This method works well for women who have husband who is morally stable and is willing to work to provide for the family as well as not wanting to go back and live with momma when he isn’t getting fed. In other words for those in marriage with a mature man. He ought to be mature anyway as a woman needs two to six weeks off after any pregnancy or health problems of female nature. True love doesn’t revolve around sex….yet it is not separable in the mind of a woman as she needs it to avoid cancer as biology of it all would have it.

For woman who have husbands who come and go as they please (ehemmm the prostitutes at the casino lurk around) it is best to avoid all planning as a whole because the man needs his needs met. The man needs to see where his priority belongs and who truly provides for the family.

I did natural family planning for a while. It is a lot of work to keep track of things but eventually you’ll be able to keep track of when things work for your body. Try to learn the new-moon cycles (matches with biblical calendar) to see how the pattern fits for you. Start before you are married so you are really knowledgeable about your body. After marriage invest in reading the book “intended for pleasure” by Ed Wheat. Read this with your husband BEFORE children come along to really help both of you understand sexuality from a biblical perspective. CTBHM is also a good read for women too!

Even with some natural family planning I’ve been married for eight years with 5 pregnancies (lost two). I kind of give up on it but I would rather let God do the work and let be than try so much on my own strength yet young children under five are a challenge to feed until they can get the milk out of the fridge themselves.

As far as birth control is concerned it is control of the natural garden….but dandelions do show up, they are edible too and can be used like rhubarb in pies, muffins and pancakes;)

It is best not to set a “#” of children you would like to have before marriage because all people that God creates are useful in the home. It is like saying you only want your tomato plant to produce 5 tomatoes and no more. Men have a funny way of believing that his woman will stay in a controlled fertility state and be happy with it and start to get upset if she produces 10 children instead of just 2. Yet we woman have to make sure the tomatoes don’t “morally” rot. Ummmm doesn’t work so well. Birth control methods produce cancers anyway as Woman needs to breastfeed for seven years to avoid female cancers. Plan to make home available for 20 (yes you will need to study edible weeds in the garden, lacto-fermentation canning, sourdough whole grain products, scalping fish and chickens and such to feed such a brood) but expect 5 as miscarriages are more common than most women speak about especially with poor nutrition habits in modern homes as well as the natural things that happen in even cattle. We just have to accept that. Yes I have heard of a family where a woman had nine miscarriages!

Congrats on getting married! Yay! If is fun especially if you feel like he is your first boyfriend and you can go on dates with him. The children are fun too if you know how to train them like training a tomato (www.raisinggodlytomatoes.com) or Train up a Child are good resources. Always put him first before the kids though.

Ok…..so what are three questions every woman should ask before tieing the knot:
1. Are you willing to be fruitful and multiply as God would allow?
2. Do you support home school or online computer school (k12.com)?
3. Are you willing to provide healthy food, shelter and clothing? (maybe he wants to homestead or maybe he wants to live in the city) will the income provide healthy things of that nature either his own DIY method or actual financial resource.

Good luck have fun. Learning and responsibility increase after marriage like never before. Watch out for thorns (in-laws or other moral issues) but its all good and for God’s glory if done under the authority of God’s word.