How do I submit to a husband who is on probation and is not allowed to leave the state without permission by law for a few years?

I mean…..if I act as “pretty lady” and kind talking to him he gives me gifts (from gambling to regular employment) and is kind towards wife.  Husband slipped and ended up embezzling thus putting him on probation.   I do not support his selfish-act of gambling nor his embezzlement in this situation.

On the other hand if I act as a supporter of the law of the land and God’s law about the dangers of gambling, husband returns home to his “woman-at-the-well” mother (has had multiple boyfriends,fatherless situations,  husband etc), thus leaving me and children partially emotionally neglected, while husband builds a depression and anger at the laws of the land and possibly even towards me his wife?

I appreciate Debi Pearl’s book created to be his helpmeet as this has explained what it means to please husband in ALL areas of his life…….I know Debi never had to face this issue with a husband in legal problems for doing something against laws of land AND against God’s laws.

I’m kind of at a dead-end so to speak as to how to face this situation.

Note to the unmarried woman: Please please please check out the family situation your future husband came from.  BEWARE of these things before letting any man even touch you!!!  Was he a foster unadopted child?  Chances are at about 70% that he will end up in prison.  Was he a spoiled and unspanked child?  Beware about his possible support of homosexuality and pornography.  Was he a child of a “woman-at-the-well” in a fatherless home?  Beware of the possible prison sentences and lack of financial resources to keep the marriage alive in a legal and moral sense.