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July 17, 2012

Often we receive letters of rebuke for every conceivable perceived issue, and always from those who call themselves believers. One of today’s letters was from a husband who admitted that his wife was wonderfully changed after reading my book Created to Be His Help Meet, BUT when he read it, he was aghast how little Scripture (300 plus verses??) I used and NO GREEK!!! It took him six pages of rebuke to come to the point of telling me I was a heretic. Yes, I think I know how Moses felt.

Sometimes I want to lay down my pen and just hold my grandbabies. I want my tired old husband to just sit in his easy chair instead of daily pouring out his life until he can barely walk through the door, but then I remember one word—STAND. God says it like this: “Wherefore take unto you the whole armour of God, that ye may be able to withstand in the evil day, and having done all, to stand. Stand therefore, having your loins girt about with truth . . . “ (Eph 6: 13–14)

So today I commit to continue writing encouragement to young families to flee from the destructiveness of being a slave to sin. We will teach young folks how to have a good marriage, how to love their children and train them to honor God. Mike will keep teaching the Bible verse by verse, and we will make as much teaching as possible free on the Web. We will continue to help others gird their loins with truth so that they may STAND in the evil day . . . because it is now upon us.

77 comments on “Stand”

  1. Go Debi!
    Fight the good fight remember you're on God's side
    We (my husband and I plus one awesome daughter and five wonderfully rowdy boys) love your books and Mikes Bible cds they are like water on dry ground. Your family has blessed us beyond description. We're praying for you.

  2. Dear Debi:

    I am so sorry you had to wade through such an awful letter from a man who should have been THANKING you instead. So, I'll do it instead...for myself and my family.

    Words simply cannot express what a blessing you, Mike, and your family and ministry have been in my life. I was given the "To Train Up a Child" book when my first son was born. I was enormously blessed by it, and enjoyed Mike's writing style, and subscribed to the monthly magazine. I was delighted and blessed by YOUR writing, too, as well as your children as they began to contribute. You all didn't always say what I wanted to hear, but I recognized the truth and the heart of love and obedience to the Lord in your words.

    One thing led to another, and the Lord used Mike's teachings in Romans to clear away the yoke of Calvinism in my mind. My husband began paying attention to what I was learning..he was already strong in his faith, but soaked in the teachings as well, and we began to want to truly learn the Truth from scripture, not man's "wisdom" from the pulpit.

    My whole family has been blessed, we have found a church that preaches the truth using the King James Bible, and influenced our friends through your hard work. I could go on and on, but I wanted to encourage you that you and Mike truly are making an eternal difference.

    I wanted to send all of Psalm 37 to you, but will settle on the first few verses:
    "1 Fret not thyself because of evildoers, neither be thou envious against the workers of iniquity.
    2 For they shall soon be cut down like the grass, and wither as the green herb.
    3 Trust in the Lord, and do good; so shalt thou dwell in the land, and verily thou shalt be fed.
    4 Delight thyself also in the Lord: and he shall give thee the desires of thine heart.
    5 Commit thy way unto the Lord; trust also in him; and he shall bring it to pass.
    6 And he shall bring forth thy righteousness as the light, and thy judgment as the noonday."

    That man will see someday what a foolish letter he wrote. Your righteousness has been a light.

    With sincere thanks, and may the Lord continue to bless your ministry!

  3. we have bought every piece of work you guys have produced and watched and listened to all the free stuff. everybody elses material seems bland and boring in comparison.we always get excited when you produce something new. THANK YOU!

      1. yes it is Jonas! And thank you for introducing us to his teaching. I understand how you might be surprised to see this comment. God Bless You !

  4. I think you guys are wonderful. A few years ago, I wrote you guys a letter over a trifle issue my husband and I were having with his mom, and I was directed to your book. Thank goodness, I wasn't fed the usual garbage: "think only of yourself, forget everyone else" attitude, and thank goodness I was fed many biblical truths that has made my life wonderful. We also have received the military care packages, and have benefited very much from the reading material and cds. My husband is a big loving sweet heart now, and thinks Mike's new book is informative and an exciting read. I am a much happier person with the help of your books. We are also more loving towards other people as well. I was also able to help save the marriage of another military wife by telling her the principles in Created to be His Help Meet. She is not a believer, but the common sense wisdom of the book (be loveable if you want to be loved) has saved her from divorce. Thank you so much for "standing", you have helped us not fall, we have leaned on you while you stood. Many, many other families need you! Keep up the great work! The Pearls are awesome, and my heroes! Oh, and everything turned out okay with the in laws too (you know it's a good advice when you can't get along peacefully with the in laws!). =) Thanks a million times Mrs. Debi!

  5. I just want to thank you for your book, "Created to be His Helpmeet". God has used it to rescue our marriage, if not from divorce, then certainly from being one that was not honoring to God. (This is my third marriage, and my husband's second.) I am on my third reading/studying of it (along side my KJV Bible!) in a year. Earlier this year my husband read your husband's book, "Created to Need a Helpmeet", and though he's never talked about it, I can tell he took it to heart. We will be married 18 years this November, and this past year has been the most joyful of them all. We're focused on serving God and each other, partly due to you and your husband's ministry, as well as a doctrinely-sound, KJV-loving local church. I am sorry for the much persecution you receive at the hands of other Christians, as well as those who are not believers. I know that this means that you are doing something right, so thank you for your faithfulness and commitment to STAND! "Yea, and all that will live godly in Christ Jesus shall suffer persecution."-2 Tim. 3:12

  6. My heart overflows with God's love for you Debbie. You have had a profound effect on my life. I still struggle with applying God's way to my heart and mind (I'm still being attacked by others). At times what you and Michael write makes me uncomfortable, so what. I still go to God's word and hold your information up to it. Even if you put your pen down, I will always have you and your family in my heart and mind.

  7. Debi, we love you. My four year old twins know you and your husband as Mr. and Mrs. Pearl who teach mommy about herbs and how to be a good mama and daddy about how to be a good daddy. I'm sorry you're going through this right now. We just love you. hugs

  8. I love you and your whole family & ministry. Your book is amazing and you are an amazing woman of God. He delights in you, and you do the Father real proud. I am thrilled to call you my forever sister in the Lord, and cannot WAIT to give you a huge hug in glory some day.

  9. What a drag. You guys are wonderful and your ministry and faithfulness have made such a difference in the lives of so many! My marriage would likely have ended 6 years ago if not for some stranger online pointing me to your child training books. They prepared my heart to receive the message in Created to be a Help Meet. We have been married for 11 years now and just had our 3rd child. My husband is not a believer, but I can honestly say we have a happy home now and I can see God working in his heart, slowly but surely. Thank you for the sacrifices you have made.

  10. Debi,

    I totally get the "just want to hold my grandbabies and have my tired old husband rest" part of your letter. For the past 24 years, my husband and I have been doing pretty much the same thing as you and Mike have - we're just not as well-known as you two are. We've been training parents to discipline their children and teaching wives to submit and husbands to love. We've also been mentoring and guiding homeschooling families. For the past eight years, my husband has also been pastoring a church. We recently graduated our last child from homeschooling (we have three: a son of 23, a married daughter of 22, and a currently-courting daughter of 18) and we really just felt like we wanted to just get off the merry-go-round of this world. But, every time we think of stopping, we realize we can't. And for the same reason: STAND. Well, that and I really want to hear the words "Well done, my good and faithful servant." 🙂

    Keep on keeping on for Jesus!


  11. GO DEBBIE!!!
    I thank you for writing this book. It has helped my wife tremendously in our relationship, and I am reading created to need a help meet. much slower than my wife read yours ;). I enjoy your writing and am sharing TTUAC with every young couple I meet. Thank you much for standing up against the tide.

  12. YES, Mrs. Pearl!!! STAND!!! Praying for you and your husband. Your ministry has been and continues to be such a blessing to us!! My mother left when I was 2 years old, and I grew up in a lost household. I got saved when I was 17 and God put it on my heart to be a wife and mama. So I prayed for God to send me a Godly husband. That He did, and shortly after He blessed us with our first child. Needless to say, I had no idea what I was doing, never have seen an example for myself. I thank God that you answered the calling of God to teach the younger women and write Created to Be His Help Meet. My marriage would be A. Mess. without your guidance and wisdom. I look to you as a "Spiritual Mother" of sorts. 🙂 I also have to add that I thank God for every time someone comments on how sweet and funny and obedient my kids are. Now, mind you, they are full of it and can be a handful... but in the sweetest and best way possible. I heard my 13-year-old daughter say to me when she saw some younger kids acting up to their parents in the park, "Well, if I was their mama, they would all be getting spanked" Haha! No, certainly no abuse there! She respects the rod, like you taught me to teach her. THANK YOU!!

  13. Debi-I love your book. My hubby loves that I love your book and I've taught a women's study on your book several times! That's hundreds of lives changed bc of ur life and faithfulness! Being in ministry w my husband for over 15 years has taught me that most Christians who like to verbally attack have their own hard heart and are usually prideful and unwilling to change their own rotten behaviors. Hang in there. Tell Mike too. Your lives and teachings are very useful to many many of us! Love you both!

  14. I would like to say Thank you for your, dedication and your stand for the truth. I am in marriage #2. It was spiraling down hill due to selfishness. I was guided to your book Created to be His Help Meet. I truly believe if I had read it in my first marriage I would never divorced. It has truly along with The Word enlightened me to a whole new way of living. I am now studying Preparing to be his Help Meet with my daughter..My husband and I have on our book shelf much of yalls material. We love you both! Stand! Even when you are tired! The Lord will bless you for it!

  15. From a young Mom who came from a sinful past; who is now trying to be a Godly Wife and raise the two boys God has blessed her with (so far) to be Warriors, I can't begin to express what your Ministry has done for me and my Family! You are like the Godly Parents I never had. I turn to you and Mr. Pearl for wisdom on an almost daily basis, THANK YOU!

  16. I praise the Lord for you and the fact that you STAND! Your book has changed my marriage and my life - I can honestly say that I've seen a huge change in my husband as well. He's not read your book, but he is reaping the benefits! Praise God for you and your husband! Praise God for truth! 'Fight the good fight of faith, lay hold on eternal life, whereunto thou art also called, and hast professed a good profession before many witnesses.'

  17. Dear Debi, if it were not for your teachings leading me to a proper relationship with Christ and my husband, I would be a pridefully bitter and divorced woman. I was actually just contemplating writing you a letter to tell you what an encouragement you are to me as a woman. I am missing a true Titus 2 woman in my life to personally guide me, and I feel I get that guidance from you. The things that your family has put out as a ministry have greatly benefitted not only me, but also my husband and children. I am pleased that you are not going to allow the lost to bully you away from your blessed ministry. People like me need people like you to teach us and guide us in our Biblical understanding.

    Thank you and God Bless.

  18. We have to realize that most people who pride themselves on being "spiritual", only believe that they and their brother Coy handle the Word of God correctly...(and Coy bears watching). We love your ministry and your family. Thanks for your service to our family.

  19. Yes, STAND. I read your book (and many of the No Greater Joy materials), and it convicted me. I am a changed woman, and my husband loves it! Ironically, just today I was given a "warning" article about the Created book, which said lots of not nice things.... It made me sad. So, I will stand with you Debi, and continue to pass along copies of your book to any of my acquaintances that are complaining or struggling with their marriages.

  20. Mrs. Pearl,

    You and your husband with this ministry have been such a blessing to so many people, especially to my family. Stand, sister, Stand! Praise God for people like you. I have started going to a bible study at a friends house, and we are using your "Created" book. I am seeing first hand how God has used this book. Most of us have read and applied the principles prior to this, and I must say, you should have heard all the encouraging things said about how it has helped marriages. You will always have people who rebel against God and his word, and his people proclaiming it. I have given this book to a few ladies, and they just can't take the truth, all I can figure is they're rebellious against God. I'm nobody, I don't wanna hear some things either, but we have to be willing to surrender our will to God. It's not you they hate, its God and his truth. We have also read and listened to many other materials you put out, and we have applied much to our lives and home. God has used you all in such a mighty way, just think of the rewards awaiting you, of the greatest is being with our Lord and Saviour Jesus Christ. Much love in Christ. Psalms 118:6 The Lord is on my side; I will not fear: what can man do unto me?

  21. Blessings and strength and courage and joy and peace to you and yours!!!!
    in Him,

  22. Your ministry has blessed our family for over 20 years, and I am now an empty nester waiting for the grandbabies. I still read your magazine and always agree with your articles. I bought the How to be Help Meet for our daughter who is happily married for 4 1/2 years. We homeschooled all three daughters with the help of your book on how to train a child up a child. I understand there are days you just want to sigh and just enjoy those grandbabies with your husband. However, I believe God knows your concerns and will give you those "special" days where you can just sit in that rocking chair and enjoy your husband's company. Thank you for being such faithful servants.

  23. Debbie: Keep on keeping on. I think of you guys and your ministry almost every day because that is how often your positive influences help me do a better job with my family and my faith walk. I did see a note in a book I have been reading lately (Praying Scripture for your Teen), that said, God does not call us to be successful; He calls us to be faithful. I think about that a lot. There is no guarantee that I will ever see the results of my efforts, but I am to keep on planting and instilling and watering. And I know you know that. Just take heart that there are more of us appreciators than there are negators. 🙂 Thank you for your continuous hard work and impactful teaching.

  24. Dear Debbie just hold on to God and keep up the great work you do. I shutter to think what kind of wife I would have been if it would not been for your book. God spoke to my heart through your book and changed me for the better. I have a happy marriage and a happy husband. Thank you for doing what you do. God bless you 🙂

  25. Dear Debbie,
    I cannot tell you and Mike ENOUGH how your standing in the Truth has blessed our family! Because of Mike's teaching verse by verse and expounding on the truth of God's Word, our home has been renewed, restored, redeemed! God's Word has changed my hubby and in turn has changed our home. To see the work of the Lord in our home like that energizes my faith in the power of God's Word.
    We read your magazine, listen to Mike's teaching,our boys are blessed by the Good and Evil and other of your publications; and ,of course, I've read and reread Created to Be His Helpmeet. So thank you, thank you, thank you, and keep up the good work.

  26. You are such a blessing to me and to my family. Your teaching has reformed my marriage and given us a house of peace. Most of my family is against the Helpmeet book but I KNOW the truth. The proof is in the fruit! Thank you so much for standing!

  27. You ARE cherished and appreciated. I have been going through my old issues of NGJ and I have been seeing things that I didn't before and I am thankful you have the guts to tell people what needs to be said. Just maybe enough of us will change and make a difference in America one family at a time. Bless you sister.

  28. Praying for you. Of course the devil doesn't like what you are doing. He has been content with the media teaching everyone to take offense to anything good someone has to say. Keep doing what God has told you to do knowing you are honoring Him.

  29. All I can say is,"thank you" Mike and Debbie, for all you have done. Rejoice when men speak all manner of evil against you. You all have blessed us beyond words. I really hate to see y'all growing old when we desperately need folks like you. Please be encouraged to continue in the Lord.

  30. Debi.
    I am one woman who came across your book, Created To Be His HelpMeet, in 2005 and it radically changed our home. My husband was sooooo moved by the change in me that he watched a video by Mike about training your children and he pulled our 1st grader out of school mid-year and we began our homeschooling years:). My husband has been changed by Mike's writings and bought his book Created To Need a HelpMeet and has given it to his friends who are struggling. Your ministry has changed us. We were raised in very, very dysfunctional families who sought Godliness but had no tools. Your daughters' ministries have helped me so much in child training to herbs and simple living. May the Lord continue to multiply your ministry and I pray your children continue it when you and Mike have to lay it down. Much, much love from our home to yours...
    Gage and Jodi Brown

  31. Dearest Pearls,

    Please know that you are a tremendous blessing in MANY lives and there are thousands upon thousands of people who are very grateful for your wisdom and willingness to share it. PLEASE do not stop! You and your family are always in our thanksgiving and prayers!

  32. I cannot thank you enough for all of the things you and your family have written. And for being examples of how a true follower of Christ should live their life. But most of all for your willingness to STAND up for what you believe and to teach others as well. You have greatly affected my life in such a positive way a.d helped me learn how to have a closer walk with God. I pray I can stand firm and pass these desires on to my children as well. God bless you!

  33. There are many many more of us that are beyond greatful to have you as our teachers in the word. Thank you for all you do and please continue to stand for the truth in the ways God shows you. All of your brothers and sisters in the Lord are standing with you! Many Blessings and Hugs to you : )

  34. My family and I are very thankful to God for your family! Were praying for you and thank you for representing us to the world to help fight for our freedoms so we can lead a quite and peaceable life in all godliness and honesty!

  35. Mr and Mrs. Pearl,

    Thank you so much for standing in the gap for those of us who needed help finding the way to a heavenly marriage and healthy, loving parenting. Our family has been fabulously, gloriously changed because you were willing to stand on God's word and tell us what we need to hear.

    I'm sorry you hear from so many ditractors, people often look to others for perfection instead of looking to the Father.

    Thank you for all you do. We pray for you often


  36. Mrs. Debi,
    Your reaction is Bible! Thank you for your faithfulness to God and to His word. His word is the only thing that matters. Thank you for standing strong on the KJV. Thank you for continuing to STAND! God does honor faithfulness through wisdom, discernment and results! Your body has definitely been the living sacrifice as stated in Romans 12:1. Keep on keeping on!

  37. Please do continue to stand. I love & appreciate the pouring out of your life. The wisdom you have shared has been & will continue to be greatly used by God to change lives...mine included. The created to be his helpmeet book has & is a constant resource. Praise God for the way He is using all you have done!!! To both Mike & Debbie. THANKYOU!!!

  38. Amen and amen to all of the above! I already have God's word exactly the way He wanted me to have it: in English! The Romans tapes and your book (Created) changed my life and my marriage/family. "Eight Kingdoms" and "Repentance" weren't too shabby either. THANK YOU!!!

  39. I just wanted you to know you've been nothing but an encouragement to me and have only helped me grow as a wife and Christian (and someday, as a mother, Lord Willing). Your entire family is a blessing to me. God Bless you all.

  40. Thank you for faithfully standing! I pray many come along to hold your arms up during this time of battle. May the Lord bring an Elisha to carry on your ministry when the day comes. There are so many of us out here, that you have never even met, that love and cherish you.

  41. So thankful for you and your husband's ministry. Your marriage book has been a huge blessing to me!!

  42. I appreciate you. I hope mine and all the other post will encourage you to press forward.

  43. Thank you so much for sharing the wisdom God has given you and for allowing Him to work through you. You don't know how much it is appreciated 🙂

  44. Thank means so much to so many. You give us hope for this evil time as you help us keep our eyes looking upward to the Lord.

  45. Don't give up Debbie!!! The Pearls have been a wonderful blessing to many people in many places. I have received your magazine for quite some time now, and I can't put it down once I open it up. I have to read it cover to cover. I have your 'Created to be his Helpmeet' book and the child training books and think that they are wonderfully helpful. I have gone to home group studies that used your book and it was both convicting and encouraging. We used your "Preparing to be a Helpmeet" book in our Young Girl's Club, and I hope they will remember it when the time comes for them to marry. I have given your books (including the "Good and Evil" book) as gifts. What a blessing to have books with that kind of information to share with others!! Don't take the critical letters too personal. I know that it can be hard to take, especially from believers. But when they are brought up and taught like that, they believe that they are doing the right thing. Maybe someday they will learn God's truth! Keep on keeping on!!! God bless you and your family!!

  46. And I thank you very much for your continuation. God is using you mightily and I just want to encourage you and let you know you are doing what is good and right. I am 30 years old in a verbally abusive marriage. God has used your book and teachings to turn my heart toward God's plan for me as my husband's wife and to God's plan for my marriage. I desperately need your encouragement and explanations of the Word and commandments of God. Thank you for continuing to take a STAND!

  47. My marriage and my heart were completely transformed by your book and study (I did it four times!). The scriptures and God's word pertaining to women completely changed my heart. The last 3 years of marriage have been amazing... even though life has been hard in other area's, out marriage is solid! Please keep standing! You are making a difference! God is working through you!

  48. I am blessed beyond words by the wisdom your family imparts. I count you as my family in Christ and I love you all. Your joy has spread and touched my heart and blessed my family. Thank you so much for STANDING, teaching and encouraging others to as well.

  49. Dear Debi,
    Your book has saved my life and my marriage. God through you has saved my marriage. My husband had an affair almost 2years ago. I forgave him immediately....etc. I thought I was doing all the right things according to God but when we just kep finding ourselves in a place of impass in our marriage.....I had him leave. He wanted to leave. I believed it was finally over. Everything I loved was gone. My little boys wihtout his in our home. Well.....between prayer ...heartfult on my face humling prayer for my husband...not for me....and reading YOUR BOOK....saved my marriage!!! I was totally convicted that I was not doing things God's way at all. I was convinced 95% of my marriage falling apart was my own doing. All along I belived I was being the good Christian wife. How wrong I was amazed me. Thank you for your book. I began immediately implimenting these things in my daily life and mu husband came home to me on HIS OWN and he has fallen ion love with me in a way that he cant put into words. He is very greatful for my uncoditional love; my ability to forgive without reminding him that I have, and f

  50. Ah! I just want to come down there from here in Kentucky with my family and bring you hugs of encouragement! I read your other article about homeschoolers believing lies about you, and I'm not getting that at all. And I know lots of homeschoolers. I wonder if you get so many letters of rebuke because you actually listen and respond to people. That's rare and wonderful in workouts of so many distractions and a culture seeming to be going down at the head. Maybe you need a complaint department to help manage some of that. 😉 We send our love your way. Be strong and of good courage !

  51. Why Do you HAVE TO TEACH others how to be husbands and wives and parents to dicipline their children? Isn`t that a reposibility for everyone to have for themselves in for God?

    Don`t you understand that teachers shall receive more judges from God than others? (it is written in the Bible)

    It is a huge responibility to make that inpact on others, not at least to weak souls.

    When someone receive the Lord as their saviour, he gives us The Holy Spirit and the Bible to teach us, one and everyone.

    Nobody needs your and others advice and impact on them and their families. We should learn about seeking the Lord from our pastors and teachers, not certain advices about how to dicipline and how to be a helpmeet.

    You teach that the husband is the head and the leader, but if a partically husband is not agree with your teaching, you call him "someone that call themselves believers". What is that? He is just doing what you are teaching, he is taking charge and should be respected for that.

    It would have been better if you took some rest from what you are doing, hold our arms around on your own grandchildren, and let others children and grandchildren left alone!

    I don`t want any harm on you, but I think you are irrensponsible and have arrogant attitude towards others.

    They don`t need your teaching, they need silence and peace to find out for themselves.

    I don`t think you love people, you love your "ministry".

    1. Wow, what an insulting thing to say. I needed her advice. It wasn't getting through any other way. I grew up with a godly submissive mother and a God fearing preacher father, but I never developed my own wisdom until I got saved and submitted myself to the Lord. Even then, he tried to lead me to submit to my husband by the gentle council of sweet godly women around me. I still bucked. When I got hold of Debi's book I learned quite a few things! I appreciate her writing style. It was tough love for me. Yes, the Holy Spirit is there to lead us from within, but sometimes He also uses older women who have learned some things to teach us younger women. Another function of the Holy Spirit is to discern wisdom from foolishness. How foolish to cut yourself off from the wisdom of believing elders! How cruel to attempt to discourage Debi from helping those of us willing to listen and learn!

    2. Remember that Titus 2:3-5 teaches us that the older women should be teaching the younger ones...totally biblical. :). I am very grateful for this ministry. Luke 9:50 comes to mind as well...she is advancing the kingdom of God, not working against it.

  52. In reply to Johanne-

    Not all of us are blessed to churches, teachers, & families to teach us truth. My father is unsaved & my husband came from a broken home. My marriage is young but I can honestly say that I do not know what we would have done without the Pearls. Mr. Pearl has had the wisdom that my fatherless husband desperately needed. Mrs. Pearl has taught me how to be a godly wife to a godly husband. Neither of us really knew how a God-centered home should be run. We have both been searching the scriptures for ourselves & as a couple. However, a Godly example is a beautiful thing to have. I don't think we are the only example of this. Hopefully this explains why so many of us love the Pearls so well.

  53. Please don't stop writing! You are a blessing to us young families who don't have mothers to teach us how to be godly women!

  54. Thank you very much for this book. It has been a great blessing helping me and my sister in preparing for marriage. We both read it though at least twice!!! And I am now once again reading it though. It has really helped me to understand my visionary husband. Something that I am really grateful my mum struggles to understand his dreams and aspirations.It is a book i buy for all my friends getting married as a gift. Thank you once again and God Bless.

  55. Debbie,
    Thank you so much for the way you have me in my marriage and the help meet I was created to be. Im sure my husband would also thank you if he were here beside me. In a society where women are taught to be independent and dominate in their homes, it is no wonder why marriages are falling apart. I have spent my whole childhood and young adult years watching tv shows that depict the male as the stupid husband and the wife as the smart one who needs to take control of her home. What a bad influence that was on me. My husband always told me how I was not respecting him and that I made him feel like a child. I never understood till I heard it from you. You have saved my marriage and we are happy and in love! Thank you for helping to lift the veil from my eyes and SEE! This is ONE of MANY things I have learned from you and your husband trough several of your resources.
    As for the Holy Spirit being the one to convict and lead us.....I do believe He uses others to be a verbally spoken word at just the right time when He is ready for us to hear. You are definitely being used by Him. I and countless others need you to keep on so we can have a Titus 2 woman in our lives. I have looked long and hard and found none. My spirit longs for this and my marriage needs this. I now find others seeing a quality in me that they are looking to for guidance in their young marriages.... It's bewildering, but nice and fulfills a calling from several years ago that I had felt God calling me to. I can now finally see that come to reality. Who would have thought??????
    Thank you so much...more than words can express!

  56. Dear Debi, I am ( was) the feminine Mr. Command. Down to every description of one. My hubby and I married 10 yrs. ago at 50 yrs. old. Your book saved my life. Yes, and his. Coming from a large family (I was #3 of 7 sibs) I had to rule the roost. Well, Mom and Dad sure wasn't so I felt I was Best qualified so I stepped in. Now 40 yrs. later I read your book & it dawned on me about my past heroic effort that it was badly eskewed. I looked at my poor Mr. Steady Husband and noticed just how excruciated he was and in deep depression. I had bucked every one of his feeble attempts to make a decision with a better idea or better way etc.......And he has been working for the Defense Dept. as a superviser for 30 yrs!
    I made a 360 degree turnaround. The more I zip the lip and encourage his decisions the more God blesses me and the Bolder he has become. I nearly ruined the poor guy.
    THIS HAS GOT TO BE A MOVEMENT! TO RESTORE A WOMANS GOD GIVEN RANK! The Feminists has shredded our society.
    I wrote to the Christian TV show "HOMEKEEPERS with Arthelene Rippy" about you and she wrote me back wanting all the info. We got to get the word out!!!! Thanks a million!

  57. Thank you Michael and Debbie for all you do. God used your ministry to save our family. Please stand and know that others are standing with you and praying for you everyday.

  58. Your books and Michael's teachings have changed my life!!! I tell all who will listen about No Greater Joy Ministry and the wonderful, life changing teaching. Please, Please, never stop teaching the truth!

  59. Debi
    Thank you for your work, especially with "Created."
    My sister and I both have experienced great freedom by reading
    your book. My sister almost lost her husband and applied your book
    to her life for two years and the Lord healed her marriage. We were raised
    in a world where the mother ran the show and was the boss.
    So for us it was vital to our marriages.
    Thank you

  60. Thank You...from a Momma with little ones who is so desperately seeking Him and desires everything you have written here! So blessed that God lead me to your site and I am going to look into all you and your husband do and have done to help encourage me along this journey of Sanctification, because in this world I need all the encouragement I can get! I am currently going through a wonderful book called On the other side of the Garden by Virginia Fugate...a book on Biblical Womanhood for Today's World...I am loving it and will be looking into the book you mentioned above as this is where God has my heart right now...learning to be a biblical helpmeet for my husband and a loving, kind, gentle, caring, compassionate Momma to my babies...7,4 and 4 months...I desire this because God has shown me that I don't want to be the angry yelling mom any longer! He is delivering me of this and I am working so hard to overcome! Thank you for the reminder and encouragement to every morning before I step onto the floor of this yucky world that despises me, I will pray and put on the FULL Armour of God and I will STAND! Again, Thank you!

  61. I happen to know a little hebrew and enjoy listening to Messianic versions of biblical teachings. Does this make me think that the book that Debi Pearl is not good for marriage advice. Absolutely not. It is very good. All the theological knowledge cannot compare to the truth of general LOVE for man through marriage.

    I wish a book of this nature could be found in every hospital lobby because many health problems come from lack of attention to God's design for marriage.

  62. I was just thinking why didn't this man read Mike's Created to Need a Helpmeet instead of reading the wife's book?
    I would think he would want a husband's perspective not a wife/women's....hmm!

    Anyhow, we THANK you all for your love, passion, truth, energy, commitment and time in God's Word.

  63. Ok so I see this is an old blog, so hopefully someone has sent this man a copy of Created to Need a Helpmeet by now... haha!
    Thanks again!

  64. Thank you so much for all that you and your family have done to help build families back to God's original intent. It's impossible to please everyone. What you have done to help so many (including THAT man's own marriage) is nothing short of GOD'S working. He just needs a willing vessel. We humanly (even as Bible-believing Christians) disagree so much, it's both shocking and discouraging. Thank you for STANDING when you want to throw in the towel. God is using your ministry. It is only SATAN trying to stop you. He just tries even harder to discourage you by making it fellow brethren. Bless you! Praying for your ministry to continue and prosper!

  65. Hello Ms. Pearl,
    I just read a comment about how your books encourage abuse and all I could do was shake my head at the writer's ignorance and close the webpage. To think that people wonder why fewer marriages make it and children are increasingly rebellious, when people have this sort of mindset baffles me. I love your teachings, and your books on marriage are soo beautiful and helpful. Please keep standing! God bless you for been an amazing vessel and preserve your awesome husband and yourself!