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Homeschool Kid – Mommy Training

December 15, 2004

Our little ones learn everything from us: conversation, facial expression, habits, attitudes etc… What kind of mommy and wife is your little girl learning to be?
“Wock-a-bwy-baby…” Ryshoni Joy croons to her baby doll as she rocks in her own little oak rocker next to mine. The baby doll’s bald, ink-stained head is stuffed under Rysha’s shirt (nursing) and is wrapped in a borrowed blanket of Honey Sunny’s. Honey Sunny (Hannah Sunshine, 8 weeks old) is in a similar state of bliss in my own arms as I rock, and sing, and nurse. We burp our babies, change dirty diapers, and tuck our babies in bed. Rysha is 19 months old and learning to be a Mommy.
Everything I do these days is of extreme interest to my little girl. My actions tell her what to expect in life and how to function successfully. I find her eyes on me when I brush my hair, rub lotion on my hands, and wrap a scarf around my head. Five minutes later, I’ll find her with a towel wrapped around her head and my bottle of lotion in her hands (hopefully not open, with lotion all over the place).
The other day, Daddy sat down on the couch, and Rysha climbed up beside him. She rubbed his head, put her arm around him, and started murmuring endearments in such a “mommy way,” we both burst out laughing. Rysha had learned how Mommy treats Daddy, and was practicing.
Later in the day when Daddy commanded her to do something, and she just looked at him blankly without moving, I felt a pang of remorse; had she learned that from me, too? I suddenly realized just how much my little girl is gleaning from her mama.
Our little ones learn everything from us: conversation, facial expression, habits, attitudes, posture, etc… By the time they are 19 months old, they have mostly become who they are going to be.
What kind of mommy and wife is your little girl learning to be?

Beka Joy (Pearl) Anast

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4 comments on “Homeschool Kid – Mommy Training”

  1. Hopefully one who realizes that men are not the object of her existence, that she is free to become who she wants to be. That she does not have to bow to any male because he happened to be born one and she wasn’t. That when a man beats her she should protect herself by any means necessary.

  2. Wow, Ben. Whatever you’ve been through or witnessed is not what is being described here. I’m truly sorry about whatever caused this bitterness, but I am certain that Beka Anast is not living the life you are envisioning.

    I am an intelligent (genius-level IQ) married woman with one daughter and another on the way. I am very happy to stay home and be a wife and mother. It is a blessing that I couldn’t possibly describe fully in this post. My husband is not the “object of my existence”, nor are my children. God is. I can see from your post that He is not the object of your existence, and I’m sorry for what you are missing.

    Beka, thank you so much for sharing. Your articles are a blessing.

  3. I will never tell my daughter that her goal in life is to be a wife and a mother and I will certainly not teach her how to be a “good wife”, the whole concept of grooming your kids for marriage is beyond creepy. My mother gave me tips on how to have a healthy relationship when I was a teenager, but telling your kid daughters how to best serve their husbands is just wrong.
    As a child, I got to choose what toys I wanted and it happened that I actually liked baby dolls, but to actually give your child a baby doll and prepare her to be a stay-at-home mom, that’s really bad.
    Rather than asking “What kind of mommy and wife is your little girl learning to be?”, maybe you should be asking who does she want to be and what does she want to do? Maybe she wants to be a doctor, an astronomer or a geologist? Maybe her life shouldn’t be limited to “mommy and wife”.

  4. I was raised in a home by a single mom. She loved both my brother and I with her whole heart and did the best she could with what she had and what she knew. Unfortunately she did not train my brother or I how to live in the “real world” How to do basic things like clean, cook, or budget money. Her house was always clean, dishes done, money used wisely yet we were not included. We were sent away to play. But we did not want to just play all day but be with her. Then I grew up and moved out with my boyfriend. I did not know how to do laundry, or even cook macaroni and cheese. I became very selfish because his grandma did all that for him and now he expected me to. I became bitter and plain old nasty mean. Fast forward like 15 years and I am now happily married to another man and learning the benefit of teaching and training my daughters of how to do the basics. Yes teaching my daughters how to love, respect and obey their dad is a basic that most parents fail to teach their children. My daughters are taught they can do anything that God wants them to do. There is no limitation on what God would have them do for HIS kingdom. I also teach them that if they want to be a wife and mother that stays home that is very important work as well. Now on the flip side to the story… brother… dad did not do his job in training him to be a man, and my mom…..did all that she knew to do but wasn’t enough. I love him very much but unfortunately he is a lump. A push over, who has no motivation to greatness. He was taught he could be a great man, anything he wanted to be by my mother but there was no one there to train him how to be. He now is a husband and father and doing the best that he can with what he knows and I see the failings already in his son. I see the difference between the Godly way and the worldly way of training. My marriage and children are learning and thriving… brother’s is failing and suffering. I see the difference and I know which path I want to travel. My daughters will know how to keep and maintain a house, My daughters will know how to love, respect and submit to their husbands, My daughters will be well equipped to pass this new way of training down to their children.

    Colossians 3:23
    And whatsoever ye do, do it heartily, as to the Lord, and not unto men.