I am 17 years of age. I will graduate soon (i am homeschooled) and I Thought I had everything figured out. I was been called to be a missionaries wife last year. My situation is a bit complicated….my parents seperated and divorced (biblicaly, said by my pastor) my mother is a good christian lady. My father on the other hand is unstable and doesn’t like the church. They had me when my mom was 15. My dad doesn’t like the church at all and would rather me be something that makes money for that but i have no desire to be part of the world. A wise lady from my church advised that if something were to ever happen to my husband i should have a career to be a back up plan. I want to be a full time christian. My question is, should i trust in God and be a full time christian, or have a career also? (a nurse or teacher or something that would help in a field) I will be talking to my pastor and his wife and fast. What are your thoughts? Thanks:)
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Ok I am in a similar situation as you! I was also homeschooled and am in my 2nd semester freshman year of college (just turned 17 last month) and had trouble deciding if I even wanted to go to college and have a career. I started to go into a Business program at my college but God pulled on my heartstrings(Hard) and I changed to Nursing, which I now know is truly where God has put my heart.
I agree with the lady at your church. It would be so helpful to have a degree in something that you could bless people with (esp. in the mission field). My Dad explained it to me that it is also a smart thing to do for the security of my family. If I ever had a family crisis (or if my husband was sick for a long period of time and unable to work) my family would have a backup through my degree. Or if you wanted to do something great for the Lord (like start an orphanage, charity, support other missionaries etc) you could work for a little while or part time and then use that money to bless others!!
And another thing what do you mean by being a “Full Time Christian” ? Being a christian is something that you ARE, and you can’t turn it on and off. So even if you have a career, you can still be a “full time christian’ with the people you react with every single day. Your Mom, Dad, friends, neighbors, and even people you don’t know at the grocery store are all people that need God’s love so You don’t have to go anywhere to be a missionary! I know you feel called to probably go somewhere and I am not arguing that but what I’m sayings you don’t have to wait you can Start Right Now!
there is a book out right now that I really think you would like and connect with called Kisses from Katie(I think it is on the New York Times bestseller list). This girl Katie lived in a small town in Tennessee (US) and during her senior year in highschool went on a mission trip to Uganda and ended up staying there and start her own ministry called Amazima and is in the process of adopting 13 kids!! (she is not married and went to college only after she already had like 8 kids in her personal care!!)
another set of books is called “Christian Heros Then and Now” by Janet and Geoff Benge ( published by YWAM)and they are excellent books about missionaries, lots of the famous one but also ones that you may not have heard of (the one about Lillian Trasher is esp good)
I will be praying for you 😀
I don’t think there would be anything wrong with trusting God to supply all your needs. I know people (missionaries) that don’t have careers and they have all their needs,by trusting in the support of God’s people.Also, read Matthew chapter 6, but especially verse 25-34.
I also know from personal experience my family was on the mission field when I was younger, we never went hungry, there were times we wanted somethings, but they weren’t necessary. When we moved back to the states, my dad was able to get a because he had taught himself how to work on the vehicles when they broke, and he knew a second language.
God will provide for His people through His people, although, He won’t always do it the way we think it should be, His way is best.
Amy Carmichael was a missionary that relied on God to supply her needs, look her up and read her story.
Have you read 1 Timothy 5 recently?
Also keep in mind that you don’t need a degree to make money. The college atmosphere is really bad and schooling is expensive. I spent the first couple years after graduation studying and learning various skills. Now I am almost 20. I can raise, breed, butcher and prepare meat, grow vegetables and herbs, save seeds from them and gather wild plants for food and medicine. I cook everything from scratch, preserve food and make medicines for my family. I know what is healthy and nutritious, and can share that knowledge with others. I can train horses, trim hooves and doctor animals. I know how to stop bleeding, treat a heart attack, give someone stitches, and a host of other practical skills. I’ve had several successful home businesses and now have built up a small herd of horses. At the same time, I have been able to be a part of my family, local church and community. I’ve grown in my faith by leaps and bounds. Rather than bringing debt into a marriage, I will bring in assets. I am prepared for whatever may happen, and can laugh at the future. Firstly because my trust is in God, but also because I have the knowledge and skills to be a survivor in any situation.
The three main books I recommend to young ladies are the Bible, Preparing to Be a Helpmeet and So Much More by Anna Sofia and Elizabeth Botkin (www.visionarydaughters.com).
If you don’t feel drawn to going to college, then I woudn’t. Really though, focus on God’s will. And when are you getting married? That could be a factor as well
Thanks! and I meant to say , Full time christian service!:) I’m going to bible college for four years to major in missions! That is really where my heart is. I’m going to try to learn photography also and creative things that might help. I love to be creative and nursing isn’t where my heart is even though i like to help people! God has a plan for everyone and i’m excited to see what God has ahead for me:D
Oh and one more thing….my dad is doing a bit better and is ok with me going to bible collge.! I pray that he will eventually heal and move on though!:)
That’s wonderful! I am so glad things have worked out!