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Posted August 15, 2012

This fall I’m going to be taking English and history classes at the local community college. I’m going to be there 3 times a week and will also be doing my 11th grade courses. So, classes start tomarrow and since I’ve always been homeschooled it’s going to be a comepletey new thing! I love meeting people and am not shy, but the only thing that’s worrying me is how not to be influinced by people who don’t care a single bit about God. How do you girls who are also taking college courses or go to a public highschool stand firm in your beliefs?

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  1. Brenda

    Kelsey,
    I’ve gone to public school all of my life! This year I will be a sophmore! I never really felt the urge to give in to their “ways”. I stand firmly in my beliefs and the people around me know and can see what I believe! Obviously dont go with them to party you know will/can go bad! Dont put yourself in places you know you could possibly fall! But as for being with them in class, just stand strong in what you believe! Study God’s word, know him to the best of your ability and ask him for courage strength and grace! He will be with you always! As he is with me! 😀 Stand Strong dear sister! <3

    # August 16, 2012

  2. Kat

    Hi Kelsey,

    Like you, I was home-schooled my whole life. I just started my second year at a community college. The obvious stuff is pretty easy: don’t go to parties, don’t buy into the humanistic view they will undoubtedly teach, don’t put yourself in compromising situations with anyone, etc.

    But it’s the not-so-obvious stuff that’s a little harder to figure out. While I’m sure you want to be a witness to the people around you at school, I think it is possible to spend too much time with them, and if you’re not careful, they can rub off on you in little ways that you may not notice. And even if they don’t, they will drag you down and make you feel discouraged. So I would recommend limiting out-of-class time spent with people who are not going to be encouraging you in your walk with the Lord.

    Handle everything graciously. In one of my classes, we were going to spend 2 class periods watching a Hollywood movie that dealt with the topic we were discussing. Since it was rated R, I was immediately suspicious and checked out several reviews online. They confirmed that it was a filthy movie and even though even the Christian reviews admitted that the movie had significant educational value, I just didn’t feel a need to put that kind of garbage in my mind. I wrote my teacher an email politely explaining my reasons for skipping class. She didn’t agree with me (and I think was somewhat offended because it was her favorite movie) but she did say she respected me for standing up for what I believed. I finished out the class on good terms with the teacher, she knew exactly where I stood, and interestingly enough, after the semester finished, she asked me to babysit for her on a regular basis.

    On other occasions, I’ve had to debate abortion, homosexual marriage, religion in society, humanism and plenty of other yucky topics. Even when you vehemently disagree with a teacher or another student, always be polite and respectful. Work hard and do well. You will stand out. (And there is a time and place to speak up and a time and place to be silent. 🙂 )

    Make sure you are grounded in the Word of God and live your life unashamedly for Him. Enjoy your classes!

    ~Kat

    P.S. I just remembered that Michael Pearl wrote a really good response to a letter from a home-schooled girl participating in sports at a public high school a while back. Since NGJ has redone their website, I can’t seem to find anything I’m looking for, so I don’t have the link. Anyone else know what article I’m talking about?

    # August 21, 2012

    • Bethany the Dreamer

      I know what you’re talking about- it was about witnessing to friends and family, I believe. I was looking for it a while back, finally did find it and printed it out so I could have for easy reference! It’s probably there somewhere.

      # August 23, 2012

  3. Emily G

    I went to public schools K-12, then a secular college for 4 years (my freshman year I went to a small Christian college). Take the opportunity to learn….learn what others believe and learn the best way to share Jesus Christ with them. You will be in the world one of these days, may as well figure it out 🙂

    # August 24, 2012

  4. Sarah Beth

    Alot of times it is hard for me to stand strong so I totally understand how you feel. Alot of times Satan will try to get you to give into just little tiny things one at a time. DON’T GIVE IN! What always helps me is telling them that I am a Christian and believe very strongly in God. Tha usually makes me not do anything wrong because I am already known as the christian girl! 🙂
    Also keep your focus on God and pleasing Him and no one else and get in the Bible all the time. Keep your heart on Him all the time! “Where your heart there is your treasure”
    KEEP STRONG and DON’T EVER GIVE UP. My love and encouragment to you 🙂

    # August 30, 2012

  5. laura

    recognize that God is always sitting next to you in that empty chair! Just think of all those persecuted Christians who are currently getting their arms cut off for believing that Christ saved them from their sin in other countries around the world RIGHT NOW!!!

    Always invite the Holy Spirit into the classroom or where ever you may be and keep focusing on the fact that life in this world is temporary. Eternity is forever.

    I went secular K-12 and liberal college. I admit I was focused heavily on making my own success rather than making God a success. Since then I have found that the world gives heavy burdens and Christ’s burden is light.

    # August 31, 2012

  6. Faith T.

    Such excellent advice from everyone! I got saved at age 19, and lived with my unsaved family while I went back to school to complete grade 12, and then on to a few years at a secular university. I stayed strong in my faith by staying very faithful with my devotional times (first priority every day was to pray and read the Word!), and by making sure to have plenty of good fellowship with other Christians. (At one point, every week I was attending a campus Christian club meeting, an evening Bible Study, a campus prayer meeting, Friday night youth group (as part of the leadership team), and 3 Sunday meetings!) Since I was a new Christian, at any time where I began to fail in these areas, my walk with the Lord began to suffer, and I became negatively influenced by those around me, began to make poor choices, and backslid briefly a few times. I learned the hard way how important it is to maintain good fellowship with the Lord and with other believers in order to keep your mind focused and your spirit strong. And of utmost importance is not to put yourself in compromising situations. Don’t go to parties, bars, clubs, etc. and don’t form any close attachments with unsaved men. See yourself as a being sent by the Lord to a mission field, and stay open to Him for opportunities to be a light and witness. Invite other young women to church. Pray for your teachers and classmates. Stay very strong in the Word so that you will not be deceived in any way.

    blessings,
    Faith T.

    # September 1, 2012

  7. Esther

    I go to a Secular University that I love. It was so perfect because I love missions I want to be a missionary and it provides me with lots people that dont know jesus from all over the world some very closed countries that missionaries cant always get into. If you study are respect your teachers and others students opinion not just tear it down but explain your self in a calm educated manner you can be a good example and gain respect. Dont be scared to have friends who are non christians just make sure that the friends that you just hang out with the most are christians or invite your christian friends to hang out with your non christian friends. I got discouraged because I was in a class that was about the death of societies and it talked about christianity and made it sound like a game, but I learned that reading Gods word and praying are the best most encouraging thing to do every day before class.

    # September 6, 2012

  8. kelseymarie

    I’m the author of this post, but for some reason I forgot to thank everyone for their help. After being in college for about 7 months now, looking back on your responses, I’m now able to relate and see just how common sense they are! College has been a great experience for me, and being different from everyone else has forced me to question the roots of my beliefs and grow stronger in them. 🙂

    # March 11, 2013