Young Adults & Marriage - Part 5

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Announcer:  Can you imagine needing to ask Mike Pearl for his daughter's hand? Mike shares the stories.

Michael Pearl:  My daughters are treasures. They're special. They're Pearls. We put an awful lot into them.

You know, it's surely not right: You give birth to a kid, they've got your name, and you put in 20 years of money and training, and then just give them away. Poof! They're gone! They change their name, even. Some fella that you didn't have anything to do with is suddenly her boss, and you’re not. You just gave her away. If you built a house from the ground up, you worked 20 years on it, you put money into it and all that, and then just, "It's okay, it's yours. Take it!" That's the way it is, to give girls up. It's not so bad with the fellas. My boys are still Pearls, and they live around there, but my daughter Rebekah, she married a guy and off to New Mexico she goes. She's gone. Gabe Anast came around asking about Rebecca before he ever even met her, and I kept him there and worked him about six months.

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He still hadn't met her. She was living in Israel, ministering. I got to know him and I liked him. He's a fine fella, but he seemed to be too dreamy. He didn't have his feet on the ground enough; too many ideas without actually doing something. She came back, and they met. She liked him, and I didn't think she would. He was just different from us, the Pearls. She liked him; he's a geek. He's a computer geek, and he's pretty scientific minded; got a lot of crazy ideas and stuff.

Debi Pearl:  He came up with the Steady, Command Man, Visionary.

Michael:  Yeah, he's the one that developed the idea of Command Man, Visionary, and Steady Man. She wanted to marry him, and I said fine, but they're still as poor as church mice. He still can't do anything to make a lot of money. He got one scheme going and lost a lot of money for everybody who bought into it, but I don't know what it was.

My daughter, Shalom, we had a bunch of guys hanging around. Shalom is the sweetest, most hard-working, most cheerful, dedicated, reliable person on the face of the earth. She's the steady woman.

Debi:  Thirty-one offers.

Michael:  Thirty-one offers. We had guys wanting to marry her one after the other, they wanted Shalom. She was the most popular daughter we had. They'd come up to me and say, "I'd like to marry your daughter." I'd say, "When's the last time you did pornography?" "I quit two weeks ago." "Forget it."

"I'd like to marry your daughter." "You a virgin?" "Well, yeah, sort of." "Tell me about it." "No." "Get lost."

They'd come up to me and say, "I'd like to marry your daughter." I'd say, "What are you doing for a living?" "I'm living home and I'm 21 years old." "Get on. Get out of here."

There were some handsome guys, some big guys. Finally this fella comes up to me . . .

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. . . and he says "I'd like to talk to you about Shalom." [high pitched voice]

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I asked him some questions and he answered all of them well. The guy was working good, working hard. He told me he was making a lot of money, but he wasn't making that much. Good family, good attitude. I went to my boys and I said, "What about this fella? What do you think about him?" They said, "I went overseas with him somewhere."

Debi:  Thailand.

Michael:  Went to Thailand with him. They said, "He's solid. Got real character" and so forth. I asked Nathan; I asked my other daughter. They'd been around him some for a year or something. He didn't live where we did; he lived an hour away. He'd been to some of our Bible studies and been to play volleyball with them. Different things like that, gone mudding, caving, and what-not. I found out he drove racecars, and four-wheel drives, and motorbikes, and repaired them and things like that. Just a really go-getter outdoorsman with a lot of aggression for a guy his size. [laughter]

Michael:  I hope he's not in here. [laughter]

Michael:  I said to him, "It's up to her, whatever she says." She said, "Daddy, he wants to take me out to get some ice cream. Is that okay?" I said yeah. 24 hours later they came back and said, "We want to get married." I said, "Next week?" She said, "No, we're gonna wait what, two months? Two or three months or something like that?" They waited two or three months and they got married.

Debi:  They're both 5' 6".

Michael:  Yeah, they're both 5' 6". He lives a couple miles from us, and he works around there a lot, around the place. He helps us out a lot, and when we go on seminars he does the driving. He's an excellent driver. I've never trusted anyone to do the driving except me, but I trust him, so I'll sit there and relax. He does the driving; he does the organization of everything. They count the books we take in, they do the selling, they keep up with all the money, they run the errands for us, and then when we get back they unload everything, organize it, count it, keep the receipts, and just do a very excellent job. They're both as happy as can be, and they've given me a very cute little grandbaby girl. I'm really thankful for Justin and Shalom and their relationship, and he's part of the family now.

Then there was Shoshanna. Shanna was the last one to get married, and not many asked for Shanna. You know why? Because I tried to teach both of the girls to be tough, and it took with Shanna.

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It didn't with Shalom. Shanna was particularly gifted physically. She could play volleyball better than any of the other guys. She got invited to play professionally, and join Olympic teams. She's really good. She'll jump up and cram that volleyball right down your throat. I've gone to some tournaments she played in and watched her, and I can't believe anybody can move the way she can move and do what she can do with the volleyball. That's before she got a big belly, of course.

She's got the same confidence that I do, and aggression. She'll tell you off real quick. She'll straighten you out. She's got an opinion, it's the right one, and she's ready to offer it to anybody that doesn't want to hear it. Guys would come around and she'd just humiliate them. She made them feel inferior, so they didn't want to tackle her, or have anything to do with her. We just didn't have the guys coming after Shoshanna like they did Shalom. A few did, but not many, and I ran a couple of them off by asking them the right questions and them giving the wrong answers.

Finally a fella came along that she chose, and he would not have been the one that I would have chosen. He didn't seem to be as developed yet, as a man, as I would have chosen. But she liked him, and so I said, "Okay. He checked out okay, if that's what you want," and they got married. He is growing, and they're growing together. He is able to manage her. He's able to control her, instead of her controlling him. She is somehow enamored with him, and delighted with him, and thinks he's so wonderful that she's willing to submit to him. They've put something together I could never have put together or created.

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