Hi! I’ll try to word this so it makes sense.
I have been friends with this one guy since we were really little, and I think we always liked each other. We told each other once when we were little that we liked each other, but we never held hands or hugged or anything-just focused on being friends. Now that we are older (we are both almost 17), getting closer towards the age where people start getting more serious, it’s a little bit different now. I think he is starting to like me in a more serious way, and not just a crush. We no longer live near each other anymore, so we don’t really communicate much.
The only problem is…since we’ve been apart (almost a year now), I have realized that I don’t really like him anymore. Now I just think of him more as a brother. He is a really steady man, and I’m sort of a mix between a dreamer and a go-to gal. He is more of a careful guy, and likes to take life slowly, and is content with just staying put. I have come to realize that I would never really be content living that type of lifestyle, and might even find it difficult to submit to him in some ways. I haven’t seen him for almost a year now, so I haven’t really been able to talk to him. I’m really good friends with his sister, and she is aware of the fact that I don’t like him anymore, but I’m not sure how to tell him. I know it would probably rock his world a little bit, but I also do not want to be unintentionally leading him on. He is also currently saving up to come visit me in the future.
Does anyone have any advice for me? I feel really bad about the whole thing, and I’ve talked to my parents and friends, and they aren’t exactly sure what to do about it either.