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Homeschooling High Schoolers?

April 15, 2016
Homeschooling High Schoolers?


Dear Mike & Debi,

First, I want to thank you for your ministry. I am most grateful for Mike’s Bible teachings! They have exploded my understanding of Scripture and increased my faith in our awesome God. So thank you!

My question is about homeschooling. I think I have read everything you’ve written on homeschooling, including Debi’s BIG BOOK OF HOMESCHOOLING, and even Rebekah’s book THE DA VINCI ROAD. But when it comes to exactly how you homeschooled for high school, I’ve only found vague mentions of your boys working, etc. Will you expound on what you did specifically for homeschooling when your kids were ages 14–18? Especially your boys. Did they have graduation ceremonies? Diplomas? How did they get higher learning?

I have two sons and we’ve homeschooled them all their lives and loved it. But high school has been a little different. How can average suburbanites accomplish homeschooling through high school? The standards for achieving a degree for higher education require transcripts and diplomas. Would you have done anything differently if they suddenly changed their minds at age 17 and wanted to go to college? Do any of them take the PSAT, SAT, or ACT tests? Why or why not?

Anything you can offer to shed light on your experiences of homeschooling your kids in their teens through high school would be appreciated!


Mike answers:

I will answer your question concerning older students and also include letters from young adults who were schooled with real, hands-on learning, but first this:

We did not raise our children in a classroom environment. I conducted my “classes” in the front seat of the pickup or in the cabinet shop. Deb conducted her classes in the kitchen or sitting at the kitchen table enthusiastically discussing points of interest to the children. They chose projects that were interesting to them. They could be found searching the library, collecting rocks, leaves, and bugs, or constructing solar systems with foam balls, wire, and paint. The only tests they took were when someone tried to cheat them at a cash register or when they were dividing up earnings from a corporate entrepreneurial endeavor. Have you ever seen three kids, ages four, six, and eight dividing up $5.37? Old-fashioned suspicion will make mathematicians out of them in a hurry. I am often asked, “But aren’t schools the best way to learn?” Where did you get a ridiculous idea like that?

H.G. Wells, a noted humanist and historian, wrote in his The Outline of History concerning the schools of Alexandria, Egypt, between the second and seventh centuries AD:

Wisdom passed away from Alexandria and left pedantry [pretentious display of knowledge] behind. For the use of books was substituted the worship of books. Very speedily the learned became a specialized queer class with unpleasant characteristics of its own. The Museum had existed for half a dozen generations before Alexandria was familiar with a new type of human being: shy, eccentric, unpracticed, incapable of essentials, strangely fierce upon trivialities of literary detail, as bitterly jealous of the colleague within as of the unlearned without—the Scholarly Man. He was as intolerant as a priest, though he had no cave. For him no method of copying was sufficiently tedious and no rare book sufficiently inaccessible. He was a sort of by-product of the intellectual process of mankind. For many precious generations the new-lit fires of the human intelligence were to be seriously banked down by this by-product.

I have observed the product of America’s modern counterpart to the Alexandrian school. Their frail bodies, white with the tan of florescent lights, shoulders humped, eyes squinted, poor complexion from the junk food consumed between lessons, stumble from their classrooms to stand in line for the next culturally preordained phase of life. Their mentality is that since they have given themselves to the system, the system owes them a good job, good wages, medical coverage, fair play, protection, entertainment, a vacation, retirement, old-age convalescence, and a proper burial. God save us from being average. I don’t want to be a part. I don’t want to rear children to be a cog in this wheel.

It is obvious that many homeschooling families are nothing more than reformed public educational systems. A system faulty at the very core of its philosophy doesn’t need reformation; it needs dismissal. The education system in America doesn’t need a new teacher; it needs a new birth.

Whether in the home dictated by parents, or in the corporate classroom John Dewey style, education has taken an invasive, destructive course. Intensive, time-consuming mental discipline—out of proportion to working with the hands—is alien to natural humanity and a threat to normal development. It is a perversion to take a five- to twelve-year-old child and enter him in a demanding competition for academic excellence. We would all find fault with an ambitious adult that put his seven-year-old through a demanding schedule of football training. Is the seven-year-old any better equipped to handle the emotional demands of professional study? How can we justify raping a child’s youth by forced confinement in full-time study? Child prodigies are usually abnormal, unfulfilled adults. Head-starters are often late finishers with no desire to continue their education.

If you have ever wondered where the real men went, they disappeared into textbooks and went through puberty with books in their laps rather than tools in their hands.

Just as the motions of crawling are essential to the development of an infant, and hanging on to his mama’s skirts is essential to a four-year-old’s sense of security, so following his daddy around is an integral part of the ten-year-old’s psychological development into manhood. Schooling will fill their brains with facts, enabling them to pass tests, but it will not teach them to relate to society. When children should be developing confidence, creativity, individuality, strong bodies, and work ethics, instead they are made to cease independent decision making and march (or rather sit) in formation to the drum beat of a lifeless curriculum. If you have wondered where the real men went, they disappeared into textbooks and went through puberty with books in their laps rather than tools in their hands.

Let us not go through another upper-class Alexandrian Dark Age. There is no ignorance as great as book ignorance—not ignorance OF books, ignorance IN books. Just so you understand my perspective: I am a college graduate. I write this while sitting in a room with thousands of books lining all available wall space from floor to ceiling. I have read a meaningful portion of most of them. My children all read for enjoyment and as research to satisfy curiosity or to fill a need. Rebekah, our only child who thus far has found it needful to go to college, earned the highest grade point average—4.0. My present purpose is not to brag on my kids. I am willing enough to do that, but I want you to understand that book education is shallow without a larger education in real life. When book education becomes predominant, the student is no longer living in the real world.

I know that there comes a time when a mature adult may need to immerse himself in studies, shutting out the real world, but this should be the burden of a mature adult who has a goal that can only be realized through the weariness of much study. A child who is yet growing and developing a personality and character should not spend long periods of time withdrawn in study.

What horrors, to see a small child quivering under the condemnation of his mother because he can’t keep his mind on a dead book lying in front of him! Long hours of boredom and pretended study stunts the intellectual growth of young children. Yes, we want our children to be educationally equipped to enter into any field or discipline they may choose, but mindset is more important than mind content. It is far more important for a child to grow into personal confidence, creativity, and vision than to rush into academic excellence. The reality is that most homeschooling parents are following the current pop philosophy, sacrificing the humanity of their children for the promise of academic security.

There must be a balance. Rather than the imbalance of six hours of study and one hour of recess, for the six- to ten-year-old let there be one hour of study, five hours of recess, and two hours of work. Balance the ten- to fourteen-year-old with two hours of play, one hour of study, and five hours of work. Balance the fifteen- to sixteen-year-old with seven hours of work, one hour of study, and let him find time to play. Following a natural course as I have described, the seventeen- to eighteen-year-old won’t need your balancing; he will be a man in every sense of the word. The seventeen-year-old girl will be a lady of poise and confidence, ready to meet whatever challenges await her.

Over the last 40 years I have observed many families who believed the greater the education, the greater the success in life. Many of those college graduates have never provided adequate support for their own families. Opportunity existed, but they were not able to do anything other than sit at a desk for a weekly salary. If the economy were to collapse, they would not know how to survive. Isolated book learning is true ignorance—ignorance of real life.

In your heart you know that the present public system is anti-human as well as anti-God. Homeschoolers have eliminated the anti-God aspect, but most of them have retained the anti-human elements in their schooling.

In conclusion, children and young people should not be pushed by anxious parents who feel that their children’s happiness depends on cramming them full of book knowledge. When they are old enough to send themselves through college, they can make the decision to become a professional student. The self-confidence and working skills learned in their youth will better equip them for life as well as higher education.

Here are the letters from young adults who were schooled with real, hands-on learning:

From Benjamin
<!– From Marc –>

From Eric

From Karen


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7 comments on “Homeschooling High Schoolers?”

  1. Like so much of the info you publish, I LOVED this article. I homeschool our almost 12 yr old daughter (we are in a Classical Conversations community and thoroughly enjoy it). However, I do wish I would’ve done some things a bit differently along the way. I was public schooled, raised in a middle-class sub-division in a non-Christian, dysfunctional home including enduring the suicide of my mother when I was 16. I barely graduated high-school and never went to college. I’m now 49 and very happily married to a good man for 13 years. It’s a miracle from God that I am where I am today. I’m giving you this background to let you know that more often than not, I feel rather clueless about how to go about giving our daughter a well-rounded education (i.e. one that includes strong work ethic and such).

    We live on 10 acres (mostly wooded) in northern IN. My daughter enjoys free play with her toy horses, playing with friends and our two dogs. She has a tender, compassionate spirit, loves Jesus, people and wild-life too but she is not self-motivated when it comes to academics or general responsibility. (Very phlegmatic with a touch of melancholic and sanguine.) In your article you recommended balancing ten-to-fourteen-year-olds with two hours of play, one hour of study, and five hours of work. Outside of general house chores can you recommend other areas of work I could be including in our days? At what age should a child begin displaying what their giftings are? I fear sometimes that I am missing what those giftings are and therefore not honing in on them.
    Thanks kindly,
    Leslie S.

  2. I’m still in high school, and I love the NGJ articles! I’m the 5th of 12 children. I just wanted to say that if you want to give your children an education with high school credits that will help them get into colleges if they want to, then you might want to try a Christian online school called NorthStar Academy! It’s what us older kids use, and it’s a great Christian environment with good classes. Just my 12-year-old sister, me (I’m 14) and my 16-year-old sister use it because the other older siblings are all done with high school and my parents want to keep doing “hands on” homeschooling until my younger siblings are a little older.

    You can take as many or as few courses at a time as you want. You can do it at almost any pace you want. It’s also pretty flexible.

  3. Two recent AWESOME mommy moments with our homeschool high school graduate:
    1.) When your 20-year-old son tells you “thank you” for raising him with the mantra “find a solution” though at 12 he dreaded it because he was lazy, at 20 he thanks you in appreciation as it has made him a compliment to his electrical contracting dad as all the other contractors praise him for “finding a solution”.
    2.) When that same son gives you a last minute Happy Mother’s Day gift of hand-picked daffodils in a quart jar and a note:
    “Mom, I could not have asked for a better mother for the past 20 years of my life. You have been there for me through every trial life brings. Even tho I don’t always take it, please don’t stop giving me that advice 🙂 I love you lots! Your son Gabe W”
    Sprinkled with incorrect spelling and grammar our “raised-on-the-job” son is a joy to my heart.

  4. We homeschooled 5 children K-13.

    You can make your own transcript.

    4 of 5 enlisted in the military then went on to college no problems (#5 is disabled)

    Colleges are mainly interested in if you have the money to pay for them. If that checks out, nothing else really matters.

  5. This article is all well and good, but what about state laws? For instance, mine dictates a certain set number of hours be logged in certain subjects. Are you suggesting lying about what schooling is taking place in order to log these hours? In other states testing has to occur at the end of the year. If a child has never taken a real test, how can they do a decent job on it? Just honestly wondering.

  6. I enjoyed reading this article, as I have your books for the past 20 years. I homeschooled my autistic son for several years and he attended Christian School. He didn’t get a diploma due to learning disabilities but has done well in life. He lives at home at the 25, but works fill time as a landscaper and pays all his own bills including car payment. My almost 17 year old rising junior daughter, has been homeschooled or in Christian School her entire life. We school year round using Monarch online thru alpha omega publications. She struggles to get her assignments done and is overwhelmed most of the time. She really wants to go to college for zoology, so I do push her to do well in her subjects for that purpose. I am more interested in God’s will for her life and her relationship with Him. She only had two years left and I’m torn with how to finish high school. I want to teach her to cook and clean etc. But I haven’t had time. She already is efficient in child care and taking care of animals and gardening etc. I would love advice for how to best handle her last two years, as I feel like I want to be as involved as possible before she leaves home for college or marriage. I wish I had this article a couple years ago! Thanks again.