What attitudes in a guy attract you to him vs. what attitudes make you want to stay away from him? Be honest, I want to hear your thoughts!
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Good question! I definitely like when a guy is thoughtful, hard working, caring, honest, and funny. I dislike when a guy doesn’t work hard. I like when they voice their opinions respectfully. I like when they play with kids.
Well, I am currently in love with an amazing man. He is now my ex-fiancee’, but I honestly feel like he is God’s will for my life. Anyhoo, to answer the question…..
I love guys who can be funny and sweet. But I also want my future spouse to understand there is a time to be serious. I want that wonderful, cheesy romance that everyone laughs at but secretly wants. I also want a man I can respect and serve in our ministry together.
Personally, I like tall guys with deeper voices. It has always held an attraction for me, although I don’t know why.
I also want someone who can be understanding when I need it, and knows when to tell me that I am overreacting or need to rethink a decision.
I want someone who will lead me, but not forcefully. I want to serve him, and I want him to be my king. The man I love is described in your book as the “King” type. People don’t understand how we handle the things we do. He expects me to serve him, and jump when he says jump. He can seem inconsiderate at times, when really he is just hesitant with people. He can and will take charge of a situation, and once he makes a decision, it’s pretty much set in stone.
He also is one of the kindest men I have ever known. He trusts me explicitly and goes out of his way to understand me. He is aware of my need for romance, so he was more than willing to say sweet little nothings in my ear, or buy me M&Ms when I was on my period.
Although he can seem rude, he was truly wonderful and I do not regret the time we spent together.
Somethings I really find attractive in a man are humility the ability to admit when they are wrong and to seek forgiveness. strength not just physical but strength to do hard things and work hard. being a provider, easy to talk to, an amazing love for jesus that is personal and being bold about sharing christ to others.
somethings that are not attractive are men who always need to be in the center of attention, who dont know the importance of sharing the gospel. guys who are proud and unforgiving.
The types of guys I find myself really attracted to tend to be opinionated. ๐ I guess it’s because I’m so opinionated when it comes to things such as theology, evolution, and politics myself. The most important thing a want in a husband is that he be very dedicated to serving those who need help. As far as personality, I think I need to marry someone pretty funny. ๐ I laugh a lot, but it’s always at other people’s jokes. I’m pretty bad at making them myself. ๐
I’m attracted to guys with a love for Christ, humility, and hard worker. Physically, I’m attracted to tall guys. Turn offs are laziness, bad habits (ex, drinking, smoking) and looking down on people.
I feel very attacted to guys that are always thinking how to be more diligent, that have good ideas, work hard, can humbly lead people, and that are creative. To guys that have firm and biblical convivtions and know how to defend their faith, that have compassion for lost people and a passion to share the gospel. That are not ashamed of Christ and that are willing to deny theirselfs to follow Him.
I like when they are serious but also have a good sense of humor, like to play with kids, like good music, like to sing and have beautiful low voice. Iยดm attracted to men that are willing to humbly admit their mistakes, that are patient to teach and humble to be taught.
I don’t like when they are always joking, when they are not diligent, when they don’t respect others, have sinful lives, when they’re always boasting abput theirselfs…..
I have always appreciated someone who had firm convictions that they would not budge from- but were always gentle in how they handled them. I have also always appreciated men who would avoid conflict.
Another thing I like is when I can laugh with someone. That is probably the biggest thing for me. Another important things is when I am hurting, if someone will provide support and love without judgement. Just a shoulder to lean on and cry on. I also appreciate it A LOT when a young man will dive in and help- even if I told him I don’t need help. I often feel bad about asking for help, so I really appreciate it when they will just see where I need help and do it- even if it is just the dishes. Actually, that is the fastest way to catch my eye- wash the dishes after someone else fixed dinner and then laugh with me as we talk.
I forgot to add….
The things that scare me off are: a proud attitude, complaining about little children as if they are a problem, talking down to me, harping on their favorite topic or complaint, or an obsession with politics.