So, not sure quite what I want to ask, but probably looking for encouragement as much as advice. I love the Lord and am commited to purity. I have very high standards of what I want in a husband and am keeping busy with work and serving others. And theres this guy…. 😉 My family moved to this area around 4 years ago and even then I noticed him. He is the godliest young man I have ever met-maybe even the godliest man I have ever met. He has such a servants heart and has such a hunger to serve God and devours his word. I see him growing in his faith all the time and his is constantly encouraging others. He has a vision and pursues God wholeheartedly. I am REALLY attracted to him. He is also very hansome but the funny thing is I didn’t even realize that until recently. I always noticed him because of his kindness and heart for the Lord.
I pray for him a lot that God would stregnthen him and help him to continue to grow in his faith. And I pray for God’s will to be done in both of our lives.
I am a very busy person and always am busy with more projects and interests than I can keep up with. I just graduated from high school this spring and have hardly even started my single years. I am so happy and content in my life right now, yet I also long to be loved by a godly man. These feelings are so strong. Is it wrong to feel this way? Am I getting distracted? But the thing is, this godly man always encourages me onto godliness. Whenever I think of him I always want to seek God more recklessly and serve him from a purer heart.
This past January my brother started a young peoples Bible study in our home and, you guessed it, Mr. godly guy started coming. Then my brother worked with him on his dad’s farm for awhile and they are now really close friends. Then in the last few months we started going to the same home church as him. We are friends but I wouldn’t say we were close friends. I think he respects me as a Christian sister who is trying to seek the Lord. However, he has never pursed me at all.
Is it okay for me to like him so strongly? Every time I try to revaluate my feelings I realize I like him for all the right reasons. When I read through my journals from the last few years I see that he is everything I’ve prayed for in a husband. But he hasn’t pursued me-prehaps never will. How do I grow in friendship with him without expecting more? How do I stay patient and not get grabby? I don’t want to ruin our friendship or distract him from serving the Lord. I am pretty reserved person so I don’t think he has any idea how I feel about him. I am only 18 and he is also quite young so I realize he may not even start considering a relationship with anyone for quite awhile. What is my role as a friend? How much interest can I show without scaring him off? I think that if he is not interested and finds out that I am he will pull way back and that friendship might be awakward. He just doesn’t want any distractions and is so careful to avoid even the apearence of evil and would never want to give me the wrong impression. Anyway, what do you do when you meet and amazing guy and God doesn’t say yes or no but just wait?