Hi Jana! 🙂 I think every girl has been in your shoes. There is always a time in a girl’s life where she needs to guard her heart. But it’s great that you recognize it and face it head on.

If you want to guard your heart, the best way to do so is not to give your heart away to him. Meaning, not to spend your time daydreaming, fantasizing, and thinking about him. Especially at this time, I would recommend learning to trust God, and giving your heart to Him. If you give your heart to the Lord and serve Him full-heartedly, boys won’t be the top priority and serving God will be. I know, it can be really hard at times, but it is so worth it! And if it so happens that you two pursue a relationship, He will always be there to ask for help. Strengthening your relationship with the Saviour should be the most important thing to think about right now.

As for writing to him, I think as long as the letters are proper (no really personal stuff, how much you miss him, wishing you two could be together, etc.) I think it would be alright. If its clear that he isn’t ready to start a relationship, then continue to write to him as you would any other friend (or guy friend in that matter). Remember also, to NOT get grabby or impatient. Everything is in God’s timing and if it is the Lord’s will, He will make it happen when He knows you both are ready. You probably don’t feel that way now, but there may come a time which may be towards the end of his sentence where you will wonder if his feelings for you have strengthened. But no matter what, be PATIENT!! 🙂 🙂 The act of being patient doesn’t necessarily gain anything, but the act of being impatient could lose everything!! Good luck!! 🙂