Since I was a little girl my mother told me I was going to be a good submissive wife, and a stay-at-home mommy. I grew up thinking there was no other options for me, and even though that vision was not my own I accepted it as fact. Three years ago God started putting missions own my heart, but I never mentioned it to my parents because at the time my dad was sick and dying of cancer. It was not the time to leave. A little over a year and a half ago my dad passed away. Since then my heart has been yearning for the mission field, and I feel like is nothing other than God’s calling. However, when I mention leaving to my mother she immediately denies that a girl can be called away from home before marriage. She says an unmarried girl must remain under her parents authority until she is married, and even if that weren’t so the world is too dangerous for a 22 year-old woman by herself. She says she supports the idea of me going on short week long mission trips with a pastor friend of ours, but when it comes time to actually go, she manages to find a reason for me to stay at home. ‘Next time’ is becoming common.
The thing holding me back is the covering authority a parent has over a child. Does a mother have the same authority over a child as a father would have if he were present? Do parents have authority over their grown children? If I respect my mothers wishes and stay home, will I be disobeying God’s calling?