Hey this is for all of the married ladies here.  I thought it would be fun to share our stories of how God brought us to our husbands.  I'll start with mine.

I was 17 when I received an e-mail from a nice young man asking me to design a website for him.  I had advertised my services on my profile on a homeschool website I was a part of.  I said, "sure" and sent him my contract to read over and sign.  So I started designing his website, and would talk to him over the phone about this and that that involved his decisions.  Those calls were once a week.  Long-story-short in a couple of months we were really good friends and were simply using the website designing as a sort of cover up.  I suggested he call my brother, seeing as they had a lot of common interests, and they began talking on the phone a lot too.  After a while, my brother asked him to come visit, which "just happened" to be on the weekend of my graduation.  When I saw him for the first time in the airport, I knew that I was going to marry him. ;)  But over that visit nothing happened.  He went back home, and I waited for a whole month, still "just friends."  Finally, one day we were chatting about a book I had sent him to read, and he told me the words that made me dizzy for a little bit.  He actually said, "I like you"!  Oh my!  I said it back.  Then he said, "we need to wait until the time is right."  I was so confused.  So I told him "okay" and resigned myself to waiting. ♥ He was scheduled to come visit us again in a couple months, so I was excited about that.  The second time he visited, though, my older brother had moved for work, so it was really obvious that he had come to visit me.  A while after he arrived, he asked me if I would like to start courting (of course I said yes!), and he asked my dad for his blessing.  My dad happily gave it to him. ♥ Six weeks later my mom and I flew (over 2000 miles) to visit him and meet his family.  On that visit we got engaged.  And a whirlwind seven weeks later we got married in a small country church. ♥ We're still living the happily forever after!

Hi my name is Jana and im 16 years old. About six months ago I met this guy who started to come to my church. He became very close friends with my family, coming over several times a week and I started to care for him alot. He told us his testimony about how before he was saved he was drunk driving and the girl he was with actually died. About three months ago he went to prison to serve his sentence which is 4-6 years. I wrote him a few letters, and my dad wrote him asking if he would like to get to know me better. He said that he would like to remain friends, but he has continued to write me. I want to guard my heart, but im not exactly sure how. I know this doesnt seem like a big deal to most people, but I want to be extremely careful about guarding my heart. I guess my question is should I continue to write him as just friends?

Hi Debi/Shalom - I have read many books and attended seminars on dating, courtship eyc. I lay in my bed yesterday and keyed into YouTube biblical dating and came across the discussions Debi had with Kirsten. It was an eye-opener to say the least.

I live in England, 32 year old femalepreparing for marriage. Since listening to the conversations I have purchased the book (kindle version). I am a Christian and serving in my local church. From time to time I attend another church when am not serving and there's no activity in my church). I have since noticed a young man who for all intents and purposes loves the Lord. He isinterested in me and although I did not notice over a year I now do and I am equally interested to get to know him. The issue is that there seems to be an unspoken protocol in that church marry from within the church and I think this is making it difficult for him to approach me or to say anything. What do you suggest in this situation?

I'm attending a very liberal college, but there are two Christian clubs on campus (CRU and a small, local group), and I'm in the middle of starting a pro-life club.  The president of the local club is a passionate, Christian young man, and he loves witnessing to nonbelievers.  However, he has difficulty explaining his points to the unsaved people he talks with.  I am extremely familiar with the topics and I often feel like taking over his conversations; but that would just be rude and a bad testimony.  Sometimes, though, when he has difficulty describing a specific Bible verse, I read it for both his and his companion's benefit.

Last quarter, he mentioned that he wanted to have music this quarter, and I volunteered to play my violin.  We've been texting mostly about music, but also a little about my club and church.

I want to help him learn how to witness more effectively, but at the same time, I don't want to come off as being spiritually superior or romantically interested.  How do I just give him a few pointers without acting "smarter/better" than him?

...accidental double post, I can edit but not delete-  moderator?