget to check out Cane Creek Corner for this week’s specials.

<em>[fiddle music completes]</em>

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<strong>Debi Pearl:</strong> Papa and I are going to record, so y’all go ahead and shut the door.

<em>[door creaks then closes, children talking and laughing in background]</em>

<strong>Voiceover:</strong> Mike &amp; Debi speak this week about gently teaching limits to infants. I can say from personal experience that some of these concepts are what gave my first fussy little one her happy smile instead of a screaming tantrum.<strong><em></em></strong>

<strong>Mike:</strong> All right, the letter goes a little further Deb. Would you read the rest of it?

<strong>Debi</strong>: Ok, the next question is about training my little girl. Remember she is a 7 month old. The letter follows: I have made some mistakes already, like allowing her to play with my necklace and hair and now I’m having to go back and correct that. I wonder if you could be more specific about how this works. Is the objective for her to learn the word NO? I flick her hand and tell her NO but she tries over and over again. She cries after a few flicks and seems to be ‘getting it’ but what I gather from you it should only take 2 or 3 times. She continues to try for things after a training session. I flick her as hard as I can and maybe it needs to be a switch, or something to get her attention quicker. Also it seems almost everything is off limits for her. Do I continually tell her NO and flick her. I am feeding her and there may be some papers on the kitchen table and she reaches for them. Do I flick her hand and tell her NO? I certainly don’t want her playing with the papers, but how far do you need to go? Also, someone may be holding her and she reaches for their glasses. We have trained her that glasses are off limits but they might not know it or don’t care. So what do I do? Do I tell the people – Don’t let her get your glasses. Or do I tell her NO and flick her hand? It’s getting a little confusing because there are so many incidents that this applies to. Do they all get a swat? When she learns NO will the swats disappear? Am I making any sense? She’s not crawling yet so I don’t have the mobility factor yet. I agree with your techniques and I really want to implement them. Any advice would be appreciated.

<strong>Mike:</strong> One of the things I am impressed with there is she says it seems like almost everything is off limits for the child, and that is a fact of life. In my own house, most of what’s in my house is off limits to me. In other words, I don’t go into my daughters’ rooms and handle their toys, their objects, or their pictures or their treasures. I don’t get into their drawers. I don’t go into their closets. I don’t go into my boys’ rooms. I don’t go in there and touch and handle their vehicles. I don’t drive their vehicles without asking. When you go into a store, much of what is in a store is off limits. You can’t get into the jewelry case. You can’t get into where the watches are. It’s locked behind the glass. You can’t go into a grocery store and pick up anything that you see and stick it into your mouth. Most of life is full of limits. And when a child is born there are no limits. As I said the child knows pain. The child knows pleasure. The child has a want, a need, and then the need develops into a want. The want develops into a demand, and the demand develops into indulgence; and pretty soon the child is living a life of passion and indulgences and fulfillment. The job of a parent is to train that child to fit into society; to train that child to make adjustments NOW before it becomes embarrassing. If the child is trained at 7 months, then at 17 months you won’t have her throwing a fit in the grocery store because she expects to have everything that she sees sitting around her and be able to put it into her mouth. So YES, almost everything IS off limits to a child, and that’s a lesson you’ve got to communicate to your daughter.  And you have to communicate it NOW while it’s easy. Later on it will be much more difficult.

Now a child has a desire to touch, has a desire to taste, has a desire to feel and smell and handle and examine and explore. Of course you want to fulfill that drive in a child. You want to have a world in which that child is absolutely free to pick up one toy, throw it down, pick up another, throw it down, taste, touch, handle, scatter it, play with it, and do as she pleases. Each one of us has our own little world that’s ours, where we can govern it, we can control it. But then there’s that world that is not ours. It belongs to someone else and we have to exercise restraint when we have a desire to touch or handle it. If you go into a restaurant right now as an adult, there are lots of good things in there to eat but most everything in that restaurant is off limits to you. You don’t just walk up to the first table and the first good thing you see and pick it up and start eating it, but you go through certain social order, and that’s what your child has to become adjusted to. That there’s an order, there’s a procedure, that one has to exercise personal restraint. That you have to wait, you have to wait your turn, you have to wait for what’s yours. And you have to do it according to the custom and the culture in which you live.  So YES, it’s a good idea if you had a world for that child in which there were no natural limits, in which nothing was off limits. But then you would need to artificially create some off limits because when she gets in the REAL world, that’s what she’ll confront. So the way we train the child is we find some boundaries that we can enforce and we enforce those boundaries. For instance, not touching, not pulling on hair. Obviously if you avoid getting close enough for the child to pull your hair, in time she’ll grow up and learn not to pull hair. But NOW is a real good time to teach her the meaning of NO, to teach her self-control and self-restraint. Everyone is governed and the child has to learn to govern her own drives. So in terms of glasses, of course it’s very uncomfortable to have a child jerking your glasses off, and it makes you not want to pick them (the child) up. It makes you not want to hold them up close to you. So it’s good for the child to learn not to grab one’s glasses, not to put their finger in your mouth, or to put their finger in your eye, or not to pull on your hair. When your husband comes to the table and sits down to eat, he doesn’t mix his paperwork and his food up and create a mess. He had to learn that at some point, and now it’s a good time for your child to learn that. So don’t feel sorry for her because everything seems to be off limits. Rather you should be thankful that you can create some off limits now and gain that sense of self-control NOW before she gets to the point of where it becomes really embarrassing in a public situation.  Do you have any other thoughts on that Deb?

<strong>Debi:</strong>  I was just thinking, you said you did make some mistakes. You allowed your child to play with your hair and your necklaces, and now you have to go back. It is true that it takes a lot longer to re-train than it does to train. So right now you are having to train and un-train an already very WELL-trained child. That child has been trained that she can grab your hair, your necklace, somebody’s glasses, and she gets a little flick. Well, the flick was for a newborn. You have a 7 month old and that baby’s old enough to understand the word NO, and so you’re doing some back-walking. You are re-doing what you have already messed up. So it’s going take a little bit more reinforcement and maybe a little heavier reinforcement than a flick, now that the child is 7 months old.

<strong>Mike:</strong> Now I want to say that at 7 months old the child is not old enough to be able to reason that ‘if I do this, I’m going to get a spanking.’ The child is not old enough to be punished, obviously, at that age. So we use a thump or a little switch on the back of the hand, one stroke or two strokes, something like that, not to afflict suffering or pain on the child, but just to draw their attention to our word. And of course you only have to do that when they’re being rebellious or stubborn and refuse to listen to the NO. Refuse to respond. But don’t depend on that little swat or that little switching as all there is to training. It’s not. That’s a small part of it. Consistency is the keyword. Extreme consistency. Being very alert. Being diligent. Parenting is a full time job, and it requires vigilance. It requires studying the child’s eyes. Not just waiting until it becomes a frustrating, overt, outward failure to comply. But watching the eyebrows and the eyes, the slump of the shoulders, and anticipating what that child is thinking and feeling. And making sure that we are always in control and that we are training the child to be self-controlled and self-disciplined.

<em>[fiddle music fades in]</em>

<strong>Voiceover:</strong> Thanks for listening!  I hope it blesses your day. Don’t forget to check out Cane Creek Corner for this week’s specials.

<em>[fiddle music completes]</em>

&nbsp;

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		<title>Mail Bag &#8211; Bully</title>
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		<pubDate>Tue, 08 May 2012 11:00:20 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Michael Pearl</dc:creator>
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<strong>Debi Pearl:</strong> Papa and I are going to record, so y’all go ahead and shut the door.

<em>[door creaks then closes, children talking and laughing in background]</em>

<strong>Voiceover:</strong> Welcome to vintage answers from No Greater Joy’s archives. We’ve all seen the buzz about bullying in the media. But what about our kids? What should we be teaching them about how to treat those who are disliked by others? Hear Mike and Debi answer the question of how to guide our more mature kids into making a positive difference in another child’s life.

<strong>Debi:</strong> Okay, well, we have another letter. Now this letter is from a thirteen-year-old boy, and I’m not going to say his name, so I’ll call him Bob. He says, “My name is Bob and I am thirteen years old. I listened to your tapes, No Greater Joy, and I like it a lot. I have one question to ask you. You talked about a boy that no one wanted to play with. So you said that the boy should learn to be liked. Well, there’s an eight-year-old boy at our church that I don’t like to play with when I don’t have to play with him. When he comes over to our house with his parents, I wonder, would it be okay to avoid him, just go to my room without him? But if there are other people at the house, how can we all avoid him (because the people we have over don’t like him either)? What can I do?”

<strong>Mike Pearl:</strong> <em>[chuckles]</em> Sounds like he’s a pretty mature thirteen-year-old. He obviously has a twinge of conscience, or guilt, of thinking in terms of avoiding the child. He feels like he has some responsibility. It’s true that no man lives unto himself and no man dies unto himself. And I’d say this older boy, with that kind of insight, should have some input into that younger child’s life. He should examine, ask himself the question, “Why do people not like him? Why do parents not like him?” And then he should set out to change the child, to mold the child, to see what his needs are. If the child is nerdy, or if he’s ornery, or if he’s a jerk, then involve him in his own personal play or activities in some way as to mold him. This would be a great learning experience for the thirteen-year-old, to take some leadership. If he begins at this point avoiding a smaller child, simply because he doesn’t like him, then, it could be a habit that he would carry through the rest of his life. We don’t live on this earth just to pleasure ourselves, but to minister to others. Now at other times we might advise withdrawal. For instance if it was a fourteen- or fifteen-year-old boy that was a problem, and the thirteen-year-old boy was swayed by him, or moved by him, then parents should avoid bringing them in contact with each other. But in this situation, where there appears to be some maturity in the thirteen-year-old, the parents should counsel him, encourage him, work with him, ask him how it’s coming along, and even go out of his way to, once a week, invite the child over, or to go to his house, and spend some time. This would be a great ministry and a great learning experience for this thirteen-year-old. What do you say, Deb?

<strong>Debi:</strong> I say, that sounds real good. I’ve seen that happen in our own family a lot. We, as a family, like to minister to the underdog, if you would say that. You know, we enjoy watching people grow, and my children have enjoyed that, and I think it has caused us to be better, more sensitive to people’s needs. When you pick up the person that doesn’t need to be picked up then you haven’t picked up anybody at all. Training a child to start helping others that just can’t make it, when they’re young, by the time they’re sixteen years old, they’re ready to start fulltime ministry. And so that’s what I would tell this young man, I would say, start being a minister of the Lord right now by ministering to this eight-year-old little boy. Reach out and meet his needs and find out why he is a child that no one likes, and then be his friend.

<em>[fiddle music fades in]</em>

<strong>Voiceover:</strong> Well, that wraps up this week’s archives. We hope you found it as encouraging as we did. Don’t forget to check out the specials at Cane Creek Corner.

<em>[fiddle music completes]</em>]]></description>
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<strong>Debi Pearl:</strong> Papa and I are going to record, so y’all go ahead and shut the door.

<em>[door creaks then closes, children talking and laughing in background]</em>

<strong>Voiceover:</strong> Welcome to vintage answers from No Greater Joy’s archives. We’ve all seen the buzz about bullying in the media. But what about our kids? What should we be teaching them about how to treat those who are disliked by others? Hear Mike and Debi answer the question of how to guide our more mature kids into making a positive difference in another child’s life.

<strong>Debi:</strong> Okay, well, we have another letter. Now this letter is from a thirteen-year-old boy, and I’m not going to say his name, so I’ll call him Bob. He says, “My name is Bob and I am thirteen years old. I listened to your tapes, No Greater Joy, and I like it a lot. I have one question to ask you. You talked about a boy that no one wanted to play with. So you said that the boy should learn to be liked. Well, there’s an eight-year-old boy at our church that I don’t like to play with when I don’t have to play with him. When he comes over to our house with his parents, I wonder, would it be okay to avoid him, just go to my room without him? But if there are other people at the house, how can we all avoid him (because the people we have over don’t like him either)? What can I do?”

<strong>Mike Pearl:</strong> <em>[chuckles]</em> Sounds like he’s a pretty mature thirteen-year-old. He obviously has a twinge of conscience, or guilt, of thinking in terms of avoiding the child. He feels like he has some responsibility. It’s true that no man lives unto himself and no man dies unto himself. And I’d say this older boy, with that kind of insight, should have some input into that younger child’s life. He should examine, ask himself the question, “Why do people not like him? Why do parents not like him?” And then he should set out to change the child, to mold the child, to see what his needs are. If the child is nerdy, or if he’s ornery, or if he’s a jerk, then involve him in his own personal play or activities in some way as to mold him. This would be a great learning experience for the thirteen-year-old, to take some leadership. If he begins at this point avoiding a smaller child, simply because he doesn’t like him, then, it could be a habit that he would carry through the rest of his life. We don’t live on this earth just to pleasure ourselves, but to minister to others. Now at other times we might advise withdrawal. For instance if it was a fourteen- or fifteen-year-old boy that was a problem, and the thirteen-year-old boy was swayed by him, or moved by him, then parents should avoid bringing them in contact with each other. But in this situation, where there appears to be some maturity in the thirteen-year-old, the parents should counsel him, encourage him, work with him, ask him how it’s coming along, and even go out of his way to, once a week, invite the child over, or to go to his house, and spend some time. This would be a great ministry and a great learning experience for this thirteen-year-old. What do you say, Deb?

<strong>Debi:</strong> I say, that sounds real good. I’ve seen that happen in our own family a lot. We, as a family, like to minister to the underdog, if you would say that. You know, we enjoy watching people grow, and my children have enjoyed that, and I think it has caused us to be better, more sensitive to people’s needs. When you pick up the person that doesn’t need to be picked up then you haven’t picked up anybody at all. Training a child to start helping others that just can’t make it, when they’re young, by the time they’re sixteen years old, they’re ready to start fulltime ministry. And so that’s what I would tell this young man, I would say, start being a minister of the Lord right now by ministering to this eight-year-old little boy. Reach out and meet his needs and find out why he is a child that no one likes, and then be his friend.

<em>[fiddle music fades in]</em>

<strong>Voiceover:</strong> Well, that wraps up this week’s archives. We hope you found it as encouraging as we did. Don’t forget to check out the specials at Cane Creek Corner.

<em>[fiddle music completes]</em>]]></content:encoded>
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		<title>Created To Need A Help Meet &#8211; Audio Preview (FREE)</title>
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		<pubDate>Thu, 16 Feb 2012 02:25:34 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>No Greater Joy Ministries</dc:creator>
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Read by Nathan Pearl, the audio book will be available for instant download in our <a href="http://shop.nogreaterjoy.org/digital">web store</a> on March 1, 2012, and on March 15 you will be able to buy it on MP3 CD as well.]]></description>
			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p><img width="450" height="300" src="http://nogreaterjoy.org/wordpress/f/created-to-need-a-help-meet-download-450x300.jpg" class="attachment-post-thumbnail-single wp-post-image" alt="Created To Need A Help Meet - Digital Audio" title="Created To Need A Help Meet - Digital Audio" /></p>Listen to a sample from Chapter 2 of the upcoming Created To Need A Help Meet audio book!

Read by Nathan Pearl, the audio book will be available for instant download in our <a href="http://shop.nogreaterjoy.org/digital">web store</a> on March 1, 2012, and on March 15 you will be able to buy it on MP3 CD as well.]]></content:encoded>
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		<pubDate>Fri, 30 Dec 2011 23:22:03 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Michael Pearl</dc:creator>
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		<description><![CDATA[<p><img width="450" height="300" src="http://nogreaterjoy.org/wordpress/f/luke-download-450x300.jpg" class="attachment-post-thumbnail-single wp-post-image" alt="Luke (Audio) (Digital Download)" title="Luke" /></p><a href="http://shop.nogreaterjoy.org/luke-download"><img class="alignleft" style="z-index: 2;" src="http://nogreaterjoy.org/wordpress/f/luke-download-150x150.jpg" alt="Luke (Audio) (Digital Download)" width="150" height="150" /></a>Mike recently taught a series on the Book of Luke. We now offer it for instant download through our web store - <a href="http://shop.nogreaterjoy.org/luke-download">go there now</a>!

You may also enjoy listening to these sample audio clips which give you just a taste of the audio.
<p class="clrl"><strong>Luke Preview - Sample from Chapter 7</strong></p>
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<strong>Luke Preview - Demons</strong>

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<strong>Luke Preview - Mary</strong>

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			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p><img width="450" height="300" src="http://nogreaterjoy.org/wordpress/f/luke-download-450x300.jpg" class="attachment-post-thumbnail-single wp-post-image" alt="Luke (Audio) (Digital Download)" title="Luke" /></p><a href="http://shop.nogreaterjoy.org/luke-download"><img class="alignleft" style="z-index: 2;" src="http://nogreaterjoy.org/wordpress/f/luke-download-150x150.jpg" alt="Luke (Audio) (Digital Download)" width="150" height="150" /></a>Mike recently taught a series on the Book of Luke. We now offer it for instant download through our web store - <a href="http://shop.nogreaterjoy.org/luke-download">go there now</a>!

You may also enjoy listening to these sample audio clips which give you just a taste of the audio.
<p class="clrl"><strong>Luke Preview - Sample from Chapter 7</strong></p>
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<strong>Luke Preview - Demons</strong>

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<strong>Luke Preview - Mary</strong>

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		<title>Getting to Heaven</title>
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		<pubDate>Thu, 15 Dec 2011 16:53:27 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Michael Pearl</dc:creator>
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		<guid isPermaLink="false">http://new.nogreaterjoy.org/?post_type=audio&#038;p=14245</guid>
		<description><![CDATA[<p><img width="300" height="300" src="http://nogreaterjoy.org/wordpress/f/getting-to-heaven-download-900x900.jpg" class="attachment-post-thumbnail-single wp-post-image" alt="Getting to Heaven, Michael Pearl" title="Getting to Heaven, Michael Pearl" /></p>Taken from Romans 1-3 this is a message designed to introduce the subject of the nature of sin and redemption. It will be of particular interest to those who ask how God could damn the heathen who have never heard of Jehovah God or Jesus Christ. Ignorance is not an excuse; it is an exemption from condemnation. This is a highly provocative and nontraditional approach to a most critical Bible doctrine.

Message recorded by Michael Pearl at the Church at Cane Creek on December 11, 2011.]]></description>
			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p><img width="300" height="300" src="http://nogreaterjoy.org/wordpress/f/getting-to-heaven-download-900x900.jpg" class="attachment-post-thumbnail-single wp-post-image" alt="Getting to Heaven, Michael Pearl" title="Getting to Heaven, Michael Pearl" /></p>Taken from Romans 1-3 this is a message designed to introduce the subject of the nature of sin and redemption. It will be of particular interest to those who ask how God could damn the heathen who have never heard of Jehovah God or Jesus Christ. Ignorance is not an excuse; it is an exemption from condemnation. This is a highly provocative and nontraditional approach to a most critical Bible doctrine.

Message recorded by Michael Pearl at the Church at Cane Creek on December 11, 2011.]]></content:encoded>
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		<title>Good and Evil Chapter 3</title>
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		<pubDate>Thu, 15 Sep 2011 20:00:03 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>No Greater Joy Ministries</dc:creator>
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		<title>Hebrews Chapter 10</title>
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		<pubDate>Mon, 13 Oct 2008 17:28:18 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Michael Pearl</dc:creator>
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But it’s got one theme - that the sacrifice of Christ is a better sacrifice, based on better promises, producing a better covenant, based on better blood, with a better hope, with a better promise, with a better High Priest, with better things to come, with a better city.

You can also purchase <a href="http://shop.nogreaterjoy.org/hebrews-mp3-cd">Hebrews on MP3 CD</a>.]]></description>
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But it’s got one theme - that the sacrifice of Christ is a better sacrifice, based on better promises, producing a better covenant, based on better blood, with a better hope, with a better promise, with a better High Priest, with better things to come, with a better city.

You can also purchase <a href="http://shop.nogreaterjoy.org/hebrews-mp3-cd">Hebrews on MP3 CD</a>.]]></content:encoded>
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		<pubDate>Tue, 23 Sep 2008 15:43:33 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Michael Pearl</dc:creator>
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You can also purchase the <a href="http://shop.nogreaterjoy.org/sinful-nature-mp3-cd">Sinful Nature MP3 CD</a>]]></description>
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