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What is this website all about?

Centered around Debi Pearl’s book, Preparing To Be A Help Meet, the purpose of this website is to help answer any questions you have about the book, personality types, marriage and marriage preparation, meeting the right person, etc.

You can ask questions, find answers, learn about the book, meet the author, and more!

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  Who Question / Topic Responses
happykoalakatie I would say to keep your conversation on the Lor…
Allie Thank you all for your answers!! It's interestin…
daddysgirlleh Hi Shalom! I really like the list you gave of c…
smartcookie Hi Shalom, Wow - thanks for your list of the v…
Shalom I mean {a first born}, My kids were talking to m…
Shalom Kingsdaughter was right, I would say you are a D…
daddysgirlleh Hey there! That is a really good question, and …
Shalom I say, be safe and just always be careful!
daddysgirlleh Thanks so much for your reply!! I appreciate it …
thankfulwifey My husband fell for me when I had the shortest h…
raggedycottagegarden It can stir up "sexual" feelings may be......but…
james410 i can not speak from experience but i can tell y…
Shalom What we think is God's will, is not always God's…
thankfulwifey This might sound like a cop out to some…but co…
raggedycottagegarden If you do not have the heart to be with a certai…
Shalom Steady guys always like GO-to-Girls it seems. Th…
thankfulwifey Remember, even if someone has "nibbled your choc…
raggedycottagegarden I agree with Shalom touch of a woman can lead to…
Shalom Now concerning the things whereof ye wrote unto …
Shalom Thankyou for sharing this with us. Shalom
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Who Topic
Thursday, April 17th, 2014 10:27 pm GMT -6
What Kind of Girl Am I ?


Is it possible to be a servant girl and to be an go-to-gal ? I love helping others and I don’t mind sitting back and letting others take the leadership. However I do have a stubborn streak, and can at times have a contentious spirit. I have to work… show more »

Thursday, April 17th, 2014 10:27 pm GMT -6
How to Prepare to Marry a Command Man

Hi there,

I am a servant girl with a tad bit of visionary. I am looking for ways that I can prepare to marry a kingly man. I could use any suggestions. Thanks!!

Sarah Lee
Thursday, April 17th, 2014 10:26 pm GMT -6
Magazine for Christian Girls

Hi Ladies,

My family publishes a quarterly magazine for Christian young ladies, called “The King’s Blooming Rose,” (http://kingsbloomingrose.com) which contains articles, personal testimonies, poems, pen-pal ads, and much more. Yesterday, I was talking with Shalom (she is so sweet!), and she suggested I share the information for KBR with you… show more »

Monday, March 31st, 2014 11:30 pm GMT -6
Losing Close Friend Due to Marriage?


I just got married recently, and I have an odd question that maybe you all can help me with.

I have a friend who was interested in the man who is now my husband. What happened was kind of like this: we were all friends, then she started liking him… show more »

Wednesday, March 19th, 2014 06:24 pm GMT -6
Premarital Sex

In 1 Corinthians 6:16 says that he which is joined with a harlot is one flesh…my question is if you have sex with your fiancé does that mean you are one In Gods eyes… I feel like you are but others I’ve talked to says no. So I need… show more »

Thursday, March 13th, 2014 10:40 pm GMT -6
Homeschool Alumni

Are any of you on the Homeschooling Alumni? I just joined and am already enjoying meeting more homeschoolers and fellow believers!
For those of you who haven’t seen it yet, here’s the link: http://www.homeschoolalumni.org/index.php

Tuesday, March 4th, 2014 08:05 pm GMT -6
Cultivating Friendship

At 23 years of age, I am in a relationship with a Christian man with whom I have been acquainted for a year. We realize the importance of basing our relationship on sound communication and friendship. May I hear some stories of how you developed these before and after marriage?

Monday, February 24th, 2014 04:37 pm GMT -6
How Do I Wait and Honour the Lord Through My Waiting?

Hi there! To make a long story short, for the past few months God showed me clearly the boy He wants me to marry to. We talked about it and he is sure that i am the girl for him too. Fact is, I am 18 and still a… show more »

Monday, February 24th, 2014 04:37 pm GMT -6
Meek and Quiet Spirit

Thank you for offering us the chance to ask questions. I don’t normally do this, but I see the wisdom in asking. I am between a rock and a hard place. I wish we could sit and I could explain this story to you detail after detail. I remember… show more »

Monday, February 24th, 2014 04:37 pm GMT -6
How to Guard My Heart??

I am eighteen years old, the oldest of eight. Until I was sixteen I was very committed to saving my heart and purity for marriage, and when the time was right, a godly young man would potentially approach my father and I would court-with the intention of marriage.

in the… show more »

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Topic Responses
How to Meet Godly Young Men??
» cfaith
Posted Wednesday, June 5th, 2013 08:02 am GMT -6. Last reply was February 11 by Shalom.
Is Joking/picking O.k.?
» dottie
Posted Thursday, April 25th, 2013 07:13 am GMT -6. Last reply was February 27 by james410.
Mission Work
» kingsdaughter7
Posted Wednesday, May 22nd, 2013 08:10 am GMT -6. Last reply was March 19 by Allie.
What to Do if Your Husband Acts Like a Child?
» ang3lblu
Posted Monday, June 10th, 2013 11:30 am GMT -6. Last reply was February 21 by thankfulwifey.
Is It Right to Show Admiration?
» dottie
Posted Friday, May 24th, 2013 09:13 am GMT -6. Last reply was February 11 by Shalom.
Biblical Divorce?
» sunflower
Posted Monday, June 24th, 2013 08:46 am GMT -6. Last reply was January 13 by burkeygirl4jesus.
What Type of Girl Am I?
» Allie
Posted Wednesday, March 19th, 2014 06:24 pm GMT -6. Last reply was April 4 by Allie.
Natural Family Planning
» akiteinthesky
Posted Thursday, April 25th, 2013 07:14 am GMT -6. Last reply was May 31 by sbalia.
How to Be Loving and Friendly Even when You Don’t Approve of Someone’s Actions
» sunflower
Posted Thursday, April 25th, 2013 07:14 am GMT -6. Last reply was May 16 by blackwhitedenim.
God May Forget Me?
» lisa
Posted Tuesday, May 28th, 2013 10:48 am GMT -6. Last reply was February 11 by Shalom.

Personality Types?


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