I am getting married to a really sweet man of God, who I met on online. He loves the lord
But his walk with God isn’t as strong as mine and so idk know if that matters, so I am wondering if I should be concerned with that? Also he also has some other issues but I’m confused if they’re issues I should be concered with as well.
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You indicated that you are displeased with this man’s spirituality and “other” issues. This is not a good way to begin a marriage. It sounds like you want to change him, to make him a suitable mate for you. I’d recommend you reconsider your reasons for marriage.
Did God give him a vision to get married to you? (like a Gideon Sign)
How about the other way around, have you prayed and asked God to reveal to YOU if this is the right man for you?? Was the answer yes?
Pro_29:18 Where there is no vision, the people perish: but he that keepeth the law, happy is he.
I am personally afraid of online dating as there are vicious sex predators and serial rapists even on “christian” dating sites. I know far too many people who turn to online dating as their idol rather than God simply because they feel lonely and end up married to the worst of men. A woman NEEDS to have private “dates” with Christ regularly (once a week) to ensure she doesn’t feel that ugly lonely feeling and turn to online dating as her only source of comfort. I know that sounds pretty straight forward, but safety is better than regrets.
Is his family comfortable with you? Is your family comfortable with him? Do your families get along?? Are there any red flags that show up among the people in his workplace or in the community?
I would ask and answer positively ALL the above questions before moving too much closer if you sense concern with this relationship.
Spirituality as woman sees it is not cut-an-dry like it is for men. What woman sees as spiritual may actually just be artsy creativity bottled in with lies, hence mega churches and pseudoscience religion which creates the ____ism creep up because the women (and men who follow them) are easily blinded by it. I know that’s a strange description……but the point is, a woman has trouble seeing what a strong walk with God actually looks like from her own feelings point of view. She needs other people to determine if the walk with God is true for a man. Even secular non-believing man has a sense of truth and understanding that there is greater good in man-kind, he just doesn’t know that it comes from Christ alone.
Like I said before, I am afraid of online dating but if you can answer ALL the above questions positively, then the marriage would be a success. If there are red flags, you may have to start from scratch to ensure your safety.
I’d like to insert here that as women it can seem that we are “more spiritual” because we have a LOT of emotions. Don’t let that cloud your decision over whether or not to marry him. That can turn out to be foolish and vain. If he is trusting God for his salvation, has strong character, and will take good care of you and your family, I wouldn’t seek for him to be more “spiritual.” You yourself said he is a man of God. So why exactly are you worried? Are you having last minute jitters from the stress and business of the moment, or is it a deeper issue (i.e. an addiction to p*rn)? I would suggest that instead of seeking counsel from us, perhaps you should find an older, happily married lady who will give you Biblical counsel (other than your mom, because she is emotionally involved) and ask her your questions. Explain the things that you’re having questions about.
Above all, realize that once you marry him, this the man that you will follow for the rest of your life, happily submitting to his authority, loving no matter what. It’s a lot of fun!
(p.s. I met my hubby online too! He’s God’s greatest blessing!)