I have had something on my heart for some time now that I was wanting to share with you. It is a question really. But first I must start by saying just how blessed our family has been because of your family! THANK YOU! I thank God often for leading me to your materials. I have so much respect for you and Debbie and the work that you do.

As you can tell from my above statements we have been blessed and find IMMEASURABLE good in the materials that you write. However (my question) I feel that in your writing, you often say things in a way that comes across very harsh. I appreciate you being clear and direct, but I disagree and do not understand when your anger/disgust seems not to be just for the sin but for the sinner as well. Jesus tells us to speak the truth in love (Eph 4:15). I know that you know His word very well so I was wondering what you thought about that verse? I feel able to take the immense amount of good from your materials and overlook the harshness that I feel is inappropriate but what saddens me is that I do not feel as free to share it with others as I would like because many are not able to overlook these things. I know you are a very busy man but I would greatly appreciate hearing your response if you are able. Thank you so much.

Michael answers:

If my manner were like James Dobson’s, there would be no need for my ministry. I am an ordinary man who speaks my heart to ordinary men and women. I do not seek popularity.

“And as they departed, Jesus began to say unto the multitudes concerning John, What went ye out into the wilderness to see? A reed shaken with the wind? But what went ye out for to see? A man clothed in soft raiment? behold, they that wear soft clothing are in kings’ houses” (Matthew 11:7-8).

Sin disgusts me, as it does any Christian. I make that fact known in a small measure. We live in a day when the church normalizes sin by responding to it “in love and understanding.” This was not Jesus’ manner. While he was preaching, he called those who heard him: fools, blind, liars, hypocrites, whited sepulchers full of dead men’s bones, blind guides, serpents, a generation of vipers, and said they were of their father the devil and did his will, and that they could not escape the damnation of hell (John 8:44, 55; Matthew 23 :13-33). I feel like a compromising pantywaist compared to him. If you have been offended so far, you should listen to my taped message
When Forgiveness is Sin.