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Posted February 24, 2014

Greetings, fellow help meets in training (and ones who have already tied the knot)!

So there’s this guy…we’re mutually interested in each other, and the Lord seems to be bringing us together in various ways. In addition to this, we get along well, have similar interests, and have both chosen to follow wherever the Lord may lead, be it to the ends of the earth!

That said, I do have a concern. While I have a great friendship with two of his brothers (all four of us worked at the same ministry for a time) I am a bit worried over how my future relationship with his sisters and mother may be. You see, the women in my family(myself included) are the polar opposites of the women in his. The women in my family – from my Aunt down to my youngest niece – are outspoken Texas girls who can hold their own. We wear jeans, shorts, dangly earrings, ย and red lipstick. We go to movies sometimes, and you better believe we are more than willing to give you our opinions on political issues! If not for the grace of God and loving husbands/fathers, there could be more than one feminist in the family ๐Ÿ™‚ Don’t worry – we don’t undermine authority, and my mother and one older sister are stay-at-home moms – we just aren’t exactly winsome victorian flowers.

On the other hand, this guy’s mom and sisters seem to have very quiet/shy/submissive personalities, and dress far more conservatively than me and my family ( in fact, their church/homeschool group as a whole seems this way). I want to have a good relationship with all of my potential in-laws, but I am concerned that there could be some “awkwardness” based on the differences in how the women in our two families are. I don’t plan on causing drama or starting a crusade to make them just like me ( and I don’t think this guy wants me to become just like them), I just don’t want them to resent or be intimidated by any of my differences.

Am I being overly concerned about this? What are some good ways for me to reach out to his entire family and show that I want to develop healthy, good relationships?

Thank you in advance for your advice ๐Ÿ™‚

 

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