I’m a [definitely] young girl in a commited relationship with a TOTAL visionary. These guys ARE a lot of fun – Debi knew what she was talking about. They always take on big projects, and they are the ones to change the world – one great idea at a time.
I have one of the sweetest, kindest, most loving of men – he never makes a decision without talking it out, and he’s been there for me during many rough hours! He gets along perfectly with my family, controls his temper, reaches out to others, and has changed opinions after we talked – as of course, have I.
There’s just one thing though, I was NOT expecting. That’s some of the ideas and convictions a Visionary holds. They’re just – outrageous to this Steady-daughter. o_O And other people! I am the Crazy Girl. He has firm convictions, which is a blessing, but some of them step on my comfort zone, like not believing you should even trim hair, or do anything to make yourself ‘look better’… and that means he doesn’t want me to either, long term! Maybe that’s a compliment to me… And there’s other things like that – little things, but I’m not used to it. Not listening to certain genres of music, even what I consider appropriate – little things.
People assume, if I honor his wishes, that I’m being ‘controlled’…. and that’s made me gun-shy, as a VERY independent person. We made an agreement that, since we’re getting ready to be married, he would lead, just in the relationship role, and I would follow, ditto. People don’t like that! They think the practice is just another form of control. Haha -and the older, married ladies around me don’t submit.
But I’m not used to this! My family has always been very laid back about many things, and not questioned motives. So, older ladies… what do I do? Where do I learn to ‘not sweat the small stuff’, how do I address issues that mean a lot to me, and just enjoy the ride?