I’m back! After 2 years off the site 🙂 Missed you all!

My husband loves video games “in theory.” haha What I mean by that is if you asked him, he would say I love them, if you looked at the amount of time he spends on them you would not believe it. Meaning he spends little time on them now.

When we met he didn’t play much, too busy with me 🙂 After we got married he got back into them, but honestly not that much. There was always an “obsession” type phase after getting a new game as a gift from his family where he would play it continually. He would “conquer it” and then drop it. I used to freak out thinking I would never get him back, but once I realized the cycle would end with dropping them and not me I relaxed and had fun. I learned to play Zelda with him he enjoyed it and fed him when I wasn’t in the mood so he wouldn’t get his controller dirty haha. He would praise me to his brother and his brother was like “how do I get a wife like that?” When you have your mans heart you can woo him to you when God gives you opportunity. If you draw clear lines and judge (as swift did perhaps) they often rebel against you taking authority you dont have and dive deeper into a bad habit, just to prove you aren’t in charge. That has happened to me on many other things.

Anyways, I also reccomend praying and not judging. My husband is in a new obsession phase now. New systems came out at Christmas. He mostly plays with the kids. They are a little obsessed, but I am pretty confident it will wane when the weather gets good again. He is massively overworked for this year and after dinner falls asleep unless highly stimulated by something like video games. I think it is a way for him to play with kids without falling asleep. Him being way overworked will end this summer and I am sure him and the kids will reduce the hours they log. He is starting to get excited about ways to participate in school with them, other things will come in, I’m not worried.

You can say almost anything to your man if you are truly devoid of judgement. He was playing this brutally violent game on Roman times where he was defending Nero. I kept my head down reading it was so bad! I was like Nero!!! He used Christians as torches at his garden parties. He’s a dreamer so we started talking about if we lived then, He imagined he’d be a powerful centurion warrior and I was like I’d probably be in the colleseum about to be torn up by lions for not worshipping Nero and you would have to rescue me. I was able to share my concerns without judgment (viewing him as sinful or less holy than me and no air of authority whatsoever). He didn’t play long and hasn’t had much time since. He even tried to kill Nero, but the game wouldn’t let him 🙂 We even talked about the sickness of the colleseum and gladiators and is there any really difference with us today and being entertained by simulated violence. It was a wonderful conversation, God honoring and all possible because of no condemnation or judgement.

Anyways, because you said he is acting like a child and look down on him and call yourself a Christian woman, he is not gonna want to hang out with you. You look down on him and elevate yourself spiritually all in your question. You wrote your question here so you defenitely have humility! Pray for God to change that superior attitude (as swift recommended). Do realize that there will be lost time as a result. You can’t speak into his heart and woo him till you win him back to liking you. That will take time after your superior attitude is gone. But don’t worry! You will know when its healed and when and how to speak, just keep praying!!!