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Preparing to Be a Help Meet

For unmarried and married women
by Debi Pearl
Book – Being a good help meet starts long before marriage. It is a mindset, a learned habit, a way of life established as a young unmarried girl - a perfect study guide for small groups.
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Display Name Preparing to Be a Help Meet
Subtitle For unmarried and married women
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Product Type Book
Media Print
ISBN 978-1-61644-009-1
Format No
Language English
Author Debi Pearl
Manufacturer No Greater Joy Ministries, Inc.
Publication Date Apr 1, 2010
Pages 320
Binding Paperback
Dimensions 9" x 6" x 0.8"
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4 Reviews
A Must-Read for all Young Ladies!, (Posted on 9/25/2014)

By Daughter at Home

This book was a wonderful read! I appreciated all the practical advice- it was challenging, convicting, encouraging and inspiring! Included in this book were a number of love stories. They each were unique and different, but all beautiful. All of the teaching shared in this book were straight from the Bible, and they can all be applied now in being a single young lady and then carried over into being a wife and helper to your future husband. This book is a very helpful and insightful read that I'd recommend to any and every young lady. Also in the back of this book are questions and a teacher's guide- perfect for a small group or Bible study.

Amazing book!, (Posted on 2/11/2012)

By Sunshine

I was thrilled when I found out they were creating "Preparing to be a Help Meet" I had read my mom's copy of "Created to be His Help Meet" and loved it but didn't know how to apply it to my daily single life. "Preparing" filled in all that unknown knowledge! I read it twice and a year later I started a Bible study (using the study in the back - much appreciated!). Now I am engaged and we are planning a wedding in three months - the principles from "Preparing" have helped me grow spiritually and they continue to do so. Looking forward to a joy filled, Christ centered marriage! Thank you Pearls for these amazing books on the truth!

Beautiful stories, (Posted on 11/18/2011)

By Nichole

I got Preparing to be a HelpMeet because it looked so wonderful even though I'm already a married woman! I got so much inspiration and thought out of this book that applies to my marriage of 5 years. A wonderful read for any woman, single or married. Especially helpful were Debi's thoughts on prayer in the first chapter. They set my own thoughts onto a more prayerful life, bringing my daily concerns before the Lord, helping to rely on Him in my own life, and bringing others before the Lord. May the Lord hear our prayers!

Overall the book is a wonderful read for young women waiting on marriage. While Preparing to be a Help-Meet offers great practical advice for preparation..., (Posted on 10/24/2011)

By DivineDating

I am often asked of good Christian dating books to recommend to younger girls. Recently I finished reading a very interesting book by Debi Pearl called Preparing to be a Help Meet. If you have a dating-interested teen that doesn’t necessarily like reading, and has no older girl showing her what a godly relationship looks like, I would definitely recommend this book. For older girls however I would suggest something else. “Preparing to be a Help Meet” is a 227 page book written to single women who await the writing of their love story. Pearl uses eighteen chapters to tell nine real-life love stories. Some are godly examples of what to do and others are examples of what not to do. Throughout the book insights from the three different type of men (explained in chapter 3) which show the male point of view of Pearl’s advice. I would say the overall theme of the book is practical advice for young women waiting to marry. The book also includes an in-depth bible study with step by step instructions for teachers in the back. This would be extremely helpful for anyone leading a group bible study for the first time. Pearl gives specific details from setting the scene to applying practical homework. The author Debi Pearl, is also the writer of a monthly magazine entitled No Greater Joy. Her and her husband started No Greater Joy Ministries in which they published their first book, To Train up a Child, in August of 1994. Her husband Michael has been a pastor, missionary, and evangelist for over 40 years. The book is wonderful in that it gives very practical advice, such as learning to manage time and money, learning cooking, cleaning, and mechanical skills, and respecting and obeying authorities presently in your life as training for marriage. Young minds can be expanded as the reader travels through nine stories from all sorts of women, relationships, and outcomes. Finally, the layout of the book provides an easy and fun way to learn about Christian relationships. One of the most disappointing features of the book is the poorly written content. Although the author’s ideas are valuable, they don’t come across as clearly as intended due to poor organization, editing, and grammar. As a fellow studier of relationships myself, I was also disappointed that the book did not in emphasize the importance of guarding a young woman’s heart, something I consider to be vital for any future relationship. I also thought that while Pearl gave advice on serving, ministering, and learning, she should have also briefly mentioned the importance of making disciples in this stage of life. Overall the book is a wonderful read for young women waiting on marriage. While Preparing to be a Help Meet offers great practical advice for preparation and understanding your future man, I do not recommend reading it unless you have given God all control of your heart. The fantasy-filled pages leave room for young women to waver in the desires of marriage, thus losing focus on God. For more information on this book check out www.nogreaterjoy.org, and for more about my views on guarding your heart check out www.divinedatingforgirls.blogspot.com.

Full Product Description

Being a good help meet starts long before marriage. It is a mindset, a learned habit, a way of life established as a young unmarried girl—or at least that’s the way it should be. It is the older women who have experienced the joys of a good marriage whom God has appointed to pass along his instructions. That is what Debi Pearl has done in this new book.

Preparing To Be A Help Meet also contains six sweet love stories written by wives sharing their experiences about how God taught them to be the help meets they are today.

Bonus! Complete Teacher’s Guide included for women’s study groups.

For unmarried and married women. 296-page book.

From the back cover…

I can think of nothing I want more than someone to truly love me.

You spend your time pining away for your one true love and suddenly…you’re married and it is a lot more than you bargained for. Now is the hour you should be preparing to be a wife—to be a help meet.

  • What does a good guy really look for in a girl?
  • Are you a Dreamer, Servant or Go-to Gal?
  • Do you know what to pray for your man-to-be?
  • Should you tell a guy you like him?
  • Can you know God’s will in choosing a husband?

This book is a companion to Created To Be His Help Meet.

Table of Contents

  1. The Kid’s Love Story
  2. Courtship To Whom?
  3. Three Kinds of Men
  4. The Prophet
  5. The Priest
  6. The King
  7. Three Types of Women
  8. Knowledge
  9. The Italian Prince
  10. Finding Balance
  11. Pie In The Sky
  12. Cinderella
  13. The Wedding
  14. All Things New & Beautiful
  15. Fleas
  16. The Power of Stinking Thinking
  17. What Say The Men?
  18. Reflections?
  • Teacher’s Pre-Guide
  • Teacher’s Guide


'Helps a young girl shift her focus from self-centeredness to honoring Christ, especially in the way she relates to her husband or husband-to-be, no matter what type he is: prophet, priest, or king.'- Shalom, queen of his heart 'An eye-opening, inspiring adventure that has helped me to grow and mature as a woman.'- Kirsten, princess-in-waiting 'Chapter 6 was my favorite. It explains how marriage is a triangle between God, a man and a woman, and that we complete the perfect picture of Christ.'- Shalom, queen of his heart 'I love this book! As a wife it inspires me to be the woman my husband fell in love with. And I’m so excited to be able to share this wisdom with young girls. I can’t wait to start a Bible study!- Kristen, queen of his heart 'My favorite part is the chapter on prayer; it has made a big difference in my life as a single girl. I learned that when God lays a man on your heart then you should pray for him.'- Elizabeth, princess-in-waiting 'I recently participated in a women's Bible study related to this book, an intense analyzation of the virtuous woman in Proverbs 31. What I learned has been a momentous influence on my life, and has opened my eyes to how much room I have for improvement.- Renée, princess-in-waiting

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About the Author

Debi and her husband, Michael Pearl, are international best-selling authors. Their books have been translated into over 30 languages worldwide. They author a free bi-monthly magazine called No Greater Joy which explores child training, marriage, Bible teaching, and natural healing. You are invited to visit them at nogreaterjoy.org and debipearl.com.

Other Formats

This book is also available as an ebook for Amazon Kindle.