Posted July 16, 2012


I have been recently diagnosed with bi polar disorder. In case you dont know what it is.. quote, ‘Bipolar disorder is a condition in which people go back and forth between periods of a very good or irritable mood and depression. The “mood swings” between mania and depression can be very quick’.

I knew something was wrong from a very early age. One minute id be happy.. next minute depressed and by the time i was 13 i was sucidical.

I accepted the Lord at age 15 but i still have symtoms of the disorder. Infact they never went away. I take care of my health and i eat very healthy. I exercise and do all the ‘right’ things so i know there is nothing more i can do myself.

I read the book created to be his helpmeet. I desire this very much but it is impossible for me to be joyful and all these things your suppose to be with this order. I tried to practise with my dad and mum and it would work when i was normal. Once the bipolar kicked in though it was impossible to be happy because thats the point of the disorder. Anyways this has been going on for many years…

I was wondering if i should even bother marrying with this disorder?? I wouldnt be the helpmeet Debi described in her book! 🙁


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  1. CJ

    Pray! Ask God all these questions. If His plan for your life is for you to marry someone, you will know if you continually bring it before Him. And don’t let Debi Pearl’s description be the stereotype. Everyone is different, and I’m sure there are many young ladies (and young men) out there with your situation!
    Praying for you, Larnia!

    # July 16, 2012

  2. Alexandra

    The man who marries you (if it is God’s will for you to be married) will love you for who you are, whether you have bipolar, a scraggly beard of whatever. You can fulfill you obligations as a wife whenever possible. Of course, you can’t really when you do your bipolar thing, but again, the man who marries you will know that and love you anyway. As a wife, you are not REQUIERED to be perfect. You are required to honor your husband.
    In the meantime, just ask God for guidance and strength. This sounds very painful for you (emotionally) and I will be praying for you. God Bless

    # July 18, 2012

    • CJ

      Exactly. The man who marries you will love you for you. In the mean time, pray.

      # July 20, 2012

  3. Naomi

    I don’t know if it would help your situation at all, but I would like to recommend this book to you. Emotional Victory: How to Deal with the Way You Feel by Bud Calvert [] The doctors who diagnosed your condition may not give you any possible hope of recovery, but I believe Jesus Christ does.

    # July 20, 2012

  4. Kait

    My best friend has bi-polar. She has read Preparing to Be a Help Meet and is excited to get married. She normally has a cheerful, bubbly personality and the guys around town are always after her. She has already had a couple of young men express interest and I’m sure she will soon be married.

    # August 9, 2012

  5. beth

    I have a life long disease that will forever affect my day to day life. I often have wondered if any guy would want me because of it- and have found that some guys just DON’T care! 🙂 (My issue is severe food allergies.) If it is God’s will for you to be married- the right guy will love you whether or not you are bi-polar, allergic to most foods, are bald, or any other issue.
    Just a note of encouragement- our God is bigger than any disease including you being bi-polar. He can help you have a cheerful heart if you are willing.
    With God ALL things are possible- in having a husband who accepts you, or in overcoming emotions.

    # March 3, 2013