Michael Pearl: Now, Genesis Chapter 2, Verse 24, "Therefore, shall a man leave his father and mother, shall cleave unto his wife, and they shall be one flesh." This is an interesting Hebrew word. Again, this word, "cleave," it's Dabaq in Hebrew, and this "cleave" is used again, 54 times. 32 times, it's translated "cleave" in the English. It's translated five times, "follow hard." In other words, someone is running, and the other person is pursuing them, and is very close to catching them, very intent on catching them, and is right behind them, and will not slacken his pace, and is near to grabbing them, and stays with them, and won't let them out of sight. He's following hard after them.
Then it's translated "overtake" three times. In other words, they followed after the person until they grabbed them, and then "stick" three times, like two things sticking together, and then "keep fast." "Keep fast" is, if I said, "Hold this, and don't dare turn it loose," you'd be keeping it fast. Then it's translated "together," like this, two times, and "abide" one time, like, stay there, "don't leave him close" one time, and "joined" one time, and "pursued" one time, and "take" one time.
So all these together, what could we sum them up as? This word, "cleave," onto your wife, means, "Stay close together." It means, "Be inseparable." That means, "Mingle. Follow hard. Stay right close by. Cling fast. Hold onto. Don't turn loose. Be near to your woman."
God commanded that the man was to leave his father and mother, and cleave unto his wife only. Most men don't cleave to their wives, they just use them. Most men don't cleave to their wives, they just visit them. When we talk with women and gotten letters, do you know what perturbs a woman more than anything, and aggravates her, and destroys the marital relationship? It's her feelings of being used.
Women have a sense, many of them, that, "I am just being used." That's why many women turn away from physical intimacy with their husbands, because that becomes the expression of the ultimate act of being used. They no longer are courted or wooed. They're taken for granted, and being taken for granted, the man comes in ready, the woman is cold turkey, and I mean cold, and turkey, and she just can't catch up to his pace.
He might have been looking at something he shouldn't have been looking at, or thinking thoughts he shouldn't have been thinking, and he comes in primed, and she's not primed at all. In fact, she's a little bit ticked.
And now, he's making these aggressive demands. She looks at him and says, you're an alley cat, you're an animal! Now, my wife has looked at me and says, you're an animal...
...but there are times when they say, you're an animal and they don't any part of the man. Why? Because they feel used.
Now, we tend to think, well, they're not as interested in that aspect of it as we are. Yes, a woman can be, and should be when she's normal is just as interested as the man is. Can be just as aggressive, just as excited, and initiate it just as quickly and readily as the man and be able to be that way. And she ought not to be playing second fiddle. It's all right for her to tune the thing and strike out with the leading chord.
But we see the women in most cases backing off, cooling down, freezing up, and the men become more aggressive, more distant, and their visits become more hasty and unprepared, and they're more unwelcomed. And they say, well, she was OK before we got married. Maybe that was your problem now. Or, she was OK not long after we got married, wonder what's wrong now?
See, I cleave to mine all day long. In fact, I practice foreplay every waking hour. I can do it with my eyes. I can eat her with my eyes. I can love her from afar. I can touch her simply in public and know that she's not going to cool down, know that she's not going to freeze up. It's kind of like going about and turning the microwave on one minute about every ten minutes. So, when you really get ready to cook something, you know it's ready.
Are you understanding what I'm saying? I'm talking in parables because you're hard of hearing.
And so, those little ears which hear and should not understand will not understand. And if they're big enough to understand, it's OK.