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Posted February 26, 2014

First off, I would like to say that I would appreciate any and all comments!! Whoever you are and whatever your background, I’d love to hear your input on this subject.

I have a guy friend who’s about 18 (we’re only friends, I promise 😉 ) who recently met a young lady who’s about 16. We’ll call him Jimmy and her Anna.

Jimmy and his family are Christians, Anna is not. Jimmy wants to witness to Anna one-on-one. Both families have summer homes in the same place, and Anna asked Jimmy if he would like to go fishing with her (presumably alone) sometime. He said yes, explaining to me later that “it would make a great witnessing opportunity.”

My first thought was, “You’re playing with fire! Maybe your mom could witness to her…girl to girl, not teen guy to teen girl.” But I didn’t say that. (I half wish I did!) Looking back, I don’t think I did say anything because I DO NOT want to come across as jealous of him. (I’m not, plain and simple.)

So my question to all of you is this: Do you think it is okay for a young man to witness to a young lady? Is it right one-on-one? Is it right when others are with them? Is it right in any case? Is it right in every case? If you were in my place as a third party, what would you say to the young man?

Thank you in advance for every comment!!

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  1. Shalom (Staff)

    Well this is not a matter of him witnessing to her there is nothing ever wrong with one giving another the gospel. But what you need to tell him is that using it as an excuse to hang out with her is wrong. He is a young man and he wants to go fishing with a girl, plain and simple. He is just using the witnessing card to make himself feel better. Tell him that he should read Proverbs that it tells young men to flee youthful lust, to run away! It also tells young men to not touch a women, it leads down the road to destruction. Make sure that you are a good example in this area as well, though you are just friends. It is always better to be above approach. You could always ask to go along to help keep him out of trouble. If it is truly just an opportunity to witness to her, then why not have two of you there to talk to her! Shalom

    # March 4, 2014