Book Description
First written in 2004, this marriage guidebook for women has now sold over 500,000 copies in 12 languages. Women all over the world are seeking biblical counsel on marriage…and finding it, in Created to Be His Help Meet. As each chapter unfolds, you will learn about God’s plan for marriage, how to respond in tough situations, how your attitude can have the greatest effect, and how you can possess the true qualities of a Proverbs 31 woman. Created to be His Help Meet is informative, encouraging, and, for many women,ย life-changing.ย Order today and discover how God can make your marriage glorious.
From the back cover:
Somewhere over the passing years and changing culture, women have lost their way. This book is written to lead them back home. Regardless of how you began your marriage or how dark and lonely the path that has brought you to where you are now, I want you to know that it is possible today to have a marriage so good and so fulfilling that it can only be explained as a miracleโฆ
Note from the author:
“I did it! It took four years, thousands of hours, many tears, revisions, and distractions.ย But I finally finished my book. I had no idea God had so much to say to us ladies until I began going through Godโs Word verse by verse and writing the different sections ofย Created to be Hisย Help Meet. Many times as I read a passage, I would say to my husband, โIโm not going to include those verses in my book because if I do, the ladies (of any religious group you can think of, including my own) will not like my book or promote it.โ My dear husband would say to me, ‘If God thought it was important enough to inspire it as part of his Word to us, then you should include it.’ And so I would cringe and add one more controversial subject after another.ย So, in accordance with Titus 2, where God commands the aged women to teach the younger women, I have obeyed and given you the very best I can do: 27 chapters and 336 pages, a culmination of letters from my readers, counseling sessions, wisdom gleaned from my daughters, my own very personal stories, and, of course, the Word of God. I give you Created to Be His Help Meet.”
Reviews for the book:
Reviewed on January 22, 2026 โญโญโญโญโญ
“Convicting, and will absolutely change your marriage with the help, and guidance of the Lord. Hate to say it, but YOU are most likely the problem.”ย ~Remi
Reviewed on January 17, 2025 โญโญโญโญโญ
“One of the best books ever written for woman on marriage, I love how Debi encourages woman to rise up above circumstances and challenges in life and become victories! God used “Created to be his helpmeet” to open my eyes to the gospel! A must read for every married woman!”ย ~Olga
Reviewed on April 3, 2024โญโญโญโญโญ
“So much valuable information in this book. I couldnโt put it down. I plan on reading it a few times a year so I make sure I remember everything! I donโt have a bad marriage by any means. But I am always striving to be a better wife, mother, and just a person in general so I decided to give it a read. Itโs such an inspiring and convicting book. I feel like my husband and I had a new appreciation for each other after I just started implementing one or two things from it. I would recommend this book to any wife, young or old.”ย ~Hayley
Reviewed on October 25, 2023 โญโญโญโญโญ
“Based on the principles found in the Bible, and specifically Titus, chapter 2, this book changed the way I view marriage. It has blessed my life and therefore my husbandโs, too. Some of it may feel old fashioned, but give it a chance! Iโm not saying itโs Gospel, but I believe every wife will find at least a gem or two that she can bring into her practice as a wife.”ย ~Apryl
Reviewed on June 30, 2021 โญโญโญโญโญ
“I’ve understood my husband so much through reading this.”ย ~H
Justine –
Reviewed as Print Book โ Created to Be His Help Meet by Debi Pearl - 10th Anniversary EditionWhen I first read this book well before I was married I wanted to throw it across the room at times. I had a much different view on marriage after watching my parents divorce and remarry into more unhealthy relationships. But the Lord softened my heart and asked me if I truly believed the Word. Now 4 years into marriage I can honestly say that God’s way is WAY better than the worlds! And this book really highlighted and pointed me to the scripture I needed to hear. Thank you for saying the things no one wants to hear for you are truly loving us women by speaking truth!
TB –
Reviewed as Print Book โ Created to Be His Help Meet by Debi Pearl - 10th Anniversary EditionI was 40 when the Lord allowed my 8 year friendship with a man to become a wonderful courtship and marriage. During our courtship, a dear friend of mine gave me the Helpmeet book and as I read it, my heart resonated with its truths as confirmation of all that I knew that wanted and should be for my husband. It was such an encouragement as I prepared for marriage and I was ready to put it into practice. Then I got married, and although much was wonderful, there were struggles and I went back to the Helpmeet book to now put the Biblical principles into practice daily in reality and not just in my mind. As I read it again the truth taught in it kept me focused on what the Lord needed to change in ME instead of on all that I thought was wrong with my husband. I believe it literally saved our marriage! One part that helped immensely is the types of men Debi describes. When I read the book before I was married, I thought that I was marrying Mr. Steady. But, as I got to know my husband I realized that he is very much a Visionary and the only reason I did not see it much before marriage is that people had squelched this gifting in him and even thought him crazy for this thoughts or actions in situations. As the Lord freed him to be who he was created to be, that visionary part of him came out in full-force. I would have had a much harder time encouraging this gift in him had I not read Helpmeet first! I could literally go on and on about things in the book that have helped me (and what my husband loves about the book) but I will end by saying we give this book out often and I just finished placing another order for 13 more before writing this review. On a side note…we also give out the Preparing to be His Helpmeet books as well and ordered 3 more of those today too!
Joyfulwife –
Reviewed as Print Book โ Created to Be His Help Meet by Debi Pearl - 10th Anniversary EditionI have given this book out for years! I hunt for used copies always! It has saved my marriage more than once. As a formerly abused women being finally married to a good Christian man, I have a hard time seeing I fit in this marriage. So many times I have wanted to walk away but this book, coupled with a close relationship with Christ has saved me so many times! Praise God for Debi and her wisdom. Buy this book more van once because you will love it so much you will HAVE to share it!
Helen –
Reviewed as Print Book โ Created to Be His Help Meet by Debi Pearl - 10th Anniversary EditionDear Debby Pearl! One of my friends has just given to me your book. Iโm glad Iโve read your book Created to be his help meet because I know now for sure that I will not recommend it to anyone. Donโt get me wrong, weโve been married for over 10 years and I call my husband Your Honor and Your Majesty and he loves me greatly! I also came from a very loving Christian family where my mom and dad had wonderful relationship with a COMPLETE SUBMISSION on Momโs part to Dad, and she did it with great joy wholeheartedly. But I know families who, following advices in books like this, completely failed because a husband was put in a place of God. God said:โ Iโm the Lord and I will not give my glory to anyone.โ Also, seems like the author of this book married a pretty decent person at the first place and then gives advices to the wives who are under constant pressure or even attacks from their husbands who are involved in drinking, porn, drugs etc. etc. etc. One lady, whose father was beating her mother every time he was drunk, said:โI wish the author of this book would live in our house for a few years and then write about her experience how to be submissive in everything and joyful as well. Itโs great to write books about constant suffering when you are not going through them.โ One lady from a conservative church, where ladies respect and honor their husbands, told me that they ordered 2 boxes of these books for their womenโs group studies, but when their elders found out whatโs written there, they threw all of them in a trash. Thereโs so much of controversy there in the book itself as well as with the Bible. So, ladies, wives, if you really want to know who and what The Lord created you to be, please refer to Himself, His Word, your husbands (if they are steady in Christ) and other Christians whom you know personalily and see their life in the Lord Jesus according to the Bible. Blessings to you all!
Kimmykk –
Reviewed as Print Book โ Created to Be His Help Meet by Debi Pearl - 10th Anniversary EditionI started a womenโs group at church, thinking it was just a womenโs group. Come to find out, we were reading your book. At first I was like, โbut Iโve been married twice.โ It didnโt matter. I follow Godโs instructions, And stayed steady with the class. This book changed my outlook not only on marriage and love, but our family and life. I would recommend this book to any women. Married or not. Youโll be amazed what you discover, not only about your spouse or marriage, but especially about yourself.