Science has proven that there is no such thing as “can’t help it.” Mike and I knew all through these 50 years of counseling, but what could we say to someone who came to us for help? Call them a liar? Tell them they could help it if they’d just repent and turn to God? In most cases they were too entrenched behind the wall of inability and victimhood. Oh, the beauty of having a new weapon against this age old self-deception. Now we can say, “Let’s go get a scan of your brain. I’m paying.”

Calling all teenagers…normal, healthy, smart, beautiful, talented, needed, wonderful…hey, I’m talking to you! Tandy was twelve years old when the first boy gave her “the look” that sent a thrill right down her backbone.

When overcome with frustration, children can lash out in anger. Learn how to become your little ones’ advocate and example so that they might acquire the tools necessary to confidently face life’s difficulties.

…Children (as well as adults) throw fits as a means of controlling the actions of others. Your daughter screams and runs away because it works in reducing the pain…

The following article deals with a very important subject that we have touched on before but never discussed in detail—a child’s will to dominate. I chose this letter because it so clearly represents the many letters we receive.