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Posted February 14, 2013

ok there is this guy that God has put on my heart to pray for(and possibly marry some day I don’t know yet), he is exactly what I am looking for in a husband, and the son of a family friend that my parents have known for years. The problem is I live about 700 miles away from him and only see him about every 1.5-2 years. ¬†Does anyone have any tips?

 

Thank you so much!!

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  1. Allie

    That’s not a problem for the Lord!!!

    The problem is that you can’t be sure if God was the one who put this guy in your heart. How could you know?
    Our hearts are deceitful!!

    I suggest you to do something:

    “Give thanks unto the LORD; call upon his name: make known his deeds among the people.
    Sing unto him, sing psalms unto him: talk ye of all his wondrous works.
    Glory ye in his holy name: let the heart of them rejoice that seek the LORD.
    Seek the LORD, and his strength: seek his face evermore.” Psalm 105:1-4

    Seek the Lord, delight in Him, and He will give you the desires of your heart.
    It may be him, it may not, he may be for other girl. Who knows? The Lord.

    Just pray for him to become a strong servant of the Lord, and to give you peace and joy for whatever He choses for you. He has the best for you!!!

    Seek the Lord and His will.

    # February 25, 2013

  2. conformingtotheson

    I’m in the same situation! Continue to pray for him but consider your future husband. If this guy is not the Lord’s will for you, would your husband appreciate you praying for him the way that you are? Pray for that guy to be godly, and to do God’s will. Try not to give your heart to that guy until you know for sure. Praying for you!

    # March 2, 2013

  3. bethany94

    Like conformingtotheson I am also in the same situation, but different. The best advice I can give you is pray and give it up to God to do His will and in His timing. Ask God how to best pray for him, and pray about whatever God puts on your heart to pray. You may not understand now, but down the road you will understand why God was calling you to pray this way. Also pray about journaling about this time in your life. When I felt God leading me towards this young man and once I knew that it wasn’t some fleeting thought or dream I started to journal the dreams, prayers and interactions I had with him. It is so nice to have all those details down on paper to look back on and see all that God has done in him and myself.

    God has been leading me through dreams and because I am not able to know what is going on in his life it is nice to have an ‘update’ from the One who know all things every once in a while. I have learned and I am continuing to learn every day to trust in God and that His plan will be done in His perfect timing. I will pray for you and I hope that you find peace in God and His will for you.

    # March 7, 2013

  4. Faith17 - the author of this post.

    Thank you so much!!

    # March 13, 2013

  5. elynn3

    My little sister was just married two weeks ago to a wonderful man from Florida–but they met while she was living in Illinois. Distance is not an issue for the Lord, but it is important to not become too attached to the idea of this man becoming your husband (I know that’s a lot easier said than done!) because His plans are ALWAYS better than ours.
    My new brother-in-law waited for nearly five years for a young woman that he believed God intended him to marry. She is a missionary in South America and gave him no indication that she would be willing to marry him, but he continued to hope and pray God would bring them together. Finally, the young lady let him know in plain words that she was not interested, and he began to look elsewhere for his help meet. His choice to marry my sister has blessed our family beyond words and we are so proud of the way they conducted themselves during the courtship and wedding.
    However, a good friend of mine became involved in a relationship with a man in Florida during the same time, and did not have such a happy story. Because of their distance (she lives near us in IL), she did not realize that this young man had begun and severed a relationship with four other girls, leaving a string of broken hearts everywhere he went. After being sent pictures of rings and discussing wedding plans, my friend became broken heart #5, and her heart will always bear the scar of having loved too deeply when there was no firm promise of tomorrow.
    So my advice is to be wary when considering long-distance courtships, but have faith that God will bring all things about for your good.

    # April 2, 2013